neith
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Post by neith on Apr 28, 2021 13:29:58 GMT -5
I won’t use any of the negative terminology about how I have internalized this part of my life. My therapist recently asked me what goes through my head when I look around my house and it’s so bad I guess that I’ve avoided the experience altogether of trying to do something about it. Squalor. I know the word and yet it’s new. I’ve been messy my whole life but the past few years have been especially bad. The worst year has been this most recent. I deeply appreciate my therapist and I’ve overcome so much...outside of my house. I’m one of those (or perhaps most of us are) that no one would ever expect that I live in such squalor. I can even “stage” areas to take pictures of my pets. I have enough photos inside my house not to worry my family who live out of town. The name of this board is powerful. Thank you for having a “place” to find resources and community. I feel slightly less overwhelmed just knowing I’m not alone and recovery is possible. I have clinical depression and feel silly having to convince myself yet again that this is not *who* I am, but how I am coping. This stuff must be buried deep and I’m ready to face it because I can’t live like this anymore. My pets deserve better. I deserve better.
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Post by desposito on Apr 28, 2021 13:48:19 GMT -5
Hello neith, welcome, you have found the right place. There are no magic answers here, just taking things a little at a time and sharing what you're doing--it's amazing how much it helps to know other people are working alongside you, rooting for you, and dealing with the same problems. Join in a working thread or start a blog, wherever you feel comfortable.
Diane
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Post by goldenthreads on Apr 28, 2021 13:53:08 GMT -5
Welcome, neith . You'll find understanding, support, and ideas here. Your sentence about "this is not *who* I am, but how I am coping" is true, and it's something that a lot of us contend with. Everyone finds different ways to deal with it. For me, I am finally able to detach from the thought of my mess as evidence of my failings by just thinking of it as stuff I need to deal with five minutes at a time, 15 minutes in a zone, etc. It's mine and I created the mess, but I can pick it up and put it away, or toss it as I decide. You could post in a Listzilla thread, or start a blog here. Best wishes. You do deserve better, and things will be better. |
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Post by gaylem on Apr 28, 2021 14:36:51 GMT -5
neith Welcome to SOoS. I hope you gain as much support and help here as I have.
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Post by NewLifeToday on Apr 28, 2021 16:39:24 GMT -5
Welcome neith.  . I'm glad you posted here. Please do join in wherever you like. |
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Post by joyinvirginia on Apr 28, 2021 22:41:50 GMT -5
Welcome neith! So glad you posted, and found this board. Post any particular challenges and you will get suggestions from folks who have dealt with the same or similar issue.
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Post by PaperGrace on Apr 29, 2021 8:28:15 GMT -5
You DO deserve better, and you CAN do it! Let go of should and let us celebrate your victories with you.  |
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farandaway
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Everything which is not Ladder falls away
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Post by farandaway on Apr 29, 2021 11:08:27 GMT -5
neith you are definitely not alone in this. Welcome. 
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daybyday
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Don't wait and take the chance of a serious illness beating you, clear it out now, time is precious
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Post by daybyday on May 4, 2021 13:58:11 GMT -5
I'm late as usual but welcome neith! I have got to make it priority to come here more often. Each time I finally make time to get here I read posts or replies to posts that inspire me and make me think, that's me or that's exactly right, so true! It gives me ambition, the desire to start, even if only for that 5 items or 15 minutes, it's an improvement and does make a difference if I just rinse and repeat! Thank you to all that participate here. Your posts mean so much to me. I hope you stick around neith and gain the feeling of finding a place and people that can truly empathize with you. We have been there. It makes me feel good to know I'm not alone. I just need to be sure I don't procrastinate about getting over here. I'm going to put that high on my list of starting my days off to get here first. Think I'm going to add a reminder in my phone to do so. And on that note, I'm off to work on stuff for the next hour. Welcome neith and thank you everyone here!  |
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Post by def6 on May 6, 2021 19:27:08 GMT -5
Welcome to our group neith You are already miles ahead by having a great therapist to work with. May you have many successes!! |
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Post by gillian on May 15, 2021 6:00:33 GMT -5
Welcome, Neith. How have you been getting on since you posted here? It's great that you have a good therapist. Staging areas for photos of your pets - what pets do you have, by the way? - sounds like good motivation for tidying, even if it is just in one small area. I found a suggestion by the Organizer Lady, Sandra Felton, helpful - pick an area that bothers you and work on that, just little by little, until it is how you would like it to be.
Goldenthreads and Gaylem, I like how you have your minimum daily goals on your posts.
Gillian
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