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Post by hiding on Jul 22, 2012 13:36:45 GMT -5
Angelina,
I don't know if you noticed my Avatar and whether consciously or unconsciously you suggested themes aviation related for me, but they are brilliant! I know "Cleared for takeoff" "Dancing on clouds", or my Avatar phrase "I'd rather be flying" can be figurative or literal. In my case they are literal.
Hearing "Cleared for takeoff" from the tower is so exciting to hear, whether one is a passenger on an airline or the pilot in a small, single engine plane. It is a phrase so full of excitement, potential, new adventure, possibilities. "Cleared for takeoff" necessitates the pilot and crew have laser focus to achieve the best outcome.
Duh, *slaps forehead* one has to do a successful takeoff before one can fly.
Thank you AH! You have helped me more than you know.
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Post by hiding on Jul 22, 2012 13:38:14 GMT -5
that's an ooops
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Post by angelinahedgehog on Jul 22, 2012 16:08:37 GMT -5
Angelina, I don't know if you noticed my Avatar ... Hearing "Cleared for takeoff" from the tower is so exciting to hear, whether one is a passenger on an airline or the pilot in a small, single engine plane. It is a phrase so full of excitement, potential, new adventure, possibilities. hiding, I noticed, and it was conscious. I figured that if you had two references (visual and text) to flying in your ID area, it was a pretty good hint as to your interests. So I started thinking about what phrases and themes could come out of that. And if one of them "is a phrase so full of excitement, potential, new adventure, possibilities"... all I can say is wow, and you're welcome!
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Post by Ally on Jul 22, 2012 16:25:30 GMT -5
Angelina, I don't know if you noticed my Avatar and whether consciously or unconsciously you suggested themes aviation related for me, but they are brilliant! I know "Cleared for takeoff" "Dancing on clouds", or my Avatar phrase "I'd rather be flying" can be figurative or literal. In my case they are literal. Hearing "Cleared for takeoff" from the tower is so exciting to hear, whether one is a passenger on an airline or the pilot in a small, single engine plane. It is a phrase so full of excitement, potential, new adventure, possibilities. "Cleared for takeoff" necessitates the pilot and crew have laser focus to achieve the best outcome. Duh, *slaps forehead* one has to do a successful takeoff before one can fly. Thank you AH! You have helped me more than you know. Hiding, This is soooo cool! I'm happy for you. Happy flying!
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Post by ClutterBlind on Jul 22, 2012 17:22:40 GMT -5
I missed something - what's forcing this change? Angelina, Perhaps I misunderstood the author, but it sounds like to me, that she thinks everyone wants to or should start a completely new chapter in their lives. Whereas I want a clean, comfortable house, not change into a different person. I think this book is a departure from the other organizing books Morgenstern has written. Her other books seem to be about just organizing, where this book is about going to core issues - WHY has one become a clutterer/hoarder? And if one can get to the root causes, one wouldn't need to keep acquiring things. She also mentioned that by the time one decides to get organized, one has already gone through the process of making changes in their lives. You may already be there and don't need the in-depth delving of the book. It reminds me of a thread here I read recently. It was from a few months ago where the OP said she routinely has 5 completely empty dumpsters outside her apartment building. She had an impulse to just star tossing everything and fill up as many dumpsters as she could. What was really interesting was that all the hoarders told her, NO, she must KEEP her stuff and go through one piece at a time why she was keeping it, what the piece meant to her, find out if theire was something valuable hiding in each piece before tossing it and go through some ritual before letting it go, otherwise he'd just end up getting more stuff down the road. It was interesting to me that the hoarders, while giving advice & suggestions, still couldn't tell someone else to part with stuff, but all the reasons to keep it. Meanwhile, all the squalorers told her, "Heck, if you have to the impulse to just start filling up bags, then go for it, get RID of it and start to clean up. You might NOT go back to acquiring things. And being able to have a clean apartment might finally mean you'd be able to get into maintenance that much sooner that you would if you took the time to sort through and handle each piece." There were a few squalorers who said that once they got rid of a mound of stuff, they never re-acquired the same amount of stuff again. That huge purge was all it took. That a catastrophic occurrence happened which made them acquire so much stuff or become so depressed or sick that they became squalorous, but they were no longer in that life situation. I think the SHED book would be more for hoarders and squalorers stuck in a rut. Needing an internal change, or to understand that buying things filled some inner hole, heal the hole so that they can finally let go of the outer stuff. I've been journaling Morgenstern's exercise about finding the time right before I became so squalorous and when it all changed. I realized it was a series of catastrophic, life changing events that lead to my downward spiral. As I have been getting my health back, I have been wanting to make changes to move my life & home forward again. I have hope that I won't have a re-occurring situation of becoming so squalorous again once I finally get this place together again, back to the way it was. Hiding, you not might to need to go through all the internal stuff. If you just need motivation or some how-to organize books, this might not be the book for you.
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Post by gadget on Jul 22, 2012 18:51:45 GMT -5
I just found my book yesterday! I have read the first three chapters and I love it! When organizing isn't enough. This has been my problem. I have worked very hard for the last three years to get my house under control. I have great trouble staying in maintenance. I keep climbing on the Flylady band wagon only to fall off again. I need to make lasting changes.
I am being forced to change again. My son is moving out and I am suffering badly with the "Empty Nest" syndrome. I am happy for him. He is buying a house and I know he will be very happy but packing up his things is very painful. I based so much of my identity on being a mother. I don't know how to move into this new phase of life.
I am also reconsidering my career. I am a social worker and I am dealing with a very violent and angry client. He is a level three sex offender and just out of prison. I believe he is dangerous and I am very afraid of him. He cannot be denied services so the only way to avoid him is to leave my job. I know the economy is very bad and this is not the time to quit. I don't know what to do.
My theme is Courage. I will need lots of courage as I move into this new era of my life. I need to make important changes in my life. I need to stand up for myself. Up until now I have always been very shy and I never made waves.
This book is already helping me. For months I have been so stuck in my problems that I could not see a future for myself. I have let everything in my life slide but now I can see a future. I want to step out boldly with Courage.
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Post by Ally on Jul 22, 2012 19:52:31 GMT -5
Gadget, Be Courageous and Go for it!
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Post by seashell on Jul 25, 2012 7:49:24 GMT -5
I love these encouraging posts! Gadget and hiding, I'm looking forward to see how SHEDing plays out in your lives. I finally finished chapter 3, and will definitely be going with the physical stuff first. I'm kind of glad she recommended that because, if she had recommended schedule or habits, my conformity/desire to do things right would have made me feel like I had to do what she suggested first. This way, I'm doing what she recommends AND what I want to do. I am moving on to chapter 4 with the theme "isolation" for the current time and "reemergence" for the future.
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Post by messybessy on Jul 26, 2012 17:12:11 GMT -5
The library finally got a copy of this book in and I've just now started reading it. I'm ready to get started and SHED my present life for one of peace and contentment. I can't be content with a home and life filled with chaos
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Post by Ally on Jul 29, 2012 19:11:40 GMT -5
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