outofhope
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Post by outofhope on Jun 10, 2008 9:15:21 GMT -5
Hey guys.. *waves* Thank you for the welcome. As you can see, I'm still here. I wasn't online yesterday at all, after working myself into a migraine and other various stress-related issues. *rolls eyes* I know better than that. I appreciate everyone's advice, and I want to reply in depth later, but right now I'm at work, so I'm just doing a quick post. For me, the heat is manageable, since I have been using fans. I have a big one in every room I actually use, and according to the AC thermostat, it keeps the temp around 75. Thank goodness for good insulation, because I think that's quite cool when it's over 90 outside. What was freaking me out was the water situation. I managed a short-term solution, and again, I'll go into more detail later. But I have a shower! YAY! And of course, a toilet. Also a big yay! * ![lol](//storage.proboards.com/1879832/images/70gKR226h9rBn4CaD0Tc.gif) * I'm actually quite proud of myself, since I completely refitted the toilet myself, after 3 trips to the home improvement center. Whew! So again, thanks, and more later. You guys rock!
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Post by pegasus48 on Jun 10, 2008 9:44:18 GMT -5
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Post by gottaproblem on Jun 10, 2008 11:52:34 GMT -5
![:-/](//storage.proboards.com/1879832/images/AumWIvmpQNUpLqHWqrjx.gif) I would not even know where to start on the toilet thingy. You rock! Congratulations! ![:-X](//storage.proboards.com/1879832/images/xitP0jPdwJqnxUGMSshO.gif)
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Post by BDG on Jun 11, 2008 1:02:09 GMT -5
You are not alone, many of us here are struggling with health issues and know how difficult it is to even get up to get started cleaning and how sometimes we do feel hopeless. This horrible heat situation can't be helping any.
But believe it or not it can be done, sometimes by working just a minute or two at a time we can overcome and conquer what we thought we could not.
So stay here with us, talk to us and you will find yourself feeling better and more motivated, try and clean when it is coolest in the evening and for short spurts of time. Give yourself permission to throw away anything you don't really like or need.
If you can go out and sit in the coolness of the morning and enjoy a little sunlight before it gets too hot to be out, listen to your favorite upbeat music, try and find ways to bring some enjoyment into your life even if it is simple things like watching your favorite comedy. Try and take your mind off of the house for awhile and then clean when you can. Good Luck! We are all here for you.
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Post by chronic on Jun 11, 2008 4:26:12 GMT -5
I know others won't agree with me on this but if you have the money for the plumber, call a different one. Tell him you own the place. If that's not believable, tell him you have it in the lease that you pay for repairs and in exchange you get cheaper rent. Yes, I'm suggesting you lie.
I only say that because I've been there and had a leaking sewage problem go on for way too long because I couldn't call the landlord and had no money to call a plumber on my own. If I were in that situation again and had the plumber money I would have done whatever to get a plumber there... because it has been MY experience, at least in the types of cheapie places I've rented, that landlords/landladies will send over people they know who will then "report" back to the owner about the condition of things.
When we finally got our last place clean enough to call the landlady she sent a plumber, the plumber reported our dog (we weren't supposed to have one over a certain weight) and we were in trouble for it within a week.
I know how it is when things just seem to get worse and worse. It gets harder with each thing that breaks.
Now, we have our own house and there's no one to call even if we could get it clean because there's no money at the moment. We have a nasty leak (outside thankfully) and various things not working properly and it stinks, but as others have said, there IS HOPE! I promise.
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Post by reesa on Jun 11, 2008 5:22:45 GMT -5
OOH I'm glad you posted and I'm glad you are ok!
and that you have the knowhow to fix a shower and toilet, that's awesome
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Post by hopefulnic on Jun 11, 2008 15:09:48 GMT -5
Outofhope, I like your new name, Recoveringjoy too! I was so relieved to read your second post. I was really worried about you! I have so many days where I try so hard to get one step ahead only to get knocked back a dozen. But I will NOT give up! This is a wonderful group full of support! I feel blessed to have found it! We are all here to encourage you every step of the way! ![:-X](//storage.proboards.com/1879832/images/xitP0jPdwJqnxUGMSshO.gif) hopefulnic
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Post by moggyfan on Jun 11, 2008 23:41:59 GMT -5
Yes, OOH/RJ--You absolutely **DO** rock! I am in awe of people who just grit their teeth, hit the Home Depot and fix stuff.
If you can do that, you can do anything!
