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Post by angelinahedgehog on Jul 9, 2012 6:53:38 GMT -5
The levels of attachment vary from easy to very hard?
Which areas fall into each level?
Easy: 1. 2. 3.
So-so: 1. 2. 3.
Hard: 1. 2. 3.
Very Hard: 1. 2. 3.
"How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time." The table, the list format - those are just tools for helping see where a particular elephant can be cut into bite sized chunks.
ETA: My table may look impressive, but please keep in mind that I've had the book for a while, had already gone through part of the SHED process in 2008, and had been rereading and thinking about this book before I found this thread. Makes it fairly easy to plop down a neatly formatted table!
Some of my separate areas are physically separate (the DVDs, for example, aren't near anything else - they're all in one small area), and some are more merged with others (the books - they're almost all on the same set of book shelves and The Collection is right next to a set of books that is definitely *not* stagnant), but having them listed out makes it easier for me to "see" the areas and the differences.
The books are a good example. With the non-Collection books, there are definitely some/many I can get rid of, but they're not like the Collection. For the Collection, it's more black-and-white. I either figure out the schedule issue (which may track back to a habit issue) and keep (and use!) all of them, or I keep... Perhaps a dozen? And heave the rest. And at that point, the schedule issue would vanish. I'd still have the habit issue, though, if that's at the root of it, and that's why I'm hesitating about these. They'd make an excellent amount of space (physically and mentally) if I cleared them out, but is that what I want? Am I really willing to leave that implied commitment behind? What does it mean to me?
*sigh*
Yes, there's a reason I'm rereading this book!
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Post by missjean on Jul 9, 2012 7:12:28 GMT -5
"Loosen up" still works as a theme, but I'm now seeing a specific dimension to it. A hoe applied to packed earth in the spring. The soil, loosened up. Seeds or seedlings planted. And then... Growth. Color. Creativity. So perhaps I still need to prepare some areas, and loosen them up, but that's so I can cultivate creativity. "Cultivating my creativity": that's the theme I'm going to try on for size. I love this! It really is a great metaphor. I'm with Ally on my impression of your chart. I like it a lot, but I'm not at the level to see multiple entries and percentages yet. I also like your MINEMINEMINE! because it's so honest.
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Post by missjean on Jul 9, 2012 7:13:18 GMT -5
The levels of attachment vary from easy to very hard? Which areas fall into each level? I like this a lot. I hadn't thought of looking at this way. Oh, since you updated, I must add: I have collections of books, DVDs and CDs that are organized. I hadn't thought of them as stagnant and using up "emotional currency" until reading SHED. It's quite a surprise to me that organized isnt enough.
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Post by angelinahedgehog on Jul 9, 2012 19:24:07 GMT -5
It's quite a surprise to me that organized isnt enough. It's a little odd to think about. But yes. I have a set of glass nesting bowls. (Actually, I have two in different styles, for reasons that seemed sensible at the time.) They're the type you see in cooking shows for mise en place. They're neatly stacked. I can find them in a heartbeat. Actually, I can turn my head and see them from where I am right now. And I think the last time I used them was Thanksgiving 2002. They're stagnant. They're stagnant, and I don't think I'm ever going to use them. When I do mise-en-place, I use ordinary plates and cereal bowls. I used them last as serving bowls, but I rarely do any sort of entertaining that requires serving bowls (my style is more, "there's the fridge, and let me know if you use the last of anything"), and if I do, I have other things I can use as serving bowls. I don't need these. And yet, they made it through the cut for the last move. And even now, I want them. And figuring out why will be a step on the road of SHED.
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Post by Ally on Jul 9, 2012 20:19:00 GMT -5
AH, I think I have a vague recollection of you mentioning those bowls in another thread a while ago, I remember reading the term "mise-en-place" and having no idea what it meant. I think if the bowls are something you enjoy having, and you don't mind cleaning the dust off of them occasionally, and you have a place to keep them that isn't clutterered, Keep them. But then again I'm a hoarder, so don't ask me.
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Post by angelinahedgehog on Jul 9, 2012 20:42:00 GMT -5
I think if the bowls are something you enjoy having Interesting phrasing. I enjoy having them, but I don't enjoy using them. I don't dislike using them either. How could I, when I don't use them? I have them. That is all.
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Post by ClutterBlind on Jul 13, 2012 9:06:06 GMT -5
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Post by Layla on Jul 13, 2012 10:59:32 GMT -5
thank you clutter! Now I can go read some of what you are all talking about.... Ive already ordered 3 books so I dont want to order any others at the moment but Im waiting for them to arrive, now I can get a peak! thanks!
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Post by seashell on Jul 15, 2012 16:52:37 GMT -5
Well, I checked the book out of the library a week ago and haven't started on it. I think it's because there's a workbook I'm supposed to be working through for Bible study; whenever I start to look at SHED, I think I should be doing the other instead. I'm going to try spending ten or fiften minutes on the workbook, then spend the same amount of time on SHED. Maybe that will work. I also have demand resistance toward the workbook, because we are supposed to complete a chapter each week. The workbook is great, and I am thoroughly enjoying it, but it's the stress of someone expecting me to do the homework that is causing the resistance. I need to change my thinking.
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Post by seashell on Jul 16, 2012 8:26:22 GMT -5
I got my Bible study homework done last night! I did it for myself, not for the leader or the group. And it was great. Then I read the intro and first chapter of SHED. I think this is going to be good, as it seems to be exactly where I am at this point in my life. I may not catch up to the rest of you, as I want to take my time with it.
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Post by seashell on Jul 16, 2012 8:49:16 GMT -5
I think that when I got sidetracked, my unspoken theme was "don't rock the boat". Between changes on a large scale and on a personal scale, I was more focused on staying afloat than in sailing to new waters. Now I look around and see that I'm afloat and in no immediate danger of sinking. This is excellent. And what's even better is that I'm aware of it. I'm afloat. And I'm sort of drifting. Moving forward a bit, but without a whole lot of intent and direction. It seems time for another transition. Angelina, this says it perfectly for me. Not drifting forward much, and I probably keep paddling back sometimes, but there is definitely some forward motion, after years of just trying to survive.
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Post by missjean on Jul 16, 2012 11:22:53 GMT -5
I got my Bible study homework done last night! I did it for myself, not for the leader or the group. And it was great. I'm happy for you! Don't worry about staying with us on SHED. I think it's going to take a long time for me, too.
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Post by angelinahedgehog on Jul 16, 2012 20:46:32 GMT -5
Seashell, I think we're all going at our own pace on SHED, and I suspect that we're mostly in the SH part. I don't think anyone's mentioned E and D yet.
At that point, once you determine your theme and pick your point of entry, you're pretty much caught up with the rest of us.
So, what do you want the next stage of your life to feel like?
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Post by seashell on Jul 18, 2012 7:36:44 GMT -5
Thanks, angelina. I'm thinking in terms of a "reemergence" type theme for the future, after isolating for a long time. The parts I've read already give me a lot to think about.
BTW, I love your avatar.
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Post by Ally on Jul 18, 2012 12:14:29 GMT -5
Seashell, "Reemergence" I love it! It brings to mind that maybe you'e been shut up in your "seashell" and it's time to emerge and move forward. Anyway, the first 3 chapters move pretty quickly, After that you go into chapters 4 and 7. I've read ahead a little, but I'll be working on 4 and 7 for a long time.
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