Blue
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Post by Blue on Dec 10, 2008 4:31:33 GMT -5
I am going to take all my clutter and move into the basement, I spent 4 hrs down there piling stuff up to make room for all my upstairs clutter. From the basement I want to go through as many bags/boxes as I can and make 4 piles: garbage, giveaway, sell, and keep. I've been trying to work on the upstairs a bit at a time but Christmas is coming and I need to put up a tree and have space for my kids to play. Plus, I want to be able to use the kitchen table and chairs that I have. I am doing my best to stay away from stores whether they are regular stores or 2nd hand. I haven't been looking at the classifieds on kijiji obsessively like I was a few weeks ago. I haven't quit checking earthcycle, but I have been asking myself "Do I really need this?""Can my kids do without these items?" and I say to myself "There is someone out there who needs that more than we do." I have decided to limit my collecting until I have gone through what I have( who knows what down there). I do know I have had a mouse problem for the last year and I'm sure there will be droppings everywhere (ICKY). I have bought some Christmas gifts(not many). I am going to be strong, I have to be because for me when there is an empty spot I fill it up again and I want my upstairs living space to be uncluttered and spacious for my family, plus I want us to be able to use the basement. 1050 sq feet upstairs and down and so much of it (probably 1500 sq feet) is full of stuff ). I have a lot of work ahead of me; I have confided in my son's daycare director. She has offered to help when I am ready to let her in my house; and she said she can get some ladies from her church to help as well. One of the other staff members at the daycare also offered to help. I'm not quite ready to let them come over and see my clutter, but as soon as I as finished moving stuff to the basement I will be ready. This is a very hard thing to do and I know it will be very emotional for me but its time I take the bull by the horns and overcome my fear of letting go and letting people help me. I also realize that it's my mess and I need to do something about it whether I have help or not. My Bf has been trying so hard to understand and has not been complaining. He is also willing to help, he has said that if I want to get rid of stuff and put it in his truck he will drop it of at goodwill or in a dumpster at his work if its not usable.
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Post by gottaproblem on Dec 10, 2008 16:04:21 GMT -5
Blue: You are so lucky to have a basement to move the clutter down into. Then you will have a lovely place upstairs for your family christmas. Good job
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Post by notsomessyshell on Dec 10, 2008 16:45:44 GMT -5
Yay for helpers! Keep us posted on your progress. I am doing the do I really need this coversation with myself, too. So far it is working. I should add your comment that there is someone who needs it much more than I do. I think I will use that when I am cleaning stuff out of the doom room.
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Post by CourageouslyLion SeeksSerenity on Dec 11, 2008 3:53:55 GMT -5
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Post by dayeanu on Dec 12, 2008 14:21:59 GMT -5
Blue, how is it going? I am proud that you want to make things nice for your kids to have a nice Christmas.
If you need motivation, read "Changing the locks: my hoarder ex." I read it last night, and I am newly motivated.
One thing that helps me is to decide on what to keep, besides asking myself if I need it, is to imagine really poor people being blessed by my stuff. I had a neat experience that I've written about here, before. I donated some of my grandson's baby clothes to charity, after keeping them and moving them for years. One bitterly cold winter day I was at the doctor's office, and saw a very poor-looking young girl with her little sick baby, and he was wearing my grandson's toasty-warm, like-new snow suit. It put getting rid of my clutter in a whole new perspective.
After reading "Changing the locks" last night, I just want to set it all free and bless people with my excesses.
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Post by clearwaterush on Dec 12, 2008 21:15:05 GMT -5
Wow! I'm interested in if you are letting the people help you! For some reason, I cannot recieve help from people. I admire you for concidering it and letting them come in. The little voice in my head says I have to do it myself...I wish you the very best of luck in your declutting and letting people help you in your time of need!
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Blue
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Post by Blue on Dec 13, 2008 0:54:52 GMT -5
I forgot to add that not only is it affecting my family, its taking a toll on my school work. I want to do well and succeed as a social worker and in order to do that I need to be able to give it my all not be distracted by the mess.
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