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Post by notsomessyshell on Apr 3, 2010 23:36:10 GMT -5
My son's friend, who used to live with us, came to help with the move. He and Oldest were in youngest room packing, donating, tossing. In his room (he had not been using it for months and months-the living room has been his bedroom), were found the following: disgusting trash, dishes that were dirty and moldy, remains of food, and the absolute worst--the skeleton of the mouse we had a year ago. It was not too far from one of the traps in this closet. I am disgusted, embarrassed, and humiliated. I said a vow right then and there that we would NEVER live this way again. I will go through divorce before we do this again. We will have a clean, organized house.
I do feel like this is the opportunity for a new start. Only having what we need and actually use.
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Post by lizzie on Apr 3, 2010 23:46:46 GMT -5
I think you are absolutely right about the fresh start, with just what you need and use. It will make MAINTENANCE (that whole other skill!) so much simpler, and I imagine you might feel a great sense of release from the burden of all you have freed yourself from.
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Post by dtesposito on Apr 4, 2010 0:07:57 GMT -5
I'm a new member and don't know the story of your move, but I sympathize. Moving is so hard when you have too much stuff--it feels just about impossible to get everything out, and if you're in an apartment and have a lease date to be out by, that last day of trying to clean the place after the furniture is out can be SO traumatic!!
I had a move about 20 years ago that sounds similar--I had a 2 foot space between my wall and my bed, and when I excavated that area when I was moving I could not believe what I found there. It was a sort of wake-up call to me, and I never did let things get that bad again--from that day forward I vowed I would never have food in the bedroom again, and I've kept that promise! So you CAN use this as a fresh start!
Good luck to you in your move, I hope it goes well!
Diane
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Post by notsomessyshell on Apr 4, 2010 2:55:31 GMT -5
Cleaning! OMG I am not even there to thinking about that part. I have been cleaning the shower and toilets regularly so that is not too bad. The kitchen is also doing well. But the oven and refrigerator. I am not looking forward to that part. Planning on doing that when all is out of here. Oldest and I can do it in no time at all.
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Post by momof3boys on Apr 4, 2010 3:17:03 GMT -5
Shelly-As I have in my signature. "There is no better time to start than now." I hope the rest of your move is more pleasant for you. We've all been there. It's not easy to find yucky things but now you know how you don't want your house to look. A new begining, a fresh start sounds great.
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Post by downandout on Apr 4, 2010 6:58:54 GMT -5
yes i know that feeling. but like you said its time for a new start for you and your family! you really can do this!
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Post by mouseanne on Apr 4, 2010 10:46:47 GMT -5
ew... i had the 2 foot beside the bed story too, once, when I moved... and one of my mover/helpers ... was a "church deacon"... aaaarrrgggg!!!!
he def did not understand.... but i did not understand his not understanding... his wife was stay at home... and I was working single mom and ill and disabled...
...but still... the humiliation...
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Post by slothzilla on Apr 5, 2010 6:47:12 GMT -5
You're not alone. I found a dead rat in my apt. last year while cleaning up. It was in a room that I never, ever, had any food in, which surprised me.
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Post by messyjedi on Apr 5, 2010 9:55:03 GMT -5
Oh how I can relate to "never again" I am kicking myself because we did have a fresh start, clear across country, and I still managed to get back in the hole. You can do this, WE can do this, one day at a time.
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Post by MiSC on Apr 5, 2010 11:08:07 GMT -5
My moment wasn't one of humilation as much as it was shocking and mortification.
A few years ago I was cleaning and pulled up some mats we had on the floor, and in one far corner of the square, I found bugs. Roly polies, to be exact. It was sickening. My youngest was looking at what I was doing, and he saw the bugs too. His reaction was, "Cool! Roly polies!" not "Eww!"
He had no idea that that kind of thing wasn't normal. He's totally desensitized when it comes to the squalor. He thinks it's fine.
He steps on anything that may be on the floor with no idea that he's supposed to go around it instead. Just goes right through. If he's eating a little pot of yogurt, he pulls the top off and drops it on the ground. He has no training. No clue that doing that isn't okay and that trash goes in the trashcan, not on the floor.
He's better now, as the house has made progress, but he needs constant reminders.
I have to re-teach him. I have to replace what he knows with what should be the rules.
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Post by messymimi on Apr 5, 2010 14:26:32 GMT -5
From here, it gets better.
You are starting over, and while the best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, the second best time is now.
messymimi
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Post by notsomessyshell on Apr 5, 2010 15:45:01 GMT -5
Yesterday my brother and nephew came over to get my son's broken down car out of the yard. Hopefully it will get fixed this next month. But it had to get out of here now. Anyway, they both came in and were shocked at what is still remaining to be done. Here thought we were doing so well. All I can say is they really have no idea where we really started from! I guess for a normal house this may be the starting point or maybe midway not 10 days into moving? Oh well. After a little embarrassment I am just trying to get it done!
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