Hi- many of you know about my daughter Brandie who is 28 - ( going on 12)has a brain injury- ornery as heck- is very high functioning but socially very young-- and is a hoarder. She lives in her own place - a teeny house with a garage- with 24/7 help and suport from caregivers.
She recnetly had another crisies cleaning( me) in NOvenber( October?)-- well she loves animals and is wonderful with them but we cannot afford a cat, food , vet bills etc.. She voluntters twice a week at a rescue sanctuary- who would like her to foster but they know she needs my permiison. And why.
She has wanted to foster a cat( series of cats, kittens) that would be up for adoption for almost a year ( we did this in my home for years) but I said no until she was able to do certain things and I did a contract for her 9 months agao that she had to complete before this could happen. She fought it and fought it - especially her house and all that it entialed for a long time and her attitude sucked and not wiling to budge on hardly anthing
But Suprisingly after this last cleanout she has completed her contract and continued to keep it for a month - include her house and other things--which was my condition. It has been a hreoic effort on her part- not just her home but other things like compliance with her diabetes- and working on social things and bedtime and keeping with other scedules.
She is very motivated and finally has gotten to the point where she is there. So I want her to have this happen.
She is so lonely- without an animal - we have alwasy had them- and they give such comfort- and I have to add- is use to having a cat for a few weeks and then having it go to another permanent home - and then have another one come to stay for a bit- since that is what we did. ( People say how can you give them up after a cuple of weeks- but we think of it as baby sitting- and they pay for food litter and medical bills)All the joys and none lot of the financial repsonbilities and short term means you can take a break if you need to.
The rescue group she voluntters for is willing to have her foster- and has just been waiting for me to give the ok.
Now-- B has come up with a weekly cleaning or chore list ( previous to a few weeks agao- she was not willing to let her caregivers help her with anything = but she has changed her tune and her house is nice) and everyweek she gets rid of several bags of things and so far has not brought anything else in.
She sat down with one of her caregivers and came up with her own list of things she felt needed to be done- with the caregivers help- we were very careful to make it be HER list and the caregiver gave input that she took well( would not have taken it from me well at all!
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She is doing these hings but without any sort of shcedule.
I need a chart or a organized list to plug these things into.
Weekly. Daily can be put on the outside of the list. Or something.
All I can find online is things for children which is not appropriate or detailed stuff for adults which is more than she needs.
I could possilby come up with something myself but I am computer illiterate.
I would like to take the daily and weekly tasks that she has come up with ( and they are good) and put them in a couple of formats- perhaps a list format with a day assigned and perhaps a chart format.
I can't find anything online. Looked and looked.
It probably should be blank.
Week at a time would be good with daily somewhere.
A monthy calander would not be good. Too much
But Things to do once a month to be added on somewhre is fine.
It has to be simple.
We wil probably laminate it and use skinny dry erase markers and tweak as we go- finding out what workd for what day - working in her other days that she works or volunteers.
This is really important as it has been so hard for her to do this( to agree and let go and agree to let people help her) and her coming up with it has been a real milestone- but without some sort of plan or schedule- it will not last.
List format or weekly block format- I would like to present her with both- if block format = then can include daily stuff on top and monthly stuff on bottom of block of week. Do not want to date it.
Sounds silly perhaps. But she needs this.
He chores are very very basic and I am not concerned with things being spit and polish- just picked up and lick and promise.
That is huge for her.
Thus a blank format is good.
Ok.. Those of you familier with the last three crises cleanings I did for her when lanlord was coiming will appreciate how importatn for her- ( and for me!)
Anything you have or know of that will help greatly appreiciated. Have a couple of people avail to copy or adjust a chart or list that is suggested. Must be very easy to follow.
Also need a very SIMPLE grocery list.
Simple is the key- nothing out there I can find.
Need to be able to print it out. Can edit it if neccesary for her needs.
She is in supporeted living- trying to live as much like a normal person - someone who does not have a disablity as she can with the support of an agency that sends people to help her- she is 24/7 because of amny health problems and because she is very young soically and at risk.
She is smart as heck- not a baby and needs to feel that this is her project.. Her list for cleaning is good. Finally feeling like we are getting somewehere and very gratefull. No matter where this leads- at least we are further along thatn we were.
Am in a hurry forgive me not spellchecking- my dyslexia hanging out all over the place.
Any help?
I need to be able to plug her chores in by monday at the latest and have it printed out to bring to her to have her approve and hope to have a compel diffent formats for her to choose from ( I think I said that) the more choices she has in her life- the better- cause there are a lot of things she has NO choice in.
. I can plug in the chores or have a freind do it.
Much thanks and those of us who do not have TERRIBLE cognitive disabilties to contend with ( I have some but not as hard as DD's) can be gratefull that our brains sort of work..
I am trying real hard to be gratefull for all that I have been blessed with.
LIke this place and you wonderful people.
Bizzy
