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Post by iguanamamma on May 31, 2008 15:15:16 GMT -5
I am trying to clean up my old bedroom. I have GOT to get this done because we are moving. I am having a great deal of difficulty cleaning this room. I haven't used it as a bedroom in years-in fact I haven't used the room at all. This room used to be the place where we had the tv and vcr and it was where most of the kids stuff ended up. For me there is a great deal of emotional baggage associated with this room. For instance, I found a letter from my youngest daughter to her then boyfriend. She was saying in the letter how much she loved him and so on. That was before she found out he was an abusive jerk. who shot his best friend in a big drunken brawl. Then, I found a box of craft things I made for my good friend to sell at her store. She died very suddenly last spring. It seems that any kind of college or career area that my kids wanted to persue there is evidence left in that room. The one who wanted to be an artist is now a Marine probably headed for another Hellhole in the middle East soon. I just feel alittle overwhelmed.
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Post by neveropentheclosets on Jun 1, 2008 13:51:02 GMT -5
Oh Igauanamamma,
I can understand how you feel. There are definitely a lot of memories in that room. I think a lot of people (even non-squalorous ones) have rooms or drawers or places that they keep things that are hard to deal with/go through.
Since some of the things are your kids - could you have them come over and help? Maybe even make it a family bonding day? Order pizza or make their favorite childhood meal and go through it all together? Laughter or tears are always better shared - and it sounds like that room may contain both.
If that's not an option (I don't know where your kids are geographically) maybe just work through it slowly, like 5 things at a time?
I'm moving in August - so I understand the overwhelmingness (I think I just made up a word) that comes from moving in general... Here's some good moving mojo to both of us!
notc
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Post by neveropentheclosets on Jun 1, 2008 13:53:26 GMT -5
Also - thank goodness your younger daughter is not with that boyfriend anymore! Good for her! That letter sounds like a great example of how far she's come... We all make mistakes with boys when we're young - the smart ones figure it out and move on like your DD!
notc
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Post by mellowyellow on Jun 1, 2008 19:05:56 GMT -5
Things that belong to your grown kids... I can tell you how my mum deals with it. Whether I want it or not... after a visit to my parents... on my way out, I will inevitably find a waiting bag or two, or a box with "some clippings and things you might want to see". This bag also usually contains some junk that I've left at my parents' place for decades, and my mum wants to eliminate from her space. The funny thing is that I tend to do the same... I have lots of things she's lent me over the years, or asked me to store... So I show up with a bag, and leave with another bag... Like going to a garage sale, but donating to the local goodwill store. Ah well...  |
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