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Post by creativechaos on Jun 12, 2008 1:43:47 GMT -5
OOH RecoveringJoy, How's it going? SOS is so proud of you for your resourcefulness and staying around too! So glad you have a shower and waterYou'll never meet a better bunch than this group, online or off so keep coming back and sharing with us. You deserve to live better and with the help and encouragement of these wonderful folks, you can do it! hugs and good thoughts!
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slobovian
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Post by slobovian on Jun 14, 2008 21:25:01 GMT -5
What do you do? I've been trying for over a year now to clean up my apartment, and it only gets worse. My bed is in the living room, the bedroom can't even be walked in, there is the Room Of Dog Poo, and I've just had to turn off the water because there's apparently a leak inside the wall that I can't get to and it's flooding the kitchen. I live in the south, where the temps are in the 90's, the air conditioning has been broken for months, and now I have no shower. I even tried biting the bullet and calling a plumber, and was told that they can't go into a building that I don't own, and that I should call my landlord. Who would, of course, evict me on the spot. I'm in such bad physical shape that just the effort of walking usually leaves me in tears, much less trying to clean. I can't afford to move, and I'm at the end of my rope. I can't see any way out of this, and honestly, I'm at the point of counting all my pain pills to see if I just have enough to just put an end to everything. Does anybody have any suggestions that could offer me some hope? Because I seem to be completely out of it. Well, I know that one of the things we squalorees suffer from is thinking that we are the only ones that have this problem. So I just wanted to say that I'm right in the same place as you, except that my apartment manager DOES know about it and I have until Monday to get it cleaned up to an acceptable level. Actually, one of the gals in the office told me I had until Wednesday, but I came home to a letter on my door saying it was Monday, which is fine because I know I just would have put it off anyway. I'm dealing with "worst first", ie. cat poo, trash everywhere and disgusting toilet and bathtub. Thank goodness it's just a one bedroom apartment, and honestly, it's mostly trash. I don't really have that much "sorting" to do, just lots of trips to the dumpster. I went ahead and took this coming week off. I was due a week of vacation and it was going to be a relatively slow week, so thankfully, my boss said okay even though it was short notice. Put on some music, have plenty of hydration (water, soda, Gatorade) and make a dent. Take a break and then do some more. Think of ways that you can reward yourself as you get through this. Yes, a clean apartment is a reward, but I mean MORE rewards; something to look forward to. Personally, I've found that as I work, it gets easier. I can't wait for motivation any longer. I can do it now, or get kicked out.
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Post by onwardandupward on Jun 15, 2008 2:39:16 GMT -5
SL,
Good for you taking the time off.
I am rooting for you!
Onward
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Post by threeg on Jun 15, 2008 13:08:19 GMT -5
Out of hope, I was in the same situation years ago. My pipes froze and burst, and as I was ashamed to call a plumber, as well as broke, I lived that way for YEARS. My DLH took showers at work, and I did at a friend's house. Between that, we washed up with a gallon jug of water. After my husband passed away, I lived that way for another 5 years. I was so depressed and overwhelmed that I thought of suicide also, but I decided that I was a good person, and didn't deserve to die. With friends' and family's help, I cleaned out the whole house and sold it for land value. I moved in with a friend and lived there 2 years untill I met my significant other. I still had some major struggles with squalor untill 2 years ago, when we moved where we are now. Ever since then, our apartment has been no worse than level 2, and a few rooms are 0-1 degree. If I can do this at 60 years old after being a squaloree/hoarder all my life, YOU can do it TOO! Please don't give up. You deserve better. We are here for you. 3g is me
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slobovian
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Post by slobovian on Jun 15, 2008 19:46:59 GMT -5
SL, Good for you taking the time off. I am rooting for you! Onward Thanks for the encouragement, but for all my talk, I am terribly depressed and have gotten very little done. My dad passed away last January, and this is the first Father's Day without him Although we weren't close, his death reminds me of my mother's death 4 years ago which was DEVASTATING. I struggled with depression before, but I just haven't been the same since her death. I was her fulltime caregiver for months as she slowly died of breast cancer, and had taken care of her to one degree or another for almost 10 years. Her comfort and health were my top priorities, and I didn't just love her, I LIKED HER! She was a gas! So when she died, I lost my "purpose" in life as well as my mother. I'm on the slippery slope mood wise, weight wise and clutter wise. Now I could be facing eviction. If it weren't for my cats I wouldn't much care.
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