tdyx2
New Member
Joined: May 2009
Posts: 4
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Post by tdyx2 on May 8, 2009 16:14:04 GMT -5
Hi I'm new here - married, 2 young kids, been messie and disorganized all my life - ashamed, frustrated, depressed and overwhelmed at the mess at times. have to arrange visits for the kids friends and very occasional sleep overs because it takes us all day to get the house "clean" enough in the public areas to allow anyone over. forget about just inviting someone over for coffee - has NEVER happened. I suppose it's a self protection excuse anyhow - too shy/low self esteem to think people would want to come "visit". I know it impacts the kids though. They would like to have more friends over. Need to find some way to change permanently so that when I do get this place clean - eventually - it can stay that way. end to losing keys, coats, bills, checks, library books, etc. - end to duplicates of so many things because we can't find the first one. I know you all understand where I'm coming from. Guess that's why I'm posting. I love to read so I know I'll enjoy reading other people's stories - it also allows me to avoid actually doing anything about my own mess.  Anyhow, that's my intro for now. Got to go pick up my daughter from school. Hello from Thea in Colorado! |
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Post by messymimi on May 8, 2009 17:40:50 GMT -5
Welcome, Thea  !
Instead of just reading and avoiding the mess and making yourself feel worse, why not try setting a timer? Read for 15 minutes, deal with one thing for 15 minutes, repeat.
Or come chat with us, we do challenges where we work a while, talk a while.
You could also try Listzilla. Working in Threes is popular, you do 3 things and then brag.
One key to changing and making the changes permanent for many of us seems to be getting kudos or rewards of some sort. Reading here, chatting, or having someone say "Good work" on Listzilla are some good (and non-fattening!  ) rewards for throwing out the garbage or folding the clothes or other mundane things that we are masters at putting off.
It's good to have you here.
messymimi
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Post by crazycatlady on May 8, 2009 21:08:40 GMT -5
Oh, goodness....your intro sounds so much like me! That is one of the many blessings to reclaiming my home from the squalor...the kids can have friends over! You can do it, and it is so worth it.  Welcome, Thea.
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Smokey
New Member
Baltimore MD
Joined: March 2009
Posts: 68
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Post by Smokey on May 9, 2009 1:59:01 GMT -5
There is no way a terminal dis-organized person would put up your introduction post. Whatever it feels like when you look around an area is definately not you.
Thank you for introducing yourself. I am very happy to meet you!
Smokey
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Post by notsomessyshell on May 9, 2009 17:17:31 GMT -5
Welcome Thea! You have a lot on your plate with 2 little ones. I feel your pain about them not having friends over. Youngest is currently at a friend's house and I have no idea when or if we will be able to reciprocate.... Looking forward to reading about your successes!
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Post by valor on May 10, 2009 21:04:27 GMT -5
Welcome Thea |
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Post by gettingsomewhere on May 10, 2009 21:13:58 GMT -5
welcome to our tribe thea. you are among friends now.
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Post by skatters on May 12, 2009 8:28:13 GMT -5
Welcome Thea! I could have written your post. I struggled with DDs friends staying all night this past weekend. I want to get the house cleaned up so I don't have a panic attack each time an 8 year old comes over.
Just jump right in. We are here to help. Things will get better if you stick around.
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