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Post by clearwaterush on Oct 9, 2008 22:36:42 GMT -5
I'm embarrassed. I live in a filthy house. I wish I didn't but I do. I know it is not an excuse, but it just doesn't stay clean when I do do it. I want to be clean. But wishing and wanting aren't enough..no little fairy is going to help me, and neither is any one else apparently.
I have friends with beautiful houses...spotless houses as a matter of fact...So clean you don't want to make a mistake in their house for fear of getting yelled at...Or feel like you should have taken off your shoes.
I hope that this site can help me by stepping out of squalor. My house IS filthy and I want to live in cleanliness.
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Post by notsomessyshell on Oct 9, 2008 23:06:25 GMT -5
Welcome! I kept waiting for the little cleaning fairies to come to my house. They never showed up here either. I admit I don't understand how my friends have such immaculate homes. But we can do a little better everyday.
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Post by UdderChaos on Oct 10, 2008 4:31:19 GMT -5
Howdy howdy I'm new here too. And I think some people took two cleaning fairies instead of one when they were handing them out, so now there's a whole bunch of us out there with none. Greedy buggers.
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Post by clearwaterush on Oct 10, 2008 6:52:38 GMT -5
Ok, so now what do I do now? There are a few goodthings that I do do. I hate garbage and food stuff on cabinets, so I take these out every day...sometimes more. My husband smokes cigeretts and I keep his ashtray dumped up to three times a day, with a clean ashtray each morning.
My bathroom stool is always gleaming(afraid of germs in here). Now here is a topic. My kitchen is the pits with old dishes etc. piled high and no more left to eat off of and I'm afraid of a germs in my stool! Go figure. I do vaccum once a week, dusting seems to be a missing option.
My laundry is done up and laid out in stacks waiting to be folded and put away. Ironing is a have to case when I need certain items ironed for on the go. My extra bedroom is completely done up for the three grandboys of 3, 5, and 7. I have done a humongous mural on the wall of Hulk jumping from high towering rocks into a third demention of Jurrasic Park.... In this bedroom everything is in its place and all the toys etc are organized.... The Dining room seems to be a collectable for all the things that I've moved from my other rooms that I don't want there.
And last is our bedroom-The bed never seems to get made, I do change the sheets weekly. I'm having a hard time getting the clothes put up. I do have a plastic pail for the dirty ones. I'm trying to figure out how I want to decorate the rrom but with no luck so far.
Can you guys suggest what I should do first? I need some peace and organization. I just need it done and to keep it done...
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Post by eagle on Oct 10, 2008 9:08:24 GMT -5
Ok, so now what do I do now? There are a few goodthings that I do do. I hate garbage and food stuff on cabinets, so I take these out every day...sometimes more. My husband smokes cigeretts and I keep his ashtray dumped up to three times a day, with a clean ashtray each morning. My bathroom stool is always gleaming(afraid of germs in here). Now here is a topic. My kitchen is the pits with old dishes etc. piled high and no more left to eat off of and I'm afraid of a germs in my stool! Go figure. I do vaccum once a week, dusting seems to be a missing option. My laundry is done up and laid out in stacks waiting to be folded and put away. Ironing is a have to case when I need certain items ironed for on the go. My extra bedroom is completely done up for the three grandboys of 3, 5, and 7. I have done a humongous mural on the wall of Hulk jumping from high towering rocks into a third demention of Jurrasic Park.... In this bedroom everything is in its place and all the toys etc are organized.... The Dining room seems to be a collectable for all the things that I've moved from my other rooms that I don't want there. And last is our bedroom-The bed never seems to get made, I do change the sheets weekly. I'm having a hard time getting the clothes put up. I do have a plastic pail for the dirty ones. I'm trying to figure out how I want to decorate the rrom but with no luck so far. Can you guys suggest what I should do first? I need some peace and organization. I just need it done and to keep it done... Welcome, CWR. I would suggest starting with the bed when you get up, by making it. Then I would suggest doing a sinkful of dishes. Join us in ListZilla and share your ToDo List and your TaDas. We'll cheer you on as you get things done, and encourage you as the days go by. What I found that worked for me was to link the behaviors I wanted to make habit to already existing behaviors. For example, I get up every day. So I linked daily laundry to getting up. I now do a load of laundry every day. It has become second nature. I linked making the bed to getting up. You don't have to do it that way, but it worked for me and feels good to see the bed made whenever I walk into the room. Getting the dishes done can be a real chore when they are piled high and there's nothing clean. But if you do just one sinkful at a time, and then go do something else for awhile, then do another sinkful later, pretty soon it's not that big a deal. Later on, you can start linking the habit of washing dishes with an already existing behavior. I linked it to cooking and eating. When I cook, I wash dishes. When I eat I wash dishes. Mostly it's a 'clean as I go' habit, meaning I wash dishes as I use them. Perhaps you can think of habits that you already have that are reliable and link one desired behavior to one of them. Try it with only one new behavior for as many days as it takes to make you feel like you have made it a new habit (some say a month, for some it may be longer).
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Post by messymimi on Oct 10, 2008 13:16:20 GMT -5
Welcome, cwr !
You are among friends here who will never fuss if you spill something. After all, in my house, how would I know?
For the dishes you have several choices, but I will outline two. Commit to cleaning whatever you use each day, plus 3 to 5 more items, until it is done. Or throw everything out and go buy new dishes (some people have done that here when the dishes had mold on them and they would never use them again anyway).
