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Post by Rennie Ellen on Aug 16, 2010 17:42:52 GMT -5
This morning I got a call from the home health care agency asking if I needed a fill-in today. I said no, because Amy was coming in this morning. So I call her supervisor and she said Amy's schedule was all blank this week. I called her cell phone and left a voice mail, then checked her Facebook page....
She got a new job at Sam's Club.
I was stunned. Gobsmacked. Shocked. She left last Friday after 2 hours of cleaning and said, "See you Monday."
Then Amy called me back. She wasn't leaving because she hated me or her job or any of her bosses/clients. It was a financial decision. She doesn't get reimbursed much for gas by the home care agency and going all over town to client's homes was eating up her profits. So this weekend the Sam's Club job suddenly came up and she took it. It pays a little more than what she was getting as an aide but she only has to go to one place. And she's not quitting the agency entirely -- she'll still work for them as a fill-in when she's not working at her new job. So when I need a fill-in, I'm going to ask for Amy.
Then I called the home care agency and told them I'm going to need a new aide. After finishing the call, I just curled up on my bed and bawled my eyes out. I'm not having a good several days here -- first I find out I'm unfairly billed $800, now I lose Amy as my home aide.
Yes, I know I'll get another aide. But that's not the point. In the last eight months, she and I started the journey of reclaiming my home together and along the way, we became friends. She was like a second daughter to me. I'm very glad she's found a new job that's better for her -- but I will miss her. 
Amy was actually a fill-in the very first day my home health care service started. My permanent aide couldn't come until Wednesday. I really liked Amy's attitude, her positive outlook that "we'll get this all organized in no time", and of course, she thought Angel was a sweetie. So she left and on Wednesday my permanent aide showed up. I asked in the beginning, "Are you allergic to cats?" and she replied, "No." She tackled my "BEDROOM OF DOOM" that day and after her shift was over, she left and called the home care agency, telling them she couldn't work here because "she's allergic to cats." That doesn't add up -- she didn't sniffle or sneeze the whole time she was in my bedroom, and I hardly allow Angel in my bedroom. Plus she LIED to me when I asked her right out if she was allergic to cats. If she had said yes, I would have put Angel in her carrier so the aide could do her work. I personally thought (and still do) that this aide didn't want to put in the work to reorganize my "BEDROOM OF DOOM" and the rest of my disorganized home. So when I found out Amy was available, I asked for her.
Now I wonder how many aides I'll have to go through before I find one as half as good as Amy.
And yes, I am officially feeling sorry for myself. I really don't care what anyone thinks about it, either! 
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Post by luckyleprechaun on Aug 16, 2010 18:34:59 GMT -5
Rennie I just hope you are ok and that the agency is able to get someone quality for YOU not for THEM....I want you to be the happy girl....I know Amy will be your friend and work with you when she is able I just hope she will enjoy you so much she always asks to do your daily day when she is able to work for them....hugs lucky  |
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Post by messymimi on Aug 16, 2010 19:46:04 GMT -5
There will be a good bit of yelling at G-d tonight on your behalf, that you get another really great aide.
messymimi
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Post by phoebepj on Aug 16, 2010 20:31:53 GMT -5
Hugs Rennie, i was wondering how you were. I'm sorry your aide had to find another job. Hopefully you'll find someone equally as good as Amy.
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Post by success19 on Aug 16, 2010 22:41:48 GMT -5
Amy sounds nice - but she had to do what was best for her financially. In our society taking care of someone ill or disabled should pay better!
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Post by cleanchallenged on Aug 16, 2010 22:53:48 GMT -5
I'm so sorry you lost your aide. I'd also like to add, while on your search for a new one, never settle on someone you don't get along with or someone who doesn't do there job. As a person who was in the health care field ( i think a p.a. is sorta in that field, shes there to assist you) for the last 6 years, i've known alot of uncaring caretakers. And alot that have attitude. You deserve a good aide, and I will say a prayer for you to get one as good as Amy. |
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Post by Rennie Ellen on Aug 17, 2010 11:18:34 GMT -5
Cleanchallenged,
I totally understand why she had to get another job. And like I said before, she's STILL working for the home care agency as a fill-in on her days off from Sam's Club. So when I need a fill-in in the future, I'm asking for Amy first.
Amy told me it took her a while to get a good group of clients, too. Some of the people she worked for were very rude to her and yelled at her. She told her supervisors she didn't want to work for them anymore. So we both went through the same thing.
But I still feel abandoned, somehow. Sounds stupid, but I do -- even though I'm getting a new aide tomorrow.
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Post by Celeste on Aug 17, 2010 11:36:23 GMT -5
Between the loss of the money and your beloved aid, you have had a couple bad setbacks lately. My sympathy, Rennie. I'd be upset too. Feel free to rant here. |
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Post by howardsgirlfriend on Aug 17, 2010 13:33:57 GMT -5
It's OK to grieve over her leaving--she's helped you transform your life.
Perhaps she could recommend another aide? I have worked with other nurses about whome I could say, "If you like me, you'll probably like her even more."
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Post by Rennie Ellen on Aug 17, 2010 15:28:09 GMT -5
Celeste,Between the loss of the money and your beloved aid, you have had a couple bad setbacks lately. My sympathy, Rennie. I'd be upset too. Feel free to rant here.
I must have pissed off Somebody lately for all this bad stuff to be happening one right after another.
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Post by puppybox on Aug 17, 2010 15:40:35 GMT -5
you're allowed to feel sorry for yourself, I know you liked Amy and it took a million years to get her...but just for a few days, ok? there are other good people, you will get one eventually. Its too bad you're losing pleasant time with a person you liked, I think that's the worst part.
the new aide was almost certainly lying about being allergic and I agree it was probably to avoid dealing with your bedroom of doom, but its really not important. after your period of disappointment or loss, focus on the future. you WILL get someone good eventually.
what is that saying? you're not a hundred dollar bill, not everyone is gonna like or want you. (or your room of doom).
As someone who IS allergic to cats and many things, I HATE it when people use allergies as an excuse. People are suspicious of me because of others's lies. its a real medical issue that is WRONG to lie about. Like lying about being disabled.
I really don't think this issue is related to the others. try not to think that way, it'll just make you feel worse
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Post by houseworkhater on Aug 17, 2010 22:26:45 GMT -5
Rennie, I am sorry for your loss and can understand why you feel the way you do. When my mom was sick, we had several aides -- a good one is truly a blessing.
I hope your luck is due for a change, and hope to hear good news from you soon. Hugs...
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Post by Rennie Ellen on Aug 18, 2010 11:20:11 GMT -5
Puppybox,
I wouldn't mind having several hundred dollar bills right now. 
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Post by Celeste on Aug 18, 2010 11:33:56 GMT -5
Make that THREE bad setbacks. The post in Byways explains what happened, but now my daughter is mad at me and "unfriended" me on Facebook. Truly. Make that three. (I think you wrote your post in Byways about 20 minutes after I posted here.) You are entitled to screaming in vexation all you want! What a horrible week. |
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