leonie
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Post by leonie on Mar 28, 2009 9:22:43 GMT -5
Hello, I'm in need of some serious help. My house is overwhelming me and my two young children. I don't know how to fix it. I have depression which I think may have had something to do with how I got here. I also have a problem with alcohol. My depression is being treated with meds and this had been working quite well, but I still can't find my way out of the mess.
I've been checking out your site for a little while and can see that you are caring and non-judgmental.
I just want to be able to have someone in my home.
Leonie
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Post by dayeanu on Mar 28, 2009 10:46:02 GMT -5
Hi, Leonie, I'm very glad you're here and posting.  I want for you what I want for myself, a peaceful retreat where I can enjoy life. Stick around, read, post, and stay. It will change the way you live. For me it has been a very slow process, but slow is better than nothing. I can see real changes, especially in my attitude and thinking. I had been depressed for years, but the friendship I find here has really made a difference. I almost NEVER feel "alone" anymore. And that is a HUGE change for me. The way I look at my squalor is changing, too. I especially found making myself an Empty Spot to be very helpful, uplifting and meaningful to me. takeonestepatatime.proboards.com/....lay&thread=4206And I love Chat. I get lots of socializing, and LOTS of work done in chat. More than at any other time. So stick around. I really believe you will find life-changing things here for you. |
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Post by Meme on Mar 28, 2009 16:43:06 GMT -5
welcome and waving to you from Canada where our day is your night
and your day is our night- hugs from Meme
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Post by messymimi on Mar 28, 2009 20:24:46 GMT -5
Welcome, Leonie  !
You will find your way out, one day, one action, at a time.
Read around, get ideas, post questions or comments when you feel comfortable. If you like lists, try listzilla; if you would rather chat a while, we often chat for 15 then work for 15.
Just like you don't drink for one day at a time, you clean one bag of trash or sinkful of dishes at a time.
It's good to have you here.
messymimi
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leonie
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Post by leonie on Mar 28, 2009 20:34:34 GMT -5
Thank you for the welcome. It means so much to know I'm not alone in this journey, it sometimes feels like I'm the only one in the world who has trouble with this. Very isolating. Knowing you guys are out there really helps. Thanks!  |
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Post by crazycatlady on Mar 28, 2009 20:57:39 GMT -5
Welcome, Leonie. How old are the kids? Maybe they can help?
I went to visit my brother....they had told their youngest daughter (who is 5) that the house needed to be clean when I got there. She started cleaning, and then was telling my brother to put his dish in the sink when he was done eating, and telling the older kids to turn off the bathroom light. Guess she got more of her genetics from her cleanie Mom than from my brother and I. But it just goes to show that even the littler kids can learn useful skills, and be willing to pitch in. I never would have made it out without lots of help from my 4 kids.
Regarding the problem with alcohol. Maybe it is time to mention it to your doctor, and get some help? Just a thought.
I'm glad that you found us. We are all a family, and it is nice to meet you, sister!
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Post by Mystic Pegasus on Mar 28, 2009 23:10:26 GMT -5
Hi Leonie! Welcome!
You came into chat while I was there but didn't chat. Having trouble maybe? If so, post in the tech forum area for help. However, if you just wanted to sit in and *listen*, that's fine too.
What city/area are you in? I'm in Adelaide, South Australia. We have members in various places in Oz. Maybe you will find some local support...
Anyway, we're glad to have you here!
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Post by gettingsomewhere on Mar 29, 2009 21:11:58 GMT -5
Hi Leonie and welcome form me too!
I just know you will be pleased you found this site. I'm in Perth. Take a day at a time, and remember little steps all help you get where you're heading. There is much great advice to be found here.
Big hugs.
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Post by creativechaos on Mar 30, 2009 14:43:26 GMT -5
hi leonie, and welcome to our family! thank you for your candid introduction.
what everyone said i can't add to, except that i hope and send good vibes out that the desire to drink will be removed as you work to change your life. to get rid of the excess clutter, find homes for what you want to keep and use, and then maintain your gains will all help to build a better sense of self esteem. a lot of it for me is to learn habits, skills, and tools that i somehow never learned in life. learning those gives me some choices and helps me when i have setbacks. maintenance is still a very inconsistent thing for me, but i still have a lot to dehoard.
here you have friends who know and understand how the mess will make you want to drink, drug, shop, eat, or take another nap, cry, whatever. we help each other through the feelings and the setbacks, and celebrate our progress, encourage each other, and get work done! a better bunch of people can't be found.
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Post by eatingbonbons on Mar 30, 2009 17:20:40 GMT -5
Welcome, Leonie! You'll find lots of friends & support here.
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Post by dayeanu on Mar 30, 2009 19:58:44 GMT -5
. . . it sometimes feels like I'm the only one in the world who has trouble with this. Very isolating. Yep, that's the first big lie we conquer. You are alone and isolated, only if you don't count or consider the other about 3 million or so squalorers are out there! I remember for the longest time how I felt I was the only one, and how isolated I felt. I also remember, not that long ago, when I thought I could never change. Now I know real friends, real understanding, real acceptance, and real change are just one thread and one "Chat" away! |
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leonie
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Post by leonie on Apr 1, 2009 0:29:21 GMT -5
Thank you all so, so much for your welcome and your kind words. It has made such a difference to me already.
Thanks Pegasus, I was having a bit of trouble at first but finally managed to figure out the whole chat thing - (I'd never done that before - very cool!) - and chatted with a couple of really lovely members.
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Post by valor on Apr 1, 2009 12:31:00 GMT -5
Hi Leonie Welcome! We have people here with amazing ideas, insights, and tips. And great senses of humor, artistic talents, probably every profession under the sun. I have depression too, I feel supported and understood here, and hope that you will too We can get control over our homes again, one step at a time. |
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Post by still on Apr 16, 2009 17:31:20 GMT -5
I really understand the drinking making it harder to clean house - or do anything! After a few beers it just didn't seem important any more. But the next morning I would look around and think "I can't stand this! I need a beer!" What a Catch 22! I'm doing A.A. and counseling for the drinking, I am hoping to do this for the "slobbing." Hope it works for both of us! (I'd put a cute little icon in right about here but I can't figure out how to do it. Aaaaargh! A sot, a slob and computer illiterate! I'm hopeless! Wah!)
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Post by CourageouslyLion SeeksSerenity on Apr 16, 2009 18:29:23 GMT -5
-  Welcome to Leonie .... From Lioness !!! It's nice having another big cat here !   - |
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