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Oct 6, 2008 6:44:52 GMT -5
Post by momof3boys on Oct 6, 2008 6:44:52 GMT -5
Good morning all, I don't know where to start. I don't know what to say except I hope to meet others like me who have trouble keeping up their houses or apartments. Do I have a problem with squalor? I'm not sure but I do not I could not find my son's tooth brush today and I constantly lose things. I ask myself what is wrong with me? Almost every flat surface has stuff on it including under the table and the couch. The beds are usuable but my bedroom floor is a whole other story. My husband I believe is a hoarder. He may bring home something he's already brought home 4 of before. I love him but I've asked him NOT to bring home anymore things unless he's sure we don't have it already. It was suprising to him as wel cleaned and I showed him sometimes 4 of the same item. He's cut down but not stopped brining stuff home. This only adds to my clutter and my frustration level. As it says in my user name I have 3 boys. They are not good at cleaning up after themselves either. My mom did not really show me how to clean that well when I was little. As I look around my apartment I wonder how it became so bad and why can't my apartment look like those houses on television? How does one overcome this? Does anyone want to be my friend?
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Oct 6, 2008 8:40:25 GMT -5
Post by sleepymom on Oct 6, 2008 8:40:25 GMT -5
Welcome momo3, I think you will find you have a lot of friends here to keep you company. I don`t have any easy answers, but my home sounds a lot like you describe- mostly functional, with some areas that don`t work so well, and LOT of clutter. I`ve made a lot progress since I started here, but get stuck getting it together past a certain level. My husband brings home junk too, mostly old computer parts, and hates to get rid of anything. He doesn`t seem to notice the mess unless he`s mad at me. It isn`t all him though, I made the mistake of not training my medium size kids when they were young, because it was easier to just pick up after them, and now that I can`t do it all, none of us have good habits and don`t see the mess or know what to do when it is overwhelming. You`ve joined a wonderful community, I hope you find what you are looking for.
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Oct 6, 2008 13:45:39 GMT -5
Post by momof3boys on Oct 6, 2008 13:45:39 GMT -5
Thankyou for the nice warm welcome. I hope I do make a lot of friends here who can help and support me and I would like to do the same thing in return, help and support them. I found my son's toothbrush! I'm so happy!
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Oct 6, 2008 13:53:08 GMT -5
Post by pegasus48 on Oct 6, 2008 13:53:08 GMT -5
Woohoo! Toothbrush found!! That's great. Welcome aboard, momof3boys. You will find lots of friends here. We are all working towards the same goal, although we are at various stages of clean and clutter. Glad you are here with us.
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Oct 6, 2008 14:13:18 GMT -5
Post by AnnieOkie on Oct 6, 2008 14:13:18 GMT -5
Hi, momof3boys!! Glad you are here with us. I am the mother of 2 boys, so I can relate. I have gone easy on them for way too long when it comes to housework. With my newfound interest in getting my home under control my youngest has jumped on the bandwagon and is helping the best way he can. The older one (age 16 ) is a little more reluctant to change his ways. Stick with us and I know you can accomplish great things!!
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Oct 6, 2008 16:35:48 GMT -5
Post by notsomessyshell on Oct 6, 2008 16:35:48 GMT -5
Welcome fellow newbie. This seems to be a great place. I will most definitely be your friend! I have 2 boys. Mine are 19 and almost 8. You would think they would be more help wouldn't you. I believe my hubby is a hoarder, too. I told him not to bring one more thing in unless he can be absolutely sure we need it and will use it. He has cut back on what he brings home, but he still brings stuff home. We can make our living areas livable! We can do this.
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Oct 6, 2008 20:29:36 GMT -5
Post by crazycatlady on Oct 6, 2008 20:29:36 GMT -5
Welcome, MomOf3Boys. I'm so glad that you found us. One of the best things that I learned from this community was to put my kids to work helping out. They need to learn those skills, just as much as I do!
At the beginning, it was hard. But the more I decluttered and cleaned, the easier it was for the kids to pitch in. Now my kids are better than I am at some cleaning tasks!
One other tip....ask your husband to agree to "one in, one out". That way rather than wondering if he has the item at home already, he has to decide if he is willing to give something up at home if her brings the new clutter in! (I used this principle to purge my excessive clothing...actually did "one in two out" for a while. Now that will make you stop and think before bringing more stuff in!)
All the best to you as you embark on this journey!
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Oct 7, 2008 15:57:39 GMT -5
Post by messymimi on Oct 7, 2008 15:57:39 GMT -5
Welcome, momof3boys !
I have 2 boys, 2 girls, and only one who is neat (Bigger Girl). My Sweetie is an archaeologist by training -- that means he digs through other people's trash, often bringing it home. So your story is different yet familiar, and the support here is incredible. Wherever you decide to start, the starting is the most important thing.
I'm glad you are here.
messymimi
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Oct 8, 2008 11:30:07 GMT -5
Post by dragonfly on Oct 8, 2008 11:30:07 GMT -5
Welcome momof3boys. I just joined a few days as well. I only have one boy, he's almost 11 but is kind of like a hurricane...he most definately gets that from me. You're not alone in your quest for a tidier home and I think you'll find a lot of friends and support here.
dragonfly
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Oct 12, 2008 10:59:45 GMT -5
Post by heylady1 on Oct 12, 2008 10:59:45 GMT -5
Welcome Momof3boys!! I have only one son who is all grown now but oh yeah, let them learn some good habits now! It's not that you can't teach them things later on (I am living proof of this) but it's easier on you if you get the help you need! And yes, having your husband ask himself "do we really need this now, will we actually use this, do we already have this?" is something he should be doing before he brings anything home. It really does help!
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Oct 12, 2008 12:10:16 GMT -5
Post by limegreen on Oct 12, 2008 12:10:16 GMT -5
Welcome momof3boys! When I read your username I thought she sure will have her work cut out for her. I have one daughter, but really I'm the messier one. So yeah, welcome, join in, and hey, only four of the same item? I have 62 teaspoons and I know we cannot possibly need them all.
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