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Post by creativechaos on Dec 29, 2008 21:55:59 GMT -5
lioness, thank you so much for bumping this post, or many of us might have never seen it. this is brilliant, wise, and very doable.. it speaks to me. putting this plan into effect makes perfect sense to *all* of me.
and hugs, mimi; big hugs. and good observations too; especially about your thoughts about fun, play, and honoring yourself.
i have learned that i HAVE to do those things-- structured play and honoring self, in order to be able to go on. weary, worn, and sick is a good indicator that i need to do them immediately.
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Post by notsomessyshell on Dec 30, 2008 3:27:54 GMT -5
Thank you for bumping this thread. I have learned a ton from it already. I will be printing this out for future reference. I need the financial part, too.
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Post by CourageouslyLion SeeksSerenity on Mar 6, 2009 10:07:25 GMT -5
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Quoting someone's wisdom from another thread:
I just re-read this. Grateful. I needed to hear that.
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Post by dayeanu on Mar 6, 2009 17:23:20 GMT -5
Wonderful advice! Besides my house squalor, my next biggest problem is financial squalor. Fluffernut, me, too.
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Post by creativechaos on Mar 21, 2009 20:32:57 GMT -5
bump.
because this is one of the things that changed the way i think and do things. once i got it that daily maintenance, wherever i'm at, had to come first, things started changing for me.
thank you lioness!
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Post by Meme on Mar 21, 2009 22:58:21 GMT -5
WOW this is very powerful
I like the idea of starting to plan my time as this one the things that I tend to let pass by-
I like the idea also of focusing one certain things such as dishes or enough laundry until we can get a handle on the main cleaning
the hardest step for me as just' 'STARTING SOMEWHERE''
a good thread here and hoping it will be read by all
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Post by creativechaos on Apr 4, 2009 14:40:35 GMT -5
another bump, as i particularly need to read this now.
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Post by louiserae on Apr 4, 2009 16:17:44 GMT -5
Same here, its going to get me through today hopefully, with something positive to show at the end. Must clean the bath for my hour of pampering
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Post by Lucky Laura Loving Life on Apr 4, 2009 20:21:55 GMT -5
This is so smart Lioness!!! Yes we do need to be more aware of our time budget. I have always been horrible at that.I will check back several times till I can hope to catch the swing of it. Thanx !
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Post by bigrae on Dec 9, 2009 14:36:49 GMT -5
;DI get this wow ,thanks for bumping this thread,I never thought that the way I handle my debts could be applied to my chaotic home proper light bulb moment
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Post by CourageouslyLion SeeksSerenity on Dec 14, 2009 0:16:56 GMT -5
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Bumping this old thread from July 2008, at the request of member creativechaos.
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Post by yearning4order on Dec 14, 2009 0:38:13 GMT -5
Wow Lioness, thank you for this. I have to confess, just today I was encountering a bit of terror that has come up since I quite addictive online gaming and I started cleaning this house in earnest, coupled with completing my step work: what was I going to do with myself once the house was clean? I have to confess, that is the really terrifying part of all this because the gaming was about trying to hide out from my real life, that it was far easier to pursue finite and tangible game goals that could be researched online. Real life isn't like that, and the biggest struggle has been to move forward with my dreams. Tonight marked the first "Yup, the house is clean enough we have no excuse for not having people over" and I am terrified of how to do that. Also terrified because it means the number of projects I have to focus on here in terms of desqualoring will be ending--the tip of this ice berg is that I have nearly run out of things belonging to my ex that I can throw away when I am irritated with him I like the basic instructions you give, because quite frankly I don't know what a life of not being secluded because the house is filthy or I think I'm too fat or any of the other creative reasons my mind tells me that I really don't "deserve" to go out. But this whole "having a social life" and inviting people over, or going out to do things...I have no idea where to begin!
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Post by CourageouslyLion SeeksSerenity on Oct 9, 2011 18:44:58 GMT -5
Bumping forward this old thread which was started back in July 2008, as it is a timeless thread about time. Here it is ... for those who might find it useful.
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Post by CourageouslyLion SeeksSerenity on Oct 9, 2011 20:09:50 GMT -5
Hummmm...good concepts, but honestly that approach wasn't what got me out of squalor. What got me OUT was getting angry and putting other things in life on hold so I could get my filthy, stinking mess out of my house. I'm disabled and the process of desqualoring was painfully slow for me....to have made it even more slow by taking time for fun would only have left me in filth longer. I think if you're a person who can work fast and get things done quickly, then it's probably a good idea to be "balanced" in your approach to desqualoring. If you're like me and move like a snail, I'd have been in my grave before I'd gotten out of my mess. Just my two cents....everyone's gotta do what works for them, and I think different perspectives are helpful. Hurricane, You make a good point there. I ultimately got out of squalor by devoting 20 or 30 DEDICATED hours every week to the task ... over a period of 9 months. (Yes I had that much mess and that much stuff). But I was fortunate that life circumstances gave me a long time period during which I was free to do this, and didn't have to work at a paying job. I don't know how I would have ever made headway with unhoarding if I had been working at a job outside the home. NOTE: With this insane months-long marathon of dedicated unhoarding ... I chose to give myself SET HOURS for the task, as if it were my "job". I worked during those hours, and then stopped. And because my dedicated unsqualoring/unhoarding hours were consistent, I was able to do have guilt-free fun after finishing each week.
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