DG
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Post by DG on Jun 10, 2008 19:46:38 GMT -5
Hi everyone, Sorry this is so long, but I'm so proud of myself today and no-one here really realises what a major thing I've done. The kids are .. well kids  and my Mum doesn't remember how hard things are for me. My kid's father died in October 2006 and as the kids are his next of kin the police contacted me to deal with registering his death etc. I went up north, collected his keys from police and slept on the floor of his kitchen as couldn't find keys for rest of the house, registered his death and came home. 6 months later after getting court approval and DNA testing done we had the funeral and I went through his house and his late father's house and found he hadn't done probate even tho his dad died in 2004. I frantically grabbed everything I could on finances and houses and brought the suitcase home. All the time fearing I'd miss something important and then as taking so long we'd miss the train home. 9 hours later we arrived home and I knew that I couldn't hand the documents over to strangers until I'd been through them and made notes. Solicitors said to hang on to them until our business was sold so I had a breathing space, but then we moved all the business furniture here and the case got lost in the outbuildings. We had a flood and then a rat infestation and I never thought I'd get into the workshops again. I joined here and on the day I set foot into the workshop I got a letter from solicitor to say that ex's solicitor was going to apply for probate to get their fees if we didn't act by 11th June. And at 12.30pm today I found the suitcase. By 1.10pm I was on a bus for the 30 minute journey to the solicitors. Unheard of for me as I hate being out on my own. Also I left my Mum alone in the house. I panic leaving Mum to go to the next road to meet my son off the school bus cos of falls, her trying to use the gas cooker and dropping lit cigarettes. So being a 30 minute bus ride away was major.. though I did take the lighter with me, didn't think that she might have tried lighting up from the cooker top til I got home  I also left the front door open for the kids and had images of social worker dropping in cos we were home and seeing piles of smelly/mouldy stuff that I'd turned out and semi-sorted for all of us to go through tonight. Anyway.. the sky didn't fall in and I still had a house to come back to, with 2 kids and a mother in. I even managed to get my son school shoes he's been needing since early in May and some food so we could eat early before my daughter went to band practice. I was out for 3 hours in all and I'm feeling so happy that I've done everything, that not even debating over throwing the shoes labels for ages is depressing tonight.. I threw them in the end and that's all that matters from now on.. they are leaving the house in the morning. Go Me !! DiamondGal. |
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Post by pegasus48 on Jun 10, 2008 20:18:27 GMT -5
;DWoohoo!! Good for you diamondgal!!  |
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Post by Raspberry Jam on Jun 10, 2008 21:42:58 GMT -5
Hi DiamondGal - isn't it amazing how happy you feel when you have achieved something? I am proud of you : ) Keep up the great work.
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DG
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Post by DG on Jun 11, 2008 1:35:04 GMT -5
Thank you for the support, I really appreciate it.
As a reward I'm giving myself a break from making decisions about my things today and am starting on the upstairs in the hope that the children will be motivated into helping me clear their rooms.
Having someone to share my triumphs with is fantastic.
DiamondGal.
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Post by ramatama on Jun 11, 2008 8:46:55 GMT -5
 am sure it must have been difficult, and can well imagine how good it feels for you now that you've done it. say....can you let a neighbour know that your mum is alone in house for just in case?- for any other time you have to be out long- |
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Post by syzygy on Jun 11, 2008 11:43:08 GMT -5
Yup, we get it. We can really appreciate all the hard work ( not just physical, but emotional too) that you went through.
Congratulations!!! Come back and share your next accomplishments!
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Post by messysue on Jun 11, 2008 11:49:51 GMT -5
Good job!!
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Post by puppybox on Jun 11, 2008 12:38:16 GMT -5
I am really really happy for you.  |
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catiecat
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Post by catiecat on Jun 11, 2008 16:46:54 GMT -5
Go you!!
What an accomplishment!
Way to be!
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Post by sunshineshouse on Jun 11, 2008 18:06:31 GMT -5
Holy smokes, that is some ordeal you have been through. I hope you feel a great sense of relief and peace that all ended well. You indeed should be very proud of yourself!! 
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chunkalot
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Post by chunkalot on Jun 11, 2008 19:17:28 GMT -5
Wow, to be frightened about the kids and your Mum burning down the house, good for you!
You got 3 hours. Could you possibly get another 3 hours, just for yourself?
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DG
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Post by DG on Jun 12, 2008 0:29:46 GMT -5
Thank you all for your support I've asked for help from the school bus people so don't know why I didn't think of asking my neighbours.. thanks for that suggestion Ramatama. I decided to leave the children's mess until the weekend when they are here and can join in. It dawned on me that if I tackle it all then they won't learn how to deal with the consequences of their behaviour and I want them to learn how to keep the house clean and tidy. I tackled a cupboard that they can use for storing art stuff downstairs and threw a lot of paperwork that I'd been keeping from our old houses. I then did something again on the spur of the moment. I booked a taxi and took Mum to my son's school for the crowning of the May Queen.. bit late cos of weather this year.. and Summer Fayre. I didn't give myself enough time to panic about the logistics of getting the wheelchair onto the playing fields, home again etc. and sure enough there were offers of help when I needed it. It was great seeing how he enjoyed dancing round the Maypole for the first time, all the skipping practice really paid off. The best bits were seeing his face when he saw me and again when he saw his Granny though. I carried on with pushing myself by enrolling my daughter and I at the local Slimming World group in the evening. I'm achieving a lot more than I thought I could and it feels great. A lot of what I've done is down to having your great support, encouragement and suggestions. Thank you all so much, especially my chat buddies who've helped me get so far in the last 2 weeks. DiamondGal. |
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Post by gottaproblem on Jun 12, 2008 15:24:06 GMT -5
You are on a roll. Look at all you are accomplishing and what joy for your son to have you and his gran come to the May day celebration.  Congratulations!
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Post by crazycatlady on Jun 12, 2008 21:54:16 GMT -5
Amazing, DiamondGal!
And remember, that many many more members read each post, and feel happy for you, than the number that post! We are a large group, and we are all behind you, cheering you on all the way!
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DG
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Post by DG on Jun 13, 2008 1:50:19 GMT -5
Being able to read what I've achieved on here has really helped keep me motivated, so I'm going to start a Ta-da thread on Listzilla.
I'm guilty myself of reading posts and not posting a reply. Partly this is because I take a long time to get the wording right and I'm limiting how long I spend here. I am sending positive thoughts while I'm reading though and I'm sure there are lots of others doing the same.
Here's hoping that we all achieve our next personal challenge and surpass it !!
DiamondGal.
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