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Post by CourageouslyLion SeeksSerenity on May 12, 2009 17:34:34 GMT -5
- Hi ! I just read this thread now, for the first time. I've been in an ongoing intensive workshop class this week, and am still enrolled. So I've missed a lot of threads. Taking a five-minute break from my homework to log onto SOS ... and found this thread. Here's a link to Oregon law for mobile home parks and manufactured housing parks: www.osbar.org/public/legalinfo/1249_RightsMobileHome.htmNote there are rules for this. They cannot evict you instantaneously. Proper procedures must be followed. It takes time to process. And there are steps in the process. And there are sometimes conditions for them to allow you time to clean up the mess. Just read the link I gave. More Oregon rental laws here: www.osbar.org/public/legalinfo/tenant.htmlKnow your rights. Knowledge is power. I have to log off now and get to my homework. Not sure when I'll log on again. But I'll be thinking of you! Hugs, Lioness -
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Post by houseworkhater on May 12, 2009 18:05:18 GMT -5
Thinking of you, CP, and hoping things are improving for you. I hope you catch a whole bunch of breaks, and soon.
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Post by howardsgirlfriend on May 12, 2009 18:43:49 GMT -5
You might have already found this, but just in case you haven't, here's the link to Oregon Helps: oregonhelps.org/goIt's an on-line referral system for Oregonians, determining whether they're eligible for assistance with food, housing, medical, senior & disabled services, etc. Keep at it. The fact that you're going through this with such a good head on your shoulders, means that you have the potential to have a transformational experience.
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Post by gettingsomewhere on May 13, 2009 9:07:06 GMT -5
thinking of you punk. hope you are making some progress as it's the middle of the night. wish i was there. but i hope it may offer you a little comfort to know that i think you are absolutely awesome. you can do this, and if there is help to be d you are in the right place to find it. x
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Post by clutterpunk on May 13, 2009 13:56:52 GMT -5
Today I'm feeling it. My hands are kind of swollen and aching so much it get waking me up. My back's sore, my legs, the soles of my feet, but my hands hurt the worst right now.
We didn't get much done yesterday. Sacks are out of the kitchen now, at least, and some stuff from my closet went out, but no actual new sacking. Today I've got the coffee brewing and am trying to find some energy, because that living room is seriously psyching me out.
I have three cats, older and one is a special needs cat, and I'm having a hell of a time trying to find new homes for them. I spoke to a very unsympathetic woman at Cat Adoption Team who simply told me they were full and to try the humane society, which has a three month wait, and maybe I could find someone to 'foster' them until then. Yeah. If I could find foster homes for them, I wouldn't be CALLING YOU, LADY. Argh.
There's just so many walls, right now... And I feel like I'm hitting them all with my face.
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Post by autumn on May 13, 2009 14:48:17 GMT -5
Hi CP, I just read your thread. My heart goes out to you. I am astounded at your progress and determination. You have alot going on and are handling it alot better than you think you are. Just know we are out here rooting for you!
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Post by puppybox on May 13, 2009 16:20:48 GMT -5
How about just doing 1 thing in the living room for now. Literally only one thing, no more, since you're in pain. That way, you've STARTED. also the psychological barrier has a brick torn out of it. you're really doing great even though it doesn't feel that way.
I don't think this is a good idea, generally, but since the landlord is a meanie, can't you a) leave him a lot of stuff to deal with himself? I'm sure he thinks you're going to, anyway. b) talk to him and agree to get the place in good order before you leave, if he gives you another month to do it in? or 2 weeks or whatever. c) threaten him that you hate him and want to leave, but haven't found a place yet and if he evicts you this week end you'll put a dead fish deep inside in the air vent? or blow up the toilet?
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Post by clutterpunk on May 13, 2009 21:53:43 GMT -5
Puppybox - While I like option 3 the best, sadly none of them are terribly feasible. I'm trying not to leave this place in a state that will give him cause to sue us, or call the authorities/news, etc. I realize I'll likely have to leave at least SOME mess here, but the current state of the living room as it stands right now, is definitely NOT something I can leave.
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Post by howardsgirlfriend on May 13, 2009 23:51:36 GMT -5
What would be helpful to you?
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Post by clutterpunk on May 14, 2009 0:49:39 GMT -5
I think I'm just feeling over stressed, honestly. I hope my replies and responses aren't coming off as irritated or unwilling to accept help. Honestly I'm just being realistic as to my situation and my landlord and the actual level of squalor still left in this house. I spose it's a tad unfair of me to expect people to understand without any real concept of the situation, and I've considered taking pictures, but it's so hard to look at them myself let alone think of posting them in a place where anyone could see them.
