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Post by CourageouslyLion SeeksSerenity on Nov 15, 2008 13:05:19 GMT -5
-  Hello, everyone!Jumping in to offer challenge #14: My life has been out of balance lately, so I'll pick the word of the day as: BALANCEDo you have something in your home or life related to the word "BALANCE" that can be cleaned, sorted, eliminated, moved, or donated?
Now's your chance to get back in balance!
 Creative variations of the "Word of the Day" are encouraged.
- Piles of stuff leaning and about to fall?
- Artwork crooked on the wall?
- Tires (tyres) on your car need balancing?
- Feeling off-kilter? Schedule overloaded?
Need family time? Need alone time?
- Clean or repair your scales.
- Are you eating a balanced diet?
- Checkbook out of balance?
Go take a positive action related to the word BALANCE. And have FUN ! - |
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Post by eagle on Nov 16, 2008 9:53:34 GMT -5
Balance. Yoga requires balance. I practiced Yoga for 20 minutes yesterday morning. (The morning you posted this, Lioness.)
I reconciled the business checking, too. But that was the day, before, I think. Still, I'm listing it, because I often put it off too long, and this time I did it all in one sitting from start to finish within a few days of receiving the statement in the mail. That's so much more work than reconciling our personal checking. The accounts balance. Well, that's a good thing. Don't want the business accounts out of balance!
Family life balance: Well, yesterday I finally went to my son's house 5 months after he left. I have chosen not to even step foot on the property since they left town. It is best not to go into it in depth here and now. Son & DIL have not been able to sell the house and it has been sitting empty all this time. A neighbor has been mowing the lawn, but there are a few weeds that need pulling. (I pulled one weed.) The basement flooded at one point, but the water receded. I heard about that from our real estate agent, who was also their real estate agent. Mold has grown in the freezer (don't know why that happened, other than perhaps the power was off temporarily & it got warm. That's probably what happened.) The basement floors, which are covered in linoleum tile, do need mopping and the basement bathroom really needs a good cleaning, but the light doesn't come on. There was a trick to the light & I'll have to ask son to refresh my memory on that, or it just may need a new bulb. There is one broken window (just a crack, not anything to let the elements into the house) and a clip holding the glass in the front storm door is missing. So a bit of work is needed. I had offered to help make sure these kinds of things got done in their absence, but son said 'No' and said he had changed all the locks. Actually, he had only changed the front door lock and I could have come in at any time and done this maintenance work, but since he said 'No' I stayed away. DIL told me she would appreciate it if I'd come over and water the plants, and could have any vegetables still growing, but said they wouldn't leave a water hose, so I just simply stayed away. Why punish myself with feelings better left unfelt?
Why this change? Son called a few days ago and asked if I'd be willing to manage the property as a rental. No apologies for his behavior 5 and 6 months ago and I chose not to bring it up. He offered to pay me as a rental property manager, so I choose to approach it as a business deal and let the family stuff work its way out in the time that is needed. So that's a shift in our relationship and a move toward balance, I think.
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Post by saffron on Nov 16, 2008 15:05:27 GMT -5
eagle, good to hear about the progress in your relationship with DSon.
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Post by CourageouslyLion SeeksSerenity on Nov 18, 2008 3:19:26 GMT -5
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Hugs to Eagle-Earlene. It's sometimes sad when a relationship shifts from true love to just being cordial. Or when a relationship shifts from deep friendship to just being acquaintances. It's always tough. One can especially feel "out of balance" if one wishes things had gone otherwise.
It's sad that your grown son chose to behave so horribly and then distance himself from you emotionally -- as well as moving so far away.
However, you are being a realist by accepting that you can currently approach the matter of caring for his nearby vacant home as a "business relationship".
You, Earlene, seem to be handling this current situation with realism, and some grace and balance -- and serenity.
Hugs,
Lioness
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Post by CourageouslyLion SeeksSerenity on Nov 18, 2008 3:34:58 GMT -5
- Here's a challenge I actually did on the day that the thread was started. I just didn't get around to replying to this thread until now. My life has been out of balance. I've been a dancer all my life. However, during the past few years, I've rarely danced. I have focused more on my recovery from housekeeping squalor, and my recovery from financial chaos. Being a member here, as well as doing my 12-Step work in other programs -- that has been very good for me. Very "steadying". Learning new skills and responsibilities. However, I've come to realize that dancing is a part of my spirit ... a part I have been neglecting. It's how I can express myself very deeply. I realized that I have been depriving myself of spiritual expression, physical exercise, joy, and fun. That was out of balance. So .... after starting this thread, I went to a weekend dance/arts festival. And I danced. I feel a renewed sense of aliveness and hope .... and emotional-spiritual balance. And FUN!
Coincidentally, something came up regarding "life balance" when I was doing "number challenge #17" on this thread:
takeonestepatatime.proboards80.com/index.cgi?action=display&board=action&thread=2735
Fascinating.
The next day, I began to deal with a large pile of stuff that was leaning way out of balance ... about to fall over.
I haven't dealt with all of it. But I've made a start. And it's not falling over anymore.
I was about to stand on a chair to reach for the top shelf, but realized I wouldn't be able to keep my balance. Therefore, I decided to be safe and instead used my sturdy stepladder.
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Post by Arid on Nov 20, 2008 21:44:48 GMT -5
OK; I'm playing "catch up." I attended my weekly Tai Chi class, and as usual, we worked on exercises and forms that improve one's balance.
Arid
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