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Post by Tea on Jun 23, 2024 13:19:01 GMT -5
Hello old friends and hopefully new. My name is Tea. I began here as a member back in 2017. I lived in an apartment then with my husband and kid and it had gotten completely out of hand to the point that the kitchen and living room were completely unusable and the rest of the house wasn't any better. We had to have an apartment inspection and that started off a chain of events that eventually saw us getting renovicted and eventually buying a house of our own. I wrote it all in the blogs linked under my posts if you want to read the ups and downs of that time.
I sort of drifted away from this site when the pandemic was in full swing. Over the last three years my life has gotten out of hand again in a lot of ways, but the main subject here is of course my house. Currently third degree squalor in the kitchen, and second degree in much of the rest of the house. In the main living areas the floors are clear and we can move around and I just de-squalored the dining room so all it needs is a good floor scrubbing. It's still squalor, though, and we have a house inspection on Thursday morning because of our mortgage refinancing.
Right now it's not an impossible task but it's definitely going to be difficult because I will not have much help to desqualor. I have had a lot of health issues over the last few years, the most major being a brain aneurysm last summer that had me in the ICU for three weeks. That was a major event in my life and was kind of a catalyst for the squalor getting as bad as it is now. While I was in hospital my husband did not do the most basic upkeep things that I had been trying to keep on top of and so when I got home things had escalated. Then I wasn't up to doing much for the first while and it just got even worse from there to the point that I was paralyzed by it all. And here we are. I have no obvious effects from the aneurysm. My personality is the same according to my friends and family, I have full use of all my limbs and my eyesight doesn't seem to have changed (though I still need glasses and should just go get them  .) I do have a little more trouble when it comes to finding the words I want to say, and I seem to be a bit more clumsy as I seem to fall down a lot more. I broke my foot just before Christmas because I tripped.
Anyhow... I'm sorry to say I'm back for these reasons, and sorry I left at all. Remaining part of this community would probably have prevented the squalor from getting too bad again because I always found accountability here. If anyone remembers me I'll be starting another blog to work through this new challenge. 
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Post by goldenthreads on Jun 23, 2024 13:51:03 GMT -5
 It's great to meet you! I first joined this forum in 2020, and when I discovered one of your posts, I read through all three of your blogs. It was really inspiring to see the initial desperation and the literal depth of the excess, followed by determined, continued desqualoring. Really looking forward to your new blog!
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Post by Tea on Jun 23, 2024 13:57:00 GMT -5
 It's great to meet you! I first joined this forum in 2020, and when I discovered one of your posts, I read through all three of your blogs. It was really inspiring to see the initial desperation and the literal depth of the excess, followed by determined, continued desqualoring. Really looking forward to your new blog! Wow, thank you so much! I'm really glad that I kept those blogs because if they help anyone at all that's AMAZING to me. And honestly, reading them now is helping me too!  I'm in a bad place for a lot of reasons but I feel like I did back then; determined to turn my life back around and be in control again.
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Post by desposito on Jun 23, 2024 18:02:03 GMT -5
Hello tea, welcome back, and good luck getting lots done over the next few days!
Diane
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Post by def6 on Jun 23, 2024 21:46:11 GMT -5
Welcome Back tea and Best wishes getting done everything you need to do for this inspection.  |
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Post by Nael_C on Jun 30, 2024 15:47:06 GMT -5
tea, welcome back to the forum! Backsliding happens, but it can always be redeemed, so it's a major positive you acknowledged the situation and you got here to fix it! I'm sorry to read about your aneurysm and so glad you are almost recovered, you are a lucky gal and I hope you continue to be! 
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