djorg
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Post by djorg on Jan 20, 2010 18:04:02 GMT -5
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Post by disorganizeddragon on Jan 20, 2010 19:07:06 GMT -5
Good article! Thank you for posting the link.  |
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Post by Chris on Jan 20, 2010 19:28:50 GMT -5
djorg,
I really enjoyed the article thanks for posting it.
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Post by moggyfan on Jan 21, 2010 9:07:58 GMT -5
Good article, plus I was generally impressed with the nature of the comments.
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Post by charis on Jan 21, 2010 9:22:09 GMT -5
Non-judgemental, I liked it too.
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Post by 60isolderthanithot on Jan 21, 2010 10:18:10 GMT -5
Good link. This problem is finally receiving some objective attention.
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Post by Rory on Jan 21, 2010 13:49:23 GMT -5
Thank you it makes sense and is not sensational.
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Post by ponygirl on Jan 21, 2010 15:07:18 GMT -5
Good article; thanks!
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Post by gottaproblem on Jan 21, 2010 15:16:38 GMT -5
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Post by dailystruggle on Jan 21, 2010 15:30:16 GMT -5
I'm glad that there is so much info on hoarding now, that is nonjudgemental.
My dad is a hoarder. I always had trouble understanding why he wants to keep some stuff. He wants to keep clothes, even ones that noone in his household can wear, expired canned goods and food, plastic and alluminum one serving dishes, trays, and pie pans, magazines; pretty much anything he can get his hands on. He was abused during his childhood, and his family was big and poor. He gets very angry when someone doesn't agree with him about keeping some of the stuff that he wants to keep or if they want to get rid of some stuff. My mother is constantly arguing with him about his hoarding tendencies. Their house is still liveable, but my father seems to want to keep more and more stuff over the years, and it's getting so difficult for my mom that if she wasn't afraid of him that I think that she'd leave him.
I find myself wanting to keep things sometimes, probably because my childhood was screwed up and we were poor. My husband gently talks to me about it. Not yelling or anything. Just basically asks me why I think we should keep it, he listens, and then he gives me valid reasons why he thinks we shouldn't keep it. I'm still rational enough to realize that when other people talk to me about that stuff that it's not a personal attack against me and they really do care about my family's and my wellbeing. My father takes everything as a personal attack against him. Like he wanted to touch my belly throughout my pregnancies, and I just wasn't comfortable with that. I tried to tell him politely that I didn't want my belly touched and he flew off the handle. I didn't even like my hubby or kids touching my belly. I haven't even told my father about this pregnancy and I'm pretty close to having the baby. Trying to avoid the yelling and stuff, but I guess when my dad finds out that I didn't tell him that he'll be ticked then too. Can't win or lose with my dad.
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Post by hopehope on Jan 22, 2010 2:34:09 GMT -5
This is the organizer lady I met. My ultimate experience with her was not so good. I did have the feeling I was going to be used in some way to aggrandize her in the end. Long story -- more when I can.
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