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Post by seashell on Jul 18, 2012 13:13:29 GMT -5
Ally, ok, that's good to know. And who knows, maybe I'll need a bigger shell, not for stuff , but for who I will become during this stage.
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Post by hiding on Jul 20, 2012 19:38:26 GMT -5
I just got the book. I would like to participate. What should I do to jump in and where should I start? Thanks.
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Post by Ally on Jul 20, 2012 20:03:42 GMT -5
Hiding, Jump right in. Read the intro, and the first 3 chapters as quickly or slowly as you want/need to, and if anything resonates with you, or you want to ask questions, make comments, respond to some of the assignments, do so in this thread. There is another thread for chapters 4-9. That is where a few of us are working right now. I'm glad you're here, the more the merrier. Ally
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Post by hiding on Jul 21, 2012 18:06:34 GMT -5
Angelinahedgehog, your table is amazing! I read that Point of Entry part in the book and was totally stumped. It's all still such chaos that I am totally unable to separate the pepper from the fly s**t.
I think my list/table looks like Ally's.
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Post by angelinahedgehog on Jul 21, 2012 18:26:27 GMT -5
It's all still such chaos that I am totally unable to separate the pepper from the fly s**t. You may be going too granular. If it's totally chaotic (say you have clothes of various types and various conditions in each room of the house), you may need to do some preliminary organizing. You may need to gather all the clothes together and *then* compare them to the treasure list. If you've ever read Julie's Organizing From the Inside Out, the first two steps of the Attack phase are Sort and Purge. Separate and Heave can slot quite nicely into the Purge step, but if things aren't sorted first, it's difficult.
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Post by hiding on Jul 21, 2012 18:28:06 GMT -5
I am distressed about having to have a new stage of life. I don't want to change everything. I want to clean up my house and keep it that way. Ditto for my health.
Otherwise I'm happy with my relationship, job, and the beautiful part of the US where I live.
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Post by angelinahedgehog on Jul 21, 2012 18:32:54 GMT -5
I am distressed about having to have a new stage of life. I don't want to change everything. I missed something - what's forcing this change?
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Post by Ally on Jul 21, 2012 19:33:23 GMT -5
Hiding, You don't have to change everything. I think Julie's idea is that we might be stuck in bad patterns that aren't working for us, and old ideas and dreams that didn't pan out. We lost our vision for the future, we are stuck in a rut. Maybe your dream is for a nice clean house where you can relax and actually see the floor. That's pretty much what mine is.
I was stuck in a rut with cleaning/desqulorizing this house, and to be honest, I don't identify with a lot of what Julie writes about in the book, but I decided I'm going to go though my very disorganized house one small area at a time. I'm doing something a little different than the book suggests, because my house isn't organized enough to do what she suggests, and I have too much stuff to organize it at this point.
I'm just picking a spot in the house, and just looking at the things in front of me and deciding, Do I really want to keep this? Why? Will it be helpful in my goals for the future or is it just adding to the squalor? Depending on what I decide, it goes in the trash bag, donation box, or I put it in the room where I plan to deal with it later. Maybe when I get done with the process and I see that I kept 31 tee-shirts I'll redo the separating and heaving. Does that make sense? Maybe we can work together on this since we are not in the same place in our lives as the people in this book are.
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Post by Ally on Jul 21, 2012 19:56:50 GMT -5
Hiding, I found this list on Sunshine's blog. I copied and pasted it into a word document on my computer, editing it a little to fit my circumstances, and then printed it up in a large font, and posted it in a place that I could look at it daily. Today I read it before I started working and kept it near me. Here it is: ... Just because... - it was expensive, doesn't mean it's any use to me
- it was free, doesn't mean it's any use to me, either
[/color] [/li][li]I buy the cleaning products, doesn't make my house any cleaner. [/li][li]I love my son, doesn't mean I need to keep every drawing he has ever done. [/li][li]it might be useful one day, doesn't mean I have to keep it. [/li][li]the laundry is clean and folded, doesn't mean it can stay in the basket. [/li][li]I don't have time to do it perfectly, doesn't mean I shouldn't do it at all. [/li][li]I get rid of something given to me as a gift, doesn't mean I don't appreciate the person who gave it to me. [/li][li]something is a souvenir doesn't mean I need to keep it. [/li][li]someone in my family wants to pass a possession on to me, I am not obligated to accept it. [/li][li]I buy nice beautiful things, doesn't mean it will make my life a nice beautiful life. [/li][li]it is pretty, doesn't mean it will be pretty in my house.
