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Post by lennon on Jan 26, 2024 23:22:25 GMT -5
Have a productive weekend!
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Post by lennon on Jan 26, 2024 23:27:24 GMT -5
Things I will do this weekend
1. Go through my DVR 2. Put clothes away 3. Sweep floor to a pile 4. Pick up papers in the pile 5. Take out trash 6. Wash dishes 7. Go through my e-mail
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Post by desposito on Jan 27, 2024 7:56:35 GMT -5
Good morning!
And thanks lennon, for starting off the weekend.
I slept well, this is the first night in a very long time that I fell asleep quickly AND fell back to sleep quickly when I needed to get up for the bathroom, usually one or the other (or both) don't happen.
The high will be 40 degrees today, so I will finish the sweeping of the 1st floor porch. More rain is predicted but not til the second half of the day.
Have a good weekend, everyone!
Diane
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Post by desposito on Jan 27, 2024 10:52:45 GMT -5
TO DO:
Call decluttering client 10 minutes straightening up food pantry Restock water in fridge Delete 10 hard emails
Diane
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Post by danny15 on Jan 27, 2024 11:07:37 GMT -5
Just read yesterday's (Friday) posts. BIG  on all the work that was accomplished!! 
bree so happy to read that your furnace was fixed on the day you needed it and that it was simple and covered by warranty.
TwinkleToes HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!
    
I was out all day yesterday, tiring, but it was a nice day overall. The temps totally smashed records here by 10 degrees. The international airports nearby registered 80 degrees, the first time ever in January.
My friend took me to see her new office space, much larger than what I had imagined. She said she would love a 6 or 7 foot tree (I suggested and offered) or maybe a couple smaller pieces. And most definitely not real plants. Glad I checked first. In fact, I looked at some artificials online last night and will let her choose what she likes. I was so wiped out and sore that I was in bed by 7:30 and slept all night.
I need a quiet day to rest and plan how to wrap up the month of January.
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Post by desposito on Jan 27, 2024 11:39:54 GMT -5
Good morning danny!
Yes, good thing you checked with your friend about the plant! It would be a form of torture for me to have to sit in a room with a fake plant. I would rather have no plant than a fake one--the ultimate statement of plastic replacing nature, which is why our earth is in the shape it's in. But I get it, people are different. And in an office environment if no one really cared for the plant, it would start looking unattractive and that's not the impression you want in your office. All you have to do with a fake plant is dust it occasionally!
Next:
Start load of laundry Make some book notes Balance checkbook and pay 2 bills Delete 10 hard emails
Diane
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Post by danny15 on Jan 27, 2024 12:15:19 GMT -5
I much prefer real to fake plants also, Diane. Not that I will see it often, but it would bother me if I gave a real plant as a gift and it was badly neglected. It might be kind of like giving someone a real pet for Christmas. Some people don't want the responsibility of caring for a living thing. I get excited about something and assume others will like what I like. Definitely should not make assumptions.
I will try and find an artificial plant with silk leaves and she if she likes that. Much more realistic than plastic.
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Post by desposito on Jan 27, 2024 12:53:30 GMT -5
Ohblondie, I read your post about the plant store you looked into yesterday--I guess it's another kind of business that is affected by online sales, it must be hard to make enough money just selling plants and maybe flowers? Even the grocery stores sell some plants now, so not much reason for people to go to a specialty store. It's why book stores are so rare now too. And I'm someone who buys 90% or more of my needs/wants online, and I appreciate the convenience since I don't drive. But how I miss browsing through a book store!
Next:
Feed dog and take her out 10 minutes on first floor 10 minutes refilling animal food containers Move laundry to dryer
Diane
Edited to add: When you described the sad looking plants I wanted to tell the shop owner to give them to me instead of just letting them die off! Just what I need!
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Post by danny15 on Jan 27, 2024 13:18:48 GMT -5
My back is very sore so work is a few minutes up, double the time down. Still working on kitchen things. Set aside some breakables for donations. Part of me wants to take them to the dump; donating them means wrapping each item so they don't break. That's more work and even thinking about it makes me want to set the things aside and decide later. But that will mean the stuff just gets shuffled and continues to sit. Decisions are hard today.
