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Post by pegasus48 on Sept 19, 2008 20:03:20 GMT -5
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Post by Memo on Sept 19, 2008 22:30:07 GMT -5
good for you...
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Post by CourageouslyLion SeeksSerenity on Sept 19, 2008 22:51:37 GMT -5
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Post by houseworkhater on Sept 19, 2008 23:26:38 GMT -5
yay for hopehope! keep up the great work!
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Post by hopehope on Sept 19, 2008 23:32:03 GMT -5
heylady, you are not being too nosy -- and i guess you could say, after a fashion, they had an accident -- they accidentally discovered they could use me as a garbage can. metaphorically speaking. I think of the time before that as "when the world was steady" -- it's a phrase from some south sea island nation about the time before the white man came.
my mother decided we all had to go to a family therapist - -- rare and wierd at the time -- and when we got there, as though they had said to each other 45 minutes before, "what will we talk about?" they launched into this savage and dirty dump on me. in front of this guy -- the "dr" -- my sister and I were both shocked -- it was contrary to our family values and there didn't seem to be any foreshadowing of it. Huh?
the next time we were there, the "dr" told my sis and me to wait outside -- and told my parents they didn't need fam.therapy, but marriage counseling. the damage, however, was done.
My mother had announced the prior time that I was what was wrong with the family --- and -- like smart girls everywhere -- I set about fixing that. and they had caught on how useful it was to avoid their own issues -- individual and mutual -- by cutting into me.
and that was that.
don't have the stomach to tell more of it here. I'm sad. I miss them. they never came back -- and I really waited.
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Post by heylady1 on Sept 20, 2008 0:12:20 GMT -5
OMG that's horrible They dumped all their problems on an 11 yr old kid. Geez.... Here I was thinking maybe they'd had a car accident with severe injuries which can change people and their personalities. But this, this is just so much avoidance and to shove all the blame on a kid is disgraceful.
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Post by hopehope on Sept 20, 2008 20:57:55 GMT -5
so... I get lioness' medal now. i got the rest of those out last night (well, wee hours -- so -- this a.m.?) and then today I decided to get the clear bottles out. didn't think -- I had a nice sturdy well-closing laundry deterg. bottle -- could have poured from one to the other, but did not -- yes, it spilled, yes, it stank, yes, a neighbor was witness to all this. ugh. and I orange sprayed hell out of everything, and threw out directly whatever I could find that was soaked (except the teddy bear) -- ugh. oh, s---. any way, i recovered, and got a couple of rewards. I was off a few blocks away dumping a bag away from home (not a black bag, a shopping bag) -- and thought -- oh, I must go back, i left the flashlight on -- and then registered that I'd shut the light in the hall the last time I'd poked my head in to get something. out. doh. went back and checked. yes. and no, it wasn't just my imagination. T.Y., G-d. did desqualoring in bathroom this early evening. squalor is the word oh M. G. -- whew. there is SOOO much. and hard to get it out. - you don't know, can't possibly know. oh my G. so -- I'm off for this event I am late for -- you will laugh when you find out it is the time of year when we clear out our hearts, atone, make amends and set things right. tonight begins forgiveness... you toward others. chat last night was so nice thank you all. hopehope ps and then a neighbor left a burberry handbag in the recycle section.
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Post by threeg on Sept 20, 2008 22:18:07 GMT -5
Hopehope you are in my prayers. I hope all goes well with the cleaning person, and that you feel better soon also. I understand about the parent thing. My mother was no Sunday picknick either. Suffice to say that my sister and I had a difficult childhood. Even after our mom died (when we were 10 and 12 1/2), we were left with emotional scars....especially my sister. My dad was scarred too, because he was verbally and emotionally abused by her as much as we were, just not beaten. She was brilliant, but like my dad always said "There's a fine line between genious and insanity." 3g
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Post by iguanamamma on Sept 21, 2008 0:10:18 GMT -5
I want that manequin. My friend's ex girlfriend told him that as far as she was concerned he could just kill himself. I cannot imagine saying this to another person!I told him that he should have told her to do something herself (figure it out) and with him gone she would have difficulty doing this. So I want to send her the manequin with "Use in case of emergency" writtten on it. I told him that her leaving him was good riddance. Right now he doesn't see that but he will. Keep up the good work.
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