When it comes down to it, I'm a liar. I lie every single day, hundreds of times a day. It's everything from "Oh, sorry, you can't use my bathroom because we can't have visitors here since our house insurance got canceled." to "How did I cut my foot on a random piece of metal? Oh, uh, it was a can I'd dropped on the floor lastnight when I was taking out the trash..." It's everything I have to leave out when retelling stories that are just too funny to not tell. It's every time I get a panic attack when someone's driving me home worrying that they'll ask to come inside for any variety of reasons. It's being outside of my house and catching wiffs of the smell and it's every single lie I've ever told to myself or anyone else about the cause of said smell.
You become a lot of things, as a squalor-ee. Some are bad, the kind of habits that you'll never learn to break, but some, some are the kind of things that assure you of your ability to take whatever the hell Madam Life throws at you. And she's got a hell of an aim, and only ever seems to fling bowling balls anchored with lead weights. The most important part is knowing how to work the system. And you become an expert, those lies coming off your lips so easily that you sometimes catch yourself wondering if you lie about other things, or what you'll do if you ever find yourself not having anything to lie about, anymore.
I'm nothing if not savvy and street smart about this. I've learned, from my mother, the veteran, how to manipulate and dodge the system, how to stave off bills for a little longer, how to soothe the angry landlords and bill collectors. I know what to say and how to say it, and I know nothing better than the Art of Saving Your Own A$$. I could probably teach a course in it.
But I'm bipolar, with a side of anxiety and some extra personality disorders added, and sometimes, no matter how much I still continue to fight, I'm convinced the world has it out for me. I can be stubborn and I can be the kind of person to shoot down every good idea and every helpful suggestion and I apologize in advance because as it turns out, as much as I need support, I tend to not let most people get close enough to give it to me. I'm so used to be alone, a loner, stuck here with my big fat secret and closet full of happy dancing skeletons that I'm no longer even certain how one goes about such things as letting someone take a corner or a load bearing column of my burden.
So I ask for patience from you all, because as I clean up this mess that used to be my life, I'm not only bagging up the years of junk and misery, but I'm also chipping away at the hard veneer I've had to wear to live in such a caustic environment for so darn long.
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Post by def6 on May 14, 2009 7:42:43 GMT -5
Hey Clutterplunk,
I keep checking back with you because I'm really worried about you finding an apartment. I would make a list of any and all family members and friends, surely someone knows of a place. Don't be too shy to ask people, they will understand when they hear what is happening. An opportunity will present itself , it has to. I know you are doing all you can to get the place cleaned out....Clutterplunk, my heart goes out to you. You are trying so hard for you and your family. I pray something wonderful happens for you one day.
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Post by def6 on May 14, 2009 7:49:48 GMT -5
I hope you know clutter plunk that your posts here read like a novel. You must be highly talented and intelligent. You're made of good stuff. Keep going.
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Post by breakingfree on May 14, 2009 8:04:24 GMT -5
I hope you know clutter plunk that your posts here read like a novel. You must be highly talented and intelligent. You're made of good stuff. Keep going. Ditto. and know that many here have you in our thoughts and prayers. We're rootin' for ya! BF
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Post by AnnieOkie on May 14, 2009 13:08:21 GMT -5
CP wrote: "It's every time I get a panic attack when someone's driving me home worrying that they'll ask to come inside for any variety of reasons."
I've been there. Several times my fiance would bring me home and I prayed he would not need to use the restroom. Once, he and a friend both needed to go. It was dark outside, so I asked them to go in the yard to the side of the house. I cringe with that memory. It felt good when I had he and his friend over for dinner at Christmas....I could actually let them in the house and not feel ashamed. The entire house is still not squalor-free, but not bad enough that I have to tell someone to pee in my yard!
You will get there. I can "hear" the toughness and dedication in your posts.
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Post by gottaproblem on May 14, 2009 14:19:42 GMT -5
Oh I also cringe at not letting someone in. I had a cousin, who never visits stop by once as I was leaving and ask to use my bathroom. I said oh sorry I have to run. It was terrible. If things had not been so bad I would have let him in even if I had to leave. I am still embarrassed and it has been years. He never mentioned it and I certainly won't ever bring it up. Clutterpunk: I also enjoy the way you are telling your story. You have a real talent with words. It is ok to dismiss help we give that you do not feel ready to use. We have all been there, well I have anyway. Use what you can and keep coming back, because no matter how you use the help offered here, we care!!!!!
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