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Post by bree on Jan 27, 2024 13:35:00 GMT -5
I am guilty of fake plants. I agree it is the ultimate in a plastic society but... I have one in my office that looks pretty and I can't kill it!
Yesterday I pretty much did as planned for the night - store/puppy pick up/couch time.
I was productive at work. Making the list with times helped m.
Today I luxuriated in getting up with no place to rush to. Puppy is not a morning dog, such a blessing, and she is still tired from her daycare day, so the post-daycare day is generally easy on me. Girlcat is the early riser!
Bird came back last night! A little blessing.
I decided to start some deep cleaning and I started with my linen closet as i don't really have emotional attachments to anything in there. Purged a lot of stuff - did not get to linens yet. Feeling good about that purge!
I really want to have a neat orderly home without a bunch of stuff tucked away bursting at seams. I have been seeing beautiful bedrooms on facebook decorating sites. mine is a storage unit for stuff I don't quite know what to do with -- well more accurately stuff I should prob donate or recycle or trash but not there yet ...my house is small and unforgiving though.
I have a dinner tonight with a small group including difficult person. i am still detoxing from last week so i need to just get through it. this person has many hard-to-handle traits. I have been reading up on how to deal with people with NPD which is my unofficial diagnosis and it seems to be just go along with them as they are so difficult it is not worth confronting. So I will try to do that!
I do have sadness that what should be a fun relaxing night is like walking on eggshells due to this person.
I need to run a take a shower, run a few errands, walk puppy, head to dinner.
have a good day all
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Post by desposito on Jan 27, 2024 14:19:05 GMT -5
I can't kill it
There's an interesting question bree, if I had a fake plant, which I would not want to be around me, would I anthropomorphize like I so often do, and feel bad throwing it away?
I think the last four years have had a drastic effect on my mindset, and it seems like it's one thing after another. All the trauma of my move during Covid times, and my sister's death--and just when things seemed to be evening out, now facing the dog's death really soon, I just have been in a mood for a long time of seeing the bad things. It's sort of existential--I'm also seeing myself decline and facing the fact that my time on earth to do anything good is limited. And unlike most of you guys, I do not believe there is a god and an afterlife and Karma and everything else that lets people deal with the pain of life because they believe there's some kind of divine purpose to the way life is, and that there's some kind of reward after you die. I know there is nothing after you die, we are all creatures that evolved on this earth, and as luck would have it, we evolved into a selfish, short-sighted society that puts money and profits before everything else. This is just human nature, it can't be changed, it's been this way for the entire years of civilization and anyone who thinks human nature is going to change is kidding themselves. Just when we get complacent and think we're so advanced and enlightened, look how quickly society can turn back into a "survival of the fittest"--"or survival of the meanest" mentality, which is happening right now in this country.
When I'm in a mood like this, which is a lot of the time, everything reminds me of something negative. I see a plastic plant, I am reminded that people are destroying nature everywhere because they can't stand a leaf sitting on their manicured lawn. I see a cute wildlife video that shows how intelligent and aware an animal is, and I think about how cruel people are to these sentient creatures, just because they can be. Obviously I'm not like this all the time, because I do believe that the only way to deal with life is to do what you feel is the right thing, to be as ethical as it's possible to be, and that lets you be happy with yourself despite what other people do. And I do get a lot of enjoyment out of simple things, but the only way I can do that is to purposely close out the bad stuff from my mind when it gets to be too much. I guess everyone is like that to a certain extent, except for the people who have no ethical side, for them there are no sad things in life except whatever gets in the way of their ambitions.
But for the sensitive people, and I know there are many of you on this site, I think sometimes it's necessary to purposely direct our minds to the good things so we're not overwhelmed with the bad, and that's what I'm trying hard to do.
Wow, all this from the discussion of buying a plastic plant!
And now that I've probably depressed everyone reading, I will apologize and go and eat lunch!