Clothes are a bear of a problem, because we all tend to keep way too many. One good rule is if you haven't worn it in a year, give it away or throw it away. You can also have a personal "fashion show". Try on everything, and whatever does not make you feel fabulous and fit well, get it gone. Decide before you try them on how much of each clothing category you will keep.
Hope this gives you a few ideas of where to begin, and if you find where the cleaning fairies hide, let us in on it please .
messymimi
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Post by houseworkhater on Oct 10, 2008 15:52:49 GMT -5
welcome! you will find friends here!
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Post by clearwaterush on Oct 10, 2008 18:33:30 GMT -5
I'm posting my next message on Listzilla and from now on. Thanks to you all!
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Post by crazycatlady on Oct 11, 2008 10:51:28 GMT -5
Welcome, ClearWaterRush. You are among friends here, who understand how overwhelming it can be. I used to take pride in not making my bed, thinking what is the use if I'm getting back in at the end of the day? But as Eagle said, every time you see the made up bed, you smile a little, knowing that you did it. Give it a try, won't you?
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Post by clearwaterush on Oct 11, 2008 13:59:36 GMT -5
Wow! my last post I made here sounded pretty crappy. It's going slow today. Today I got a zinger of a head ake deciding over the cookbooks, and even though I chose more than I was going to I make the decision.
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Post by limegreen on Oct 11, 2008 19:05:40 GMT -5
CCL, who got in and made a picture of my kitchen sink? Ugh! Clearwaterush, you must be my missing twin, as my WC is clean and shiny, and I won't have it any other way, but my kitchen is a foetid pit.
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Post by need2bfree on Oct 12, 2008 3:02:04 GMT -5
Clearwater you paint? Sounds like that mural is beautiful!! Bet the kids love it:)
Glad you found us here, stick around you'll see, we kinda grow on ya, in a good way:)
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Post by heylady1 on Oct 12, 2008 10:28:31 GMT -5
Welcome Clearwaterush!! I'm the opposite of you! My kitchen is pretty darn clean but the bathroom? Mhem not so clean. I am rather anal about certain things and the kitchen is one of them. I think Eagle's idea of doing a sinkful of dishes then go do something else for awhile then do another sinkful is a good idea. Gives you a break and makes the job smaller. I would love to see a pic of the mural you painted!!! Oh, and if you find any of them cleaning fairies send one my way.....((( slips $20 bill discreetly under the table)))
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Post by clearwaterush on Oct 12, 2008 12:21:45 GMT -5
I do have a picture of the mural and I'll get it on so everyone can see it. The grandkids, 3, 5, and 7 LOVE it. When they come over it's like GRANDMA'S CRAFT DAYS. I and the boys are presently hand painting a pressed stone cowboy and Indian set my husband pick up at the flea market for $60.00! It's all I can do to move it from the big 26" by 26" square all wood coffee table that I bought for $5.00!
My kitchen has stayed clean. I still have my upper shelf to wash off today. I am working on a morning routine and a weekly schedule as I feel this is the way to go. I get sidetracked very easily and need directions on what to do. I cannot trust myself to decide. However on my cookbooks my decision was good. I don't miss the ones I threw out. Now, I'm still wonder what to do with the box of cleaning stuff........
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Post by clearwaterush on Oct 17, 2008 13:02:55 GMT -5
MY SHORT LIFE STORY
It is time that I spill the beans on myself, after reading other peoples stories.
At 8 years old I was adopted with my sister. I had a problem peeing my pants and wetting the bed. No medicine etc. helped me. My adopted dad cooked, cleaned, worked, and drank. He never sided with me in anything, always taking the adopted mom's side. She never did anything. Just sat on the couch and watched TV. Everyday like clockwork, she'd put her white gloves on (NO, I'm not kidding) and check our room. My sister could do no wrong in anything, including her looks...she passed all the tests! If there was dust, I didn't get my allowance, (Which was by the way a whopping 25 cents!!!!) The allowance came to mean nothing after awhile). If one piece of clothing was out of place, all the drawers got dumped. If the bed wasn't made with the proper corners, etc., the bed was tore up. I CAN TELL you today that our clothes are perfectly folded and neat in the drawers. I never learned on the bed.......
I was not allowed to have friend's over. My sister was. She had a beautiful Blind girl over a lot. (My sister eventually entered the peace core and then the army). I endured daily beatings from my adoptive mom, from ear pulling, to head bashing.
Finally I'd had my last beating by her at age 19 and was going to take my dad's gun(He and my uncle worked on a money train for the government), and get out of this mess, because "I felt THIS WAS THE THING TO DO BECAUSE THERE WAS NO WAY OUT".
THE HAND OF GOD touched me as I approached the top of the basement stairs with the gun in my hand, as I found myself say "nothing is worth all this.". I put the gun back, and that next day I went to school and used the phone to get me a live-in babysitting job, and then I quit school and went home and told my mom a lady was picking me up for a job. I packed my belongings that fit into to brown grocery sacks (all of my 13 years there) and left the house and never looked back.
THAT DAY I DID NOT WET MY PANTS AND THAT NIGHT I STAYED DRY FOR THE FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE. I was free........(I was babysitting for the folks that hired my NOW hubby of 40 yrs. who was working in construction!) I feel God was watching out for me, that it was not yet my time..
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