meg3heart
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Joined: February 2024
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Post by meg3heart on Feb 7, 2024 4:33:05 GMT -5
New here. Pretty apprehensive. Reading the guide lines of squalor I'm probably facing level 2. Bordering level 3. I don't know what created this. My adult daughter lived this way but I was unaffected until she moved back home and we never quite packed up her belongings, they took over the entry way to the house and dinning area. But I don't blame that. I lost a boyfriend in 2021 to accidental death and then my brother to cancer in 2023. Watching his slow decline in hospital was hard and that seems to be when I lost control. I am exhausted always. Can't get rid of the accumulated rubbish because it's expensive. I'm also in dire straights financially, facing home reposession. Meanwhile the house is also falling apart, water leaks and the floor has given way in various locations (split level house so there's a half story drop where the holes in the floor are. It all feels like I'm making excuses but I don't know where to start anymore. I patch the floor but I'm no skilled carpenter. I'm 42 and I feel like I'm just hanging on hoping it all doesn't fall apart. But it already is. Lost my job. No friends no partner. I try , make trips with loads to the rubbish dump but it just builds.. No need to respond. Just needed to say this out loud (in a sense) Oh also diagnosed bipolar 1, and have alcohol abuse issues dating back a few years. Not sure that matters.
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Post by def6 on Feb 7, 2024 8:56:26 GMT -5
Welcome meg3heart I'm sorry about all of the troubles you are having. I won't respond to the details of your post , but I want to say there is hope for you and your daughter. Keep posting with us. I truly believe change is possible.
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Post by Arid on Feb 7, 2024 20:59:30 GMT -5
Hello, meg3heart!
I agree with everything that def6 wrote.
Posting here is a good first step!
Welcome to the board.
Arid
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Post by Nael_C on Feb 9, 2024 13:18:45 GMT -5
Hello and welcome to the forum meg3heart! You have come to the right place. This board has helped so many people, among them myself. It feels like our safe space, where people are undestanding, non judgmental and support each other in everyday struggles. I'm sorry for the loss of your boyfriend. Give yourself time to heal, while taking baby steps to build sustainable and healthy habits. Hang in there! Keep coming to the forum and post your steps, even if you consider them minor. Slow wins the race!
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Post by joyinvirginia on Feb 12, 2024 22:01:13 GMT -5
Welcome Meg. So sorry about your losses, and difficulties. I hope you can find some inspiration here. Sending you inspiration and support. Years ago I was in despair; medication and therapy helped me dig my way out.
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Post by maryinaz on Feb 14, 2024 20:43:02 GMT -5
Welcome to the board! This is a great and friendly place. So sorry for your loss. I love making my lists and checking them off here and seeing others progress; helps keep me going!
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Post by Ally on Feb 16, 2024 14:27:16 GMT -5
meg3heart, They say that trauma often leads to clutter problems. You are at the right place. Come back and post again!
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Post by TwinkleToes on Feb 17, 2024 8:37:22 GMT -5
Hi, meg3heart I am sorry for all that you are facing and my heart goes out to you about the losses you have endured. This is a welcoming, kind, compassionate space. Feel free to join us in the Work a Long threads. We cheer each other on as we work along. We just do what we can, when we can. No judgement. Only care and support,
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Post by ClimbingPyramids on Feb 18, 2024 17:25:43 GMT -5
Please don't be apprehensive, meg3heart. You have found a tremendously supportive, loving community here. Your final line really struck me. I have a BiPolar II Disorder, Depressive Type. I can assure you it matters.
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