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Post by italianlady on Jul 5, 2015 22:19:50 GMT -5
Arid, thanks for the story. It's a very good teaching story. That is, I learned from it. Italianlady, I hadn't thought of tossing it. The next time the unwanted gift problem comes up, I will see if I can force myself to throw it away. I have to say that it will be difficult for me and I can't promise I will do it. However, if I can, it will be a good exercise in strengthening my de-cluttering muscles. I know people have all sorts of different reasons for not being able to throw stuff out, and I was wondering what yours is. Do you worry that you will need it one day, or do you feel you are being wasteful if you toss it, or do you feel that objects in a way have feelings and you feel sorry for it if you throw it out, or is there another reason? I'm always interested in the reasoning behind why people can't throw things away. My mother would never throw anything away and she would get to the point of threats to be kicked out of her apartment because of the mess, so whenever she was in the hospital I'd go over and go through everything and throw things away. She would get furious but she would get over it always. There was still a ton of stuff there when she died and I had to throw away more than what I kept. I finally had the time and energy to go through the last of her stuff I had in boxes put away recently and I kept a few things, but most of it was just junk. So, because I grew up in piles of stuff that was "important" to her and I never understood it and she would never even answer me when I'd ask her why, I'm interested in why others do it. Maybe I can figure out why she did it when I read other people's answers. I'm not judging at all by asking, I'm just curious.
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Post by hiding on Jul 6, 2015 23:36:25 GMT -5
I will answer you. It probably will be good for me too, examining my thoughts on the subject. I am going to have to think about it a bit. I do know it is not one simple answer.
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Post by hiding on Jul 23, 2015 0:37:56 GMT -5
I am still struggling with why some things are so hard to throw away and others aren't. Gifts. Throw them away? It depends. If the "gift" is a cheapo freebee for re-subscribing to a magazine, the yep, I can toss it. If the gift is from my friend so is always so thoughtful in picking out gifts for me, then no, I can't throw those away. 99% of what she gives me I like a lot. It's that 1% I struggle with.
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