[/li][li]I like it, doesn't mean I need it.[/color] [/li][li]it still holds together enough to wear doesn't mean it's a good idea to keep wearing it. [/li][li]I wish I could wear it, doesn't mean I ever will. [/li][li]I loved them, doesn't mean I can't let them go. [/li][/ul] Thanks to morningglory, daye and mimi, for permission to borrow some of their words which really resonated for me.[/quote] It helps me release the items that need to be released. However, there are some items that I am not currently using that I do want to hold on to. Those would be my treasures. So what I'm saying is that I am doing a modified SHED, and you are welcome to join me in the process.
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Post by ClutterBlind on Jul 21, 2012 20:31:28 GMT -5
Hiding, Jump right in. Read the intro, and the first 3 chapters as quickly or slowly as you want/need to, and if anything resonates with you, or you want to ask questions, make comments, respond to some of the assignments, do so in this thread. There is another thread for chapters 4-9. That is where a few of us are working right now. I'm glad you're here, the more the merrier. Ally Ally, can you add "Ch. 1-3" into the thread title? It wasn't clear when you read the title that this thread is only for that. I thought this was a basic discussion about the book before anyone did any work.
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Post by hiding on Jul 22, 2012 1:26:21 GMT -5
I am distressed about having to have a new stage of life. I don't want to change everything. I missed something - what's forcing this change? Angelina, Perhaps I misunderstood the author, but it sounds like to me, that she thinks everyone wants to or should start a completely new chapter in their lives. Whereas I want a clean, comfortable house, not change into a different person.
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Post by hiding on Jul 22, 2012 1:30:43 GMT -5
Ally,
I can completely relate to what you're saying. I think your modified approach will work better for me than following Julie exactly. We'll see how things unfold as we read and discuss the book. BTW, I really like the idea of having this book discussion group online. I think it's great!
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Post by angelinahedgehog on Jul 22, 2012 5:36:39 GMT -5
Perhaps I misunderstood the author, but it sounds like to me, that she thinks everyone wants to or should start a completely new chapter in their lives. Whereas I want a clean, comfortable house, not change into a different person. Ah, okay. Thank you for explaining that, hiding - I think I understand now. In Chapter 2, "Name your Theme", Julie lists Three Rules for Naming Your Theme. (It's on p. 25 of my copy.) Rule 1 is that your theme should be broad, but then she goes on to state: "However, if you are only feeling a need for career change or relationship change, it's fine to come up with a theme specific to that area." So if you're feeling a need to improve home and health, can you come up with a theme that covers both those areas? ("Cleared for takeoff"? "Dancing on clouds"?) And it doesn't have to be all that appropriate to job, location, and relationship, because those aren't the targets of this SHED.
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Post by seashell on Jul 22, 2012 7:08:35 GMT -5
Ally, thank you for adding "Chapters 1-3" to the heading. I think I was a little confused, as well. I am going with the tentative themes of "Isolation" for previous, and "Reemergence" for the future. These are very broad, and they may change as I continue through the book. I want my home to be a place where people feel comfortable coming, and to achieve that, I not only need a home that is inviting, I need a "me" that is inviting, as well. I want people to be comfortable with me, and, after isolating for so long, that may take a while. I need to be comfortable with myself before people will be comfortable with me. "A man that hath friends must show himself friendly." Proverbs 18:24. I am making progress with this--having several friends dating back 25 years and have made one or two new "acquaintance" friends recently through my support groups. As I clear out, I will be thinking about what fit the "isolation," and what will fit the "reemergence." Since I have already gotten rid of so much stuff, mine may end up being more organizing than getting rid of things. I will have to see as I get into it. My closets are crammed full, and I have goat paths in the bedroom, so I may just be dreaming.
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Post by disarray on Jul 22, 2012 12:10:24 GMT -5
Okay, I just started chapter three. After reading chapter two I've decided on a theme. Freedom.
I want more financial freedom and creative freedom. And the freedom to move without taking everything with me. I need freedom across the board! So that's the one I'm going with.
It was a little hard to pinpoint just one theme because I was really leaning toward self-expression or creativity as my theme, but then I decided freedom could encompass those things.
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