Diane
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Post by desposito on Jan 27, 2024 15:46:48 GMT -5
Okay, I had a relaxing lunch and watched another episode of Astrid, I'm loving this series. There are 3 seasons of 8 or 9 shows each, so there will be plenty for me to watch. The woman who plays the autistic adult is an incredible actor--I saw a little bit of an interview with her (which I didn't understand because it was in French) and she looks like a different person when she's not in character.
Next:
Sweep 1st floor back porch with rubber broom Clean 1st floor toilet and sink Get dry laundry from basement
Diane
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Post by danny15 on Jan 27, 2024 15:57:09 GMT -5
Diane, thank you for giving us your thoughts about life. I am always very interested in the different perspectives people have and their reasoning.
It's hard not to see the bad things especially as it affects the creatures/nature/vulnerable people who so often bear the brunt of things while the selfish grab up more and more of any and all resources.
You wrote ~ I'm also seeing myself decline and facing the fact that my time on earth to do anything good is limited. I definitely feel that too. But please rest assured ~ every single day you do a LOT of good on this earth and so many animals and people and nature benefit from your kindness and love. Your very sweet old dog, your beloved inside birds and plants (all those baby spider plants!  ), the outside birds and bunnies, the neighbor's dogs, the natural plants in your yard, all the dogs you ever walked, all the shelter cats you so lovingly tended, the dear friends you help with phone calls and online ordering and lifting their spirits, all the military people who are very comforted by the cards you so lovingly send ~ wow!! Kindness and love and nurturing pour out of you! And how blessed (I have to put it that way) everyone on this board is from your posts and encouragement and participation and gentle challenges! I admire you so much and want to be more like you!
I don't think it matters too much what people think about the afterlife. Every one of us will be right or wrong or somewhere in between and we'll know soon enough. I think what matters is how well we try to live right now.
It is so easy to get extremely down about all the ugliness in the world. You are right, we need to purposely direct our minds towards the good because there is much good in the world if we look for it. I have a strong tendency to get very depressed but looking at one of my sweet kitties curled into a cozy blanket warms my heart. I keep copies of "Desiderata" all around where I can see and read it several times a day. Very soothing.
 
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Post by desposito on Jan 27, 2024 17:55:38 GMT -5
Danny, what a sweet post you made, thank you for the things you said.
Maybe some of what I'm feeling now is due to my age and life experience, rather than how I felt at age 20 where I still thought that if I just tried hard enough, I could change people's minds about how they treated animals or the earth--that if enough people tried hard enough, all humans would see the light and change and become kind. But I know a large part is the events of the last 4 years, starting in the fall of 2019 when both my old cats died within a month of each other, followed by uprooting my life with a quick and traumatic move away from the place I thought I'd never leave, then my sister dying way before I thought she would. Now I know I have to go through another euthanasia soon, which to me is the hardest thing anyone can ever have to do in life. But I'll get through it, as I have all the others, and in the meantime I'll try to keep focusing on the good things because there really isn't anything else I can do.
I did sweep the downstairs porch, both porches still look very dirty but at least they don't have chunks of seed hulls all over them. I got the laundry and folded it and put it away, and I spent some time reading with the dog. I have so much more cleaning to do in the bathrooms, especially since the handyman will be working on the tub downstairs, which is still full of water bottles. 
I was not happy today when I went into the basement and found a puddle in the middle of the floor. We did have a lot of rain and I'm guessing it came in from the front of the house rather than the side where the wall was sealed from outside, but because I didn't go down there for several days after the cold snap, I don't know where it came in. Another thing to worry about.
It's time to start thinking about dinner now, maybe after I will have a little energy left to sweep or vacuum a floor before bedtime.
Diane
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Post by catcats on Jan 27, 2024 19:35:27 GMT -5
Diane, I agree with danny15 about how kind you really are. I think it is amazing how you send cards to the military people and never could anyone doubt how sweet you are to your precious old dog. You have already made a difference in this old world of ours ! (There are other examples I could give as well, but danny15 has covered most of them so well.)  catcats |
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