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Post by houseworkhater on Jul 25, 2009 14:21:45 GMT -5
Lilith, I have not been here much, but want you to know I am sorry for how much pain you have had to endure of late. Your posts touch me so much; you seem like such a kind and gentle soul.
Please, please try to be a little kinder to yourself. Just practice. You deserve a happy ending.
I'll be thinking of you...
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Post by Little_Ninja on Jul 25, 2009 16:28:09 GMT -5
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Post by chakraverte on Jul 26, 2009 3:27:33 GMT -5
Baby steps my dear! You are getting there -- and you are strong enough to post about it! That's great!
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Post by gettingsomewhere on Jul 26, 2009 8:30:30 GMT -5
Lilith babe, if you have done this you CAN do anything. You have overcome the most difficlt of days to get to this point and I reckon that from now on the momentum will continue to move you along.
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Post by woolybooger on Jul 26, 2009 23:08:41 GMT -5
some salvage yards will town them for free for the scrap metal.thats what we did.wtg on your progress
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Post by moggyfan on Jul 26, 2009 23:22:42 GMT -5
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Post by gettingsomewhere on Jul 26, 2009 23:56:40 GMT -5
Hi there Lilith. I wanted to say more before but didnt have the time, I'm sorry. It has sat heavily on my heart hearing that your hubby wouldn't help unload your piano. I know exactly how you feel. Exactly. Approx 5 years ago in our previous home, (not cluttered except for two rooms), I had a special spot in our front room that was always meant to be for my much longed for upright piano. Eventually I found a gorgeous old one that fitted perfectly and was available at a great price as the elderly owner just wanted it to be loved. My hubby decided then that I didn't deserve it, and wouldn't help or allow me to collect it. I guess I have thought of that piano many a time since. And probably started believng those words.
Lilith, you, me, and many of us here deserve so much more. You are an amazing woman. Please find some help and get YOUR piano inside safely. Then enjoy it.
Much love and strength to you, Chez x
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Post by AnnieOkie on Jul 27, 2009 9:30:39 GMT -5
I am so happy for you, Lilith!! Please stop listing all the things you let go during the purge of the vans and allow yourself to enjoy the absence of that weight on your shoulders!! This is an amazing step. So proud of you!!
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Post by Lucky Laura Loving Life on Jul 27, 2009 10:58:45 GMT -5
Dearest Lilith, Congratulations!! You are awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have missed you so much!! I am so glad you have that monkey off your back.I agree you likely have an emotional hangover from all the work and turmoil.Please,please be good to yourself I know how hard it is,been there and I really know how you feel. We love you and I am so grateful at least DS has been a help.You need to come here when you have time for the love and support you deserve.It's really fantastic that you were able to finish and even early!!! This is such a great accomplishment,you need to pat yourself on the back for me until it makes your arm hurt,then stop!
Love,Laura
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Post by celticlaugh on Jul 27, 2009 11:18:59 GMT -5
Lilith, You are a hero in my book. You took on an extremely difficult task (physically and emotionally)and did it within a deadline. How great is that. Give yourself the credit you deserve.
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Post by ctrlz on Jul 27, 2009 15:50:44 GMT -5
So now my carport is totally packed and I have a piano in the side yard. Need to make room in shed for it. Why I don't put put by the street with a free sign I don't know but I just can't now. I am your helpful piano expert. (My family runs a piano repair business.) That piano is not worth saving! I tell you this to help you get rid of it. If it's been in a van, and not maintained, then just like the vans themselves, it is not worth the work you'd need to do to get it in usable condition. If you can get someone to take it away for free, do it! You will feel better and it would be a wise choice. I can promise you 100%.
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Post by def6 on Jul 27, 2009 19:00:58 GMT -5
I just want you to know that I think you are pretty terrific! Best of luck in getting back on track.
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Post by missjean on Jul 27, 2009 22:58:45 GMT -5
Congratulations to you! And I know that sad feeling. After I get rid of some long-held items, I feel as if I've let go of the dreams that went with them. But that feeling will pass. Enjoy the accomplishment!
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Post by sarthbur on Jul 28, 2009 1:19:02 GMT -5
You are no idiot!
Great job getting rid of those vans!!!
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Post by mellowyellow on Jul 28, 2009 10:43:01 GMT -5
"About a month ago I was visiting our next door neighbors and it was the first time I had been in their house. For the first time I saw how it looks from over there and am deeply ashamed. It looks pretty good from the street because the cars blocked everything but the side view is horrible. They are far from clean themselves (got a letter from city too) but I am ashamed. They have 3 kids who I adore and who don't deserve to look at my crap."
The comments, that you made above, reminded me of the side of my own house. When I had the flooding, and they excavated around my home, they left huge hulking piles of gravel and rockhard clay. Also, they yanked out the metal post the keeps the chainlink fence stable.
I have been so embarrassed to see this, because while it doesn't really affect me (I can't see it from my house), I know it DOES affect my side neighbour. They have an ugly pile of dirt and gravel to see, plus a lopsided sagging fence post. I have done my best, and have on various occasions worked to whittle down the piles. And I've worked hard. But it still looks horrible. And as the months have gone by, they've made their side look prettier and prettier.
So today, I have hired people (handycouple) and they are doing all that work that I've wanted to do for months.
---- Lilith, I am so glad you were able to get things going. You must feel so good!!! I know that I did when my former bf finally got his broken van towed from my driveway. It sat there for about half a year, and drove me mental with its ugliness.
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