topeka
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Post by topeka on May 7, 2009 16:10:07 GMT -5
My place is a wreck. I live in an apartment, have for several years, and up until three years ago, I would do my housecleaning on a monthly to quarterly basis... that's about how long I could go before I couldn't stand it.
As of today, it has been almost three years since I've done any real cleaning, dumping of trash, washing of dishes, etc.
I'm a mess, and my apartment is worse, and the love of my life is coming at the end of the month to help pull me out. I must do a lot before then, as I want her to not turn around and leave. She's been here once before (she lives way far away) and helped me a lot then, but I back-slid almost as soon as she left.
When I'm with her, I seem able to face anything, but without her, getting out of bed is a chore.
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Blackswan
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Post by Blackswan on May 7, 2009 17:06:17 GMT -5
Hi Topeka  Welcome to the board. It sounds like you are very happy and have more energy when the love of your life is around, but maybe you are very depressed when she isn't.  I hope that you are able to start to get a good chunk of the work done. Chat works wonders, and so does Listzilla. I am rooting for you! |
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Post by Arid on May 7, 2009 19:55:25 GMT -5
OK; in order to better insure that "the love of your life" will be happy with you, start taking out the obvious garbage/trash before she gets there! Wash a dish or two each day. When I don't know where to start, I say to myself, "When all else fails, DO THE OBVIOUS!!!" I pretend that I am a visitor who has arrived at my home. What is the first thing that a visitor might notice (and not like!  !!)? Then, that is the thing that I tackle first--even if I can do only a little part of that job at first. Stay with us; this is a great place for people in your predicament. One of our most important mantras here is: Motivation FOLLOWS action!" That means that you don't have to wait until you are "in the mood to clean," or "feel inspired," or "feel motivated," or "have enough energy," or "have a well-thought-out plan of action,"-- none of that!!! It means that WHEN you do one teeny, tiny thing, it WILL lead to your doing bigger and better things! (e. g. Picking up ONE piece of trash off the floor is the FIRST STEP towards being able to vacuum that floor sooner or later. We are glad to have you join us; welcome to the board! Arid |
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Post by crazycatlady on May 7, 2009 20:48:42 GMT -5
Welcome, Topeka. Like Arid said, just do one or two small things each day. Sometimes when you decide to take one chunk of trash outside, you get one piece of trash out. Other times, you will set that goal of one chunk, but you end up with much more moving.
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Post by creativechaos on May 8, 2009 16:31:24 GMT -5
hi topeka and welcome! stick with us and you will get it done and have a place to come when your love is away!
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Post by messymimi on May 8, 2009 17:34:11 GMT -5
Welcome, Topeka  !
It's good to have you here.
messymimi
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Post by charis on May 9, 2009 21:07:09 GMT -5
Hi Topeka!! I am greeting you and suggesting you go into chat--which is pretty nervy of me since I haven't gone into chat myself, or onto listzilla. Good good places with lots of folks who are very encouraging Wishing you luck and a lovely visit with your Dear One |
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Post by valor on May 10, 2009 21:02:06 GMT -5
Hi Topeka, welcome!
How wonderful that you have a loved one who will be coming to help you at the end of the month. How about before she arrives, you try to clear out anything that smells "off".
Tackle any trash, anything "past it's prime" in the frig, etc. Try to give your place a good
airing out by opening all windows, letting fresh air in. That could help make your reunion
more pleasant.
Sorry to hear that without your loved one there, even getting out of bed is a chore. I suffer from depression, and even with my dear significant other (DSO) around it can wear me down.
Could you possibly be suffering from depression-there are some of us here who do, you wouldn't be alone if you are.
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Post by gettingsomewhere on May 10, 2009 21:18:22 GMT -5
big welcoming hugs to you topeka. you can do this and there are many of us who would be happy to help. if you need some inspiration check out dobbin's thread pre-inspection. he managed to get alot done in a very short time with much help in chat. but if chat's not for you keep posting and people will help you ve forward. baby steps, one at a time.
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Post by skatters on May 12, 2009 8:23:45 GMT -5
Hi Topeka! Welcome!
Like everyone else, just start small. Perhaps gather and throw away one bag of trash every time you go out. Even a small bag, like a grocery bag.
But Welcome! Sounds like you are in the right place!
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