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Post by momof3boys on Mar 5, 2017 15:42:48 GMT -5
I have to or should do dishes and laundry and then I have to cook supper. When will I get over this resistance? Why do I drag my feet so much. I decided to fold 3 articles of clothing. I folded 1 pair of underwear, put away 1 sock and folded and put away a kitchen towel. I also put 2 cans into recycling. I can do laundry 3 by 3 and dishes 5 by 5. Why must I come up with these games to play? Why can't I just do what I have to do? I'm a grown up! I'm not a child but yet I need to use these coping mechanisms.
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Post by momof3boys on Mar 5, 2017 16:22:00 GMT -5
I am working on dishes in laundry in any multiple or combination of 3's and 5's. Don't ask me why? I don't completely understand my reasoning behind this. I am making progress.
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Post by def6 on Mar 5, 2017 22:31:14 GMT -5
Hello momof3boys, I think you are trying to make your tasks fun. It makes the work go by faster. I've tried it all personally...As far as dishes, sometimes having the sink sparkling and putting the dishes into a long soak with soapy, hot water with a dish soap that I love like Method does the trick for me. Also, I don't let dishes sit in my sink or on my surfaces. If I see them, I deal with them right away. And Laundry, keeping up with the laundry by doing 1 load per day is the way I am handling it right now. Sometimes when I'm tired of putting clothing away or when clothes are harder to put away ...I'll change up and do a towel load and give myself a break that way. Sometimes I try to do my work really fast so I can have the rest of the day to do what I want. Any method that gets the job done is fine. |
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Post by wind on Mar 5, 2017 23:15:14 GMT -5
Re: dishes...my universe changed for the better when I became a strict (but kind) enforcer of "wash your plate/bowl as soon as you're done." My daughter was doing this when she was 3, using a stool. Night and day difference from when we used to "house" dishes to be washed "later" in the sink. I also put the drying rack in the right side of the sink so I literally CAN'T end up with a sink completely full of dishes to be washed on both sides. Re: laundry...I have the best luck washing small (sometimes VERY small) loads, so it's easy to fold and put away. I also like washing laundry "by person" (even if it takes doing it on cold to reduce bleeding) to make sorting and putting away easier. I have demand resistance issues, too, and I'm not sure why. It's probably the nature of unpaid, undervalued work in part. I used to get extremely resentful over dishes, in particular. Something about washing everybody's dishes just made me seethe in anger some days. Some of it is just that I really don't like doing housework. But only in my own house! I've done this all a squillion times and I'm just over it. It's also lonely, solitary work, and I thrive in jobs where I'm working WITH other people. And for money.  . |
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Post by angela on Mar 6, 2017 0:44:03 GMT -5
momof3boys, you have a lot of responsibility and not much help most of the time. I can just share that when I feel resistance the most, it's because I'm being made physically uncomfortable by the task, or think that things are not fair. Those are my triggers anyway when it comes to creating resistance in me regarding those basic chores. Right now, if doing things in those increments is helping, well, keep at it. With basic chores, we will always be starting over so doing things in sizes we can handle is a good way to deal with that fact.
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Post by momof3boys on Mar 6, 2017 13:40:20 GMT -5
Today is okay. Not much done today. I've decided today's number is 10 unless that feels like too much then I will lower it.
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Post by hiding on Mar 7, 2017 0:43:55 GMT -5
I don't see anything wrong with making up games to make doing chores easier. If that helps you, why not?
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