keriamon
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Post by keriamon on Jul 1, 2009 13:58:29 GMT -5
I need a buddy to help motivate me to do stuff around the house. I will clean some one day, but the next day I'll be all whiney and "But I don't wannnnnaaaaa...."
I need someone that I'm accountable to; someone I need to check in with at least once every day and post some level of progess, no matter how small (I'm thinking we do this by e-mail, as I always check that every day, but I don't always remember to come here). And my buddy will likewise be beholden to me as well. In this way, maybe we can shame one another into action.
I've got company coming over on July 11th, so I need to get this place decent by then.
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Post by gifted on Jul 1, 2009 14:41:27 GMT -5
No! Please don't feel that you need to be shamed by someone else. I cannot offer to do this, because I do not have home internet access, and so I cannot promise to be consistent in e-mailing.
But I think that women (or at least I do) find it easier to do something for someone else. So if you find it easier to be accountable to someone else, then use it. I found it very helpful when I was rowing on a team. There were many mornings when I did not want to get ready for my 5:30 AM ride. But the thought of calling and canceling the ride was worse. (And since I was out of her way, NOT canceling was not an option.)
But for myself, feeling recognized as making progress, and feeling shame are two very different emotions. I find that when I feel ashamed, I punish myself in ways that are not useful at all.
SG
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Post by Celeste on Jul 1, 2009 14:51:15 GMT -5
There are a couple ways to hold yourself accountable in order to get things done quickly, actually. Chat challenges are one. You go to the chat room and challenge someone to get a particular job done within a time frame (15 minutes is common). Your challenge partner doesn't even need to be doing the same job, but you can cheer each other on. The other method is using the Listzilla category. You can either go with Accountability Partners threads or WIT (Working in Threes). Both are done daily and the thread for the day should explain how it is done. Hope one of them works well for you. Good luck!  |
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Post by still on Jul 1, 2009 15:20:20 GMT -5
WIT was where I started because there I can take bows for something as small as picking up a piece of paper. It is such a wonderful way to get started when I don't feel like doing anything. Chat challenges are marvelous, too. I know Celeste already said all this, I'm just adding my 2 cents because both of these have been amazingly helpful for me. Good luck! And hopping mushrooms to you for getting started on this wonderful website!  |
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Post by AnnieOkie on Jul 1, 2009 15:29:40 GMT -5
I personally have great results with Accountability Partners. Posting "To Do's" is a big help, and honestly, sometimes the only reason I get a certain thing done is because I don't want to have to come back and post "NOT DONE" on my list! Sad but true.....BUT I get those things done, and I feel great when I do. If I don't get something done, others might have suggestions or I can evaluate how to get it done next time. You may find a specific friend here that will join you in being accountable, but this system works best for me. Good luck!!
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keriamon
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Post by keriamon on Jul 1, 2009 16:13:49 GMT -5
When I say "make me ashamed" it's that I normally feel guilty if someone else is working and I'm not; so if I've got a buddy that's done something, then I feel ashamed if I too have not done something, and so I'll do something.
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Post by Meme on Jul 1, 2009 20:15:56 GMT -5
kerimon- I don't want to you to feel ashamed no matter the reason- I think if you would go to Accountability partners you would find some encouragement there- it seems to work well- .
It is fun to share what you did and need to do-- you can challenge yourself to do so many items on the to do list- and then report on the accountability- and if you only do 3 out of 1o- so be it- be proud of the 3 but don't have shame because you missed doing the other 7.
Shame will only drag you down and then it is difficult to do things.
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