Pammy, I don't know if any of this will be helpful--things I had in my emergency tool kit blog.
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Oh Mimi thank you--hope you don't mind that I copied a post you put on Merrymaid's blog
"MerryMaid, you have the determination, so you can do it.
A few suggestions which you are free to ignore.
Now, don't try to lose 30 pounds in 2 days and totally desqualor in 3 days and have a huge long routine by the end of the week. You will crash and burn and lose the determination.
Add one item to your routine at a time. When the one thing becomes habit, add another.
As a person who has lost and regained and lost and regained the weight over and over, and have now had it off for 2 years, I can tell you what can work is to add one good habit at a time. The good habits will crowd out the bad ones if you keep at it, and it will help you get to your goal.
Declutter some every day, and do spend time with your daughter. You will both come to treasure the memories.
Do not, under any circumstances, beat yourself up when the occasional lapses happen. Just pick up and start again where you are, you will get there.
It isn't a race, and you will get there.
I'm looking forward to watching you do it."
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Meme writing about the truth of life, that it is messy, and that none of us is garbage
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Skatters' It Won't Kill Me from
takeonestepatatime.proboards.com/....lay&thread=6099Ya know what? I am an adult. ENOUGH of this whining and crying about my house not being clean. ENOUGH of waiting for someone else to swoop in and do it. There is no one else. I am a big girl. I am able-bodied. There are 1440 minutes in a day spending a few of them here and there WILL NOT KILL ME. I won't die. I won't collapse in immense pain. I will not contract some awful disease.
[image] I am a big girl. I CAN DO THIS.
[image] It won't kill me to spend 20 minutes to take a shower. I will not collapse in immense pain. I will survive. It only took 18 minutes to take a shower. And it didn't kill me.
[image] It won't kill me to take the Easter baskets out to the garage. I will not regret doing this. One Minute - that's all. And it didn't kill me.
[image] It won't kill me to pick up the garbage on my desk. I am tired of all the stuff falling, and not having room for my drinks. I will not regret doing this.
[image] It won't kill me to spend 5 minutes picking up garbage. I DID THIS, and survived.
[image] Put away tea pot. 5 Seconds. But I didn't think this would kill me.
NOTE: What is powerful about this is the way of talking to my yucky crappy group of mean voice people in my head who say I can't do this. Sometimes swearing at them works, other times I don't even know how or who I am talking to and it doesn't seem to work--but this, "I AM A BIG GIRL--IT WON'T KILL ME" just might work when everything else fails.
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[juniper2 (juniper2)] My philosophy...sometimes others are worse than one's self.
[yearning4order (yearning4order)] but here I am sitting off in the corner dealing with my negative self talk and I did nothing
[messymimi (messymimi)] When the voice says you can't, say, "Well, you may be right, I can't do it all. But I can do this, and I will, and I am" and get up and do that thing.
[yearning4order (yearning4order)] I've tried yelling at it Mimi, and what's odd about this one is that it's not like the housecleaning one which is *so personal*, like I've known it for years
[yearning4order (yearning4order)] This is like some sort of "outside" voice
[messymimi (messymimi)] Yes, because it's other people.
[serenitynow (serenitynow)] I know what you mean about the negative surfacing when you're doing something constructive
[yearning4order (yearning4order)] that's nice mimi--do you mind if I copy this into my emergency blog?
[messymimi (messymimi)] They have their issues, just like you do.
[abweichende (abweichende)] That is why I like it here, Echo and J2, I keep trying to remeber that there are others worse off than me. It definitely helps.
[yearning4order (yearning4order)] thank you folks, I really truly am sorry to interrupt the chat/challenges >.<
[messymimi (messymimi)] Please, if my big mouth spouting off comes up with anything you can use, use it.
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