kerplush
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Post by kerplush on Apr 26, 2009 10:36:29 GMT -5
I was doing a quick search on "severe clutter" and found Squalor Survivors site this morning...(we are level 2).
Believe me I have read and tried many many things - but this site is what reality is for me!
Brief 2 year history:
part1...decided to drive home for lunch (never do that ..just had a weird pull to do so) - almost home and my brother calls me to tell me he was hit by a small delivery truck...while driving on a nearby street. Not badly hurt - but gets scanned for injuries..they find a giant tumor on his spine..he is operated on and I take him in..(he was living on a house boat).
part2.. DH is "DH" no more and I finally file and get divorced (now single mother to 2 + recovering brother). The house is at least more peaceful.
part3..4 mos. later come home from work, pollice show up.. My brother has been killed in another freak car accident 1 year and 1 month after first accident.
part4..No one shows up to help sort through brother's paperwork, stuff..etc...Stepmom lasts one hour helping (I'm just a little angry..).
part5..Laid off from job 12/15/2008
My house should be perfectly clean by now having been out of work all this time... right?..but no..it is actually worse.. Thankfully I found out that my asthma medication Singulair was causing depression (2 weeks off and feeling much better..).
Thankfully I have just found your site and know that I am not alone. We have an ADD household - so lots of timers to use to test the "timed cleaning sessions." It works for school prep..should work for this. May brave some photos to start tracking progress...
Best wishes to everyone and thank you so much for posting your stories!
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Post by gettingsomewhere on Apr 26, 2009 10:49:11 GMT -5
my heart feels for you kerplush. welcome and i hope you can get from this site what i have received over the last couple of months. constant motivation, hope, inspiration, acceptance and friendship to name just a few of the many benefits i have found. we too are an add household, with a dash of depression, a splatter of other various illnesses and disorders and way too much stuff. i look forward to getting to know you and wish you well.
congratulations on joining us, and big hugs to you. you are amongst friends now.
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kerplush
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Post by kerplush on Apr 26, 2009 12:17:39 GMT -5
Thank you for your kind words. Just took my house photos and feel a little ill.. baby steps...
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Post by crazycatlady on Apr 26, 2009 12:22:15 GMT -5
ADD here, too...it really does add to the chaos. I'm so sorry for the major stressors that you have been facing. And so very sorry for the loss of your brother. How absolutely awful. 
I am glad that you found us. Jump right in...it has been lifechanging for me and my family. 
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Post by notsomessyshell on Apr 26, 2009 17:48:58 GMT -5
So sorry for your loss.  Welcome. I have been off work for 5 months. You would think my house would be much cleaner, too. NOPE. You are not alone. I look forward to seeing you here and hearing your triumphs, cheering you on, and commiserating when things are not the best. |
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Blackswan
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Post by Blackswan on Apr 27, 2009 0:36:17 GMT -5
I am also in an ADD household.  Its hard. I am glad you have found your way here. |
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Post by def6 on Apr 27, 2009 8:25:07 GMT -5
My heart goes out to you! But great to see you here. Hearts do mend and life IS worth living even though loved ones pass on and people that we devote our lives just go away. Succeses seem even sweeter when you have to fight for them. Great job on finding out that that medication was causing your depression.(I'd much rather have the sneezes myself.) Best of Luck with the week ahead.
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Post by messymimi on Apr 27, 2009 12:04:12 GMT -5
Welcome, Kerplush !
Please accept my condolences for the loss of your brother. He was blessed to have you.
Losing a marriage and a loved one in such a short time is enough to send even a nonADD person into a tailspin; this is true no matter how bad the marriage was. So remember that you are trying to unbury yourself while recovering from major emotional traumas as well, and be kind to yourself.
It's good to have you here.
messymimi
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Post by creativechaos on Apr 27, 2009 16:25:53 GMT -5
welcome, kerplush; you have been through a lot of loss, especially of your brother, and my heart goes out to you. a.d.d. here too; the timer is a friend, just in shorter bursts! (5 to 10 min.) welcome to your family of choice! we're here for you. |
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Post by charis on Apr 28, 2009 20:13:24 GMT -5
Welcome to you Kerplush! My sympathies on the loss of your DB |
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Post by Meme on Apr 28, 2009 22:19:18 GMT -5
welcome and I am sorry about your dear brother and I was blessed to read that you were willinig to help him in a time need- and sadly a lot of suppose to help helpers turn to let us down-
I know that you have a positive out look and you are willing to do your best
agaiin welcome
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Post by skatters on Apr 29, 2009 15:53:42 GMT -5
Welcome Kerplush! Sorry to hear about all the loss in your life. That certainly plays a part in our squalor, doesn't it? Pull up a seat, looks like you found your new home. |
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kerplush
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Post by kerplush on Apr 29, 2009 21:38:30 GMT -5
Thank you all for your kind thoughts and messages - truly an amazing "community."
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