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Post by 123jake on Feb 26, 2009 0:15:51 GMT -5
Hi *looking around to make sure no one I know saw me walk through the door* Ummm...this is my first post. I'm so embarassed by my problem. I can't let anyone in my place. Even when I start to get it under control, it promptly becomes a mess again. I'm sitting here with 11 stinky bags of garbage sitting beside me. I took the first step, gathered all the trash into bags and just left it there for days. Why can't I just take it out to the garbage like a normal person? I mean, it stinks!!! Why do I allow myself to live like this? Why can't I keep my place clean and tidy? What is my problem? ?!!!!!!!!! The dishes are so disgusting and I can't seem to do them before the food gets mouldy and dried on. One day, there was a rat in my place and I just lay in my bed cringing, listening to it eat the garbage and rotting food. My closest neighbour stumbled on my mess and called it a tip. She can't understand what my problem is either. I'm scared to look under my bed. Or my fridge. Or my stove. Or in my closet. Or in my oven. When I open my food cupboards, stuff comes falling out on my head. Same with the dish cupboards. Don't even ask about what's in my fridge. Nothing edible, that's for sure. I need help. Thanks, Sharon
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Post by Meme on Feb 26, 2009 0:55:50 GMT -5
welcome to us - I do not have an answer as to why you and or me or any of us sometimes seem to fall apart and things run away and suddenly we are in a mess that feels beyond repair -- so the best thing I can say is
stop looking for answers and stop looking backwards and just start today to move forward- sadly the answers do not clean our house for us and some times keep us at the bottom-try one bag at a time-- if you can dump one bag- then there will be 10 left but focus on the one bag you let go......keep doing this as fast or slow as you can- keep focus on what you have done rather than what you have not- rooting for you and keep coming here some times a boost from a friend is a help- starter-- hugs for you
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Post by valor on Feb 26, 2009 4:22:39 GMT -5
Welcome Papaswife who posted above me---great post---I spend too much time looking back and looking for answers as to how things got so difficult. She is right, the answers don't always get the work done, and sometimes the answers can keep us low. You are among friends here
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pigstyblogger
New Member
Fighting my own little war on grime, one insurgent at a time.
Joined: February 2009
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Post by pigstyblogger on Feb 26, 2009 4:37:13 GMT -5
You are not, by any means, alone in this. As you probably read in my intro post, I went a whole week of overflowing plumbing nightmare the first time I posted over at Squalor survivors.
Take short steps. Before you learned to run, you learned to walk. Before you learned to walk, you learned to crawl. You need to learn to crawl, so take out a bag of trash. Leave the others where they are. Take little steps, so that you get used to doing that, so that the terror isn't so scary anymore. Of course, if you like the feeling of taking that first bag of trash out... why not take another two out? Before too long, that 11 will be zero, and it'll be time to fill more bags.
And we all have different reasons for why we are squalorous. It's a noble goal to learn why. But just like papaswife said above, reflecting on the past, figuring out why you are the way you are, won't clean up for you. You might discover something about yourself, but you'll still need to learn or re-learn how to clean up. And for that you need baby steps. One or two bags of trash at a time.
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Post by AnnieOkie on Feb 26, 2009 10:21:07 GMT -5
I'm so glad you are here with us! I agree with the others.....take that first bag out. The others will follow, I promise. We are here to cheer you on! Another thing that has helped many of us is to choose one area of your living space (your bed, your bedside table, your chosen seat in your living room, your computer area, etc.)...just one small space to be your oasis and begin there. Get it to a manageable level and work to maintain just that one area. It will be a place you can return to and rest while you are working. I would also suggest either a trap or poison for the rodent problem (getting the trash out will help here also). This might help you be able to open doors, etc. without the fear you are experiencing. You can do this! So many of us have been where you are and we are overcoming!
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Post by eatingbonbons on Feb 26, 2009 12:05:50 GMT -5
Welcome, Sharon!
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Post by lorrainemondo on Feb 26, 2009 14:19:51 GMT -5
*looking around to make sure no one I know saw me walk through the door* Sharon! You are hilarious with that first line. And a very good writer. You will go far. Yes, I agree with the others that it doesn't matter so much "why" at the start. You want to start moving with the physical cleaning. I join with Annie and say to you: take out one bag of garbage when you read this if you haven't' already. And then come back and post about your triumph. We are here to cheer. Good luck and post again soon telling what you were able to do as a beginner's step. Lorraine
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Post by messymimi on Feb 26, 2009 20:55:17 GMT -5
Welcome, Sharon !
Motivation follows action. Doing one thing, as others have suggested, starts the ball rolling.
If you ever figure out the why of this problem, patent a solution and share it with us.
Meanwhile, motivation follows action.
It's good to have you here.
messymimi
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Post by crazycatlady on Feb 26, 2009 23:13:06 GMT -5
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Post by gettingsomewhere on Mar 2, 2009 19:55:26 GMT -5
welcome, and well done on the progress you have already made.
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