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Post by mrsmess on Mar 21, 2010 20:26:56 GMT -5
why it takes someone coming over to make you take action? I just heard my rather unpleasant and nosey sister in law was about to come to the door to collect some documents from my husband. I quickly ran down and cleared everything near the door in record time! It made me wonder why I have to wait for someone to come over before I take action, when I should keep it clear for those who I really care about..my own children and husband, and for myself.
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Post by momof3boys on Mar 21, 2010 20:36:51 GMT -5
I'm guilty too
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Post by lizzie on Mar 22, 2010 0:56:39 GMT -5
Maybe you could use your Nosey SIL to play games with yourself, pretend she is coming to collect more documents and IS GOING TO NEED TO USE THE BATHROOM!!!!
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Post by CaringFriend on Mar 22, 2010 2:42:06 GMT -5
Maybe you could use your Nosey SIL to play games with yourself, pretend she is coming to collect more documents and IS GOING TO NEED TO USE THE BATHROOM!!!! That would probably work, too! I once read in a woman's magazine about a woman complimenting her friend on her clean and orderly home. She said that every single time she visits, even if it's unexpectedly, the friend's home is always the same - never anything out of place. Then she asked how she did it, especially with having little ones at home. The friend laughed and said that every morning when she gets up she pretends her mother-in-law is coming over and that motivates her to keep the house presentable. !
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Post by mrsmess on Mar 22, 2010 4:51:31 GMT -5
what a great idea girls...I will have to start playing mind games with myself!! I will report back and tell you if it works or not...
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Post by CrimsonKat on Mar 22, 2010 6:11:14 GMT -5
i totally play mind games too. it helps.
also, instead of letting my shame and fear paralyze me and make me feel so overwhelmed that i find a reason for them to not come over, i harness that fear and let it motivate me. i make it my friend. we hold hands and take action, like partners. it's like, "come on, Fear, we'll show my id and get this place done! dun, dun, dun, dahhhhh!"
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Post by fluffernut - now Jannie on Mar 22, 2010 12:55:40 GMT -5
i used to clean frantically when my MIL was coming over. i'd start a week ahead, she never dropped in uninvited-I always knew plenty ahead when she would visit. I remember once I cleaned and cleaned, then cleaned some more. The morning she was due, I think it was Easter, I did one more quick-clean and then started making myself Bloody Marys. I poured myself about four. By the time she arrived I plastered and relaxed and NOTHING could bother me. We said our hellos and she proceeded to sit on one kitchen chair. She had a BIG FAT derriere and stood up with her Big MIL Butt full of cat hairs. The one chair I hadn't vacuumed in my cleaning frenzy. I had to laugh!
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Post by marika on Mar 22, 2010 14:07:48 GMT -5
!!! Fluffer, that sounds like something I'd do! My MIL isn't nice enough to give me that much warning, though-I usually only have an hour, tops. I often wonder if she's ever looked in my bathtub and wondered why we keep all the dirty laundry there, !
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Post by iprocrastinate on Mar 22, 2010 14:39:01 GMT -5
Guilty also My husband always comments about how well I can clean when someone is coming to visit. I keep promising I'll invite someone in every 2 weeks.
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