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Post by TheCatsFosterMother on Jun 1, 2012 18:05:13 GMT -5
I can't remember - even though it's less than a month since I joined! I think the process of discovery was wiped from my mind by my excitement and relief on realising a welcoming and regularly used forum existed for people who struggled with housework and squalor. I don't know what words I typed into Google that made a link to Squalor Survivors appear. I do know though that I was feeling terribly frustrated at my failure to get to grips with my house, which had been sinking deeper and deeper into squalor over a period of several years. Sometimes I would manage to get a work surface or perhaps the kitchen table clear, but that was all - a mere dent in the surface, which would then revert to "normal" with dispiriting rapidity. I tried Flylady a couple of years ago but found it complicated and overwhelming; I liked the sink shining and swish and swipe, but started wilting at the idea of a control journal. The email barrage was exhausting too so I unsubscribed. Admittedly I was still drinking shedloads back then but stopping drinking in itself, which I did last summer, had little effect on my (lack of) housekeeping. I was feeling alone, ashamed and frustrated when I typed whatever it was into Google that brought me here. Thank you again, to the founders of this forum and to everyone who posts here  |
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Post by dixieamazon on Nov 18, 2016 12:44:00 GMT -5
Google was my friend. I had be researching hoarding and there was a link to the old site and from there to SOS.
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Post by nonchalant on Nov 18, 2016 14:57:35 GMT -5
I didn't grow up in squalor (that happened later, when my family moved), but the family does have the hoarder gene. Some of our relatives hid it better than others; I couldn't, past a certain age, say 14, invite friends over for fear of what they'd see. I never learned from my mother how to clean. Got it all from books. Sidetracked Home Executives, or whatever they're called, was far too complicated. Morgenstern's advice was good to a point. The Hoarder TV shows could send me into a cleaning frenzy, but I couldn't keep watching; the answers seemed too pat. Flylady? Some of it good also, but do not ever tell me to wear lace-up shoes and expect to prance away unharmed.  My own home went through a personal worst when my mother passed away and we moved the entire contents of her apartment into our house. It took years to deal with that. How DID I find this place anyway? I think I stumbled on it by accident from being on another ProBoard. I read and lurked a lot at first, then joined and posted. |
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Post by PaperGrace on Nov 18, 2016 20:16:31 GMT -5
My story is the same as many of these. It was so nice to read them all.  Thanks for the bump dixieamazonI'd never noticed this thread before! I ended up on the Squalor Survivors webpage sort of by accident, following a link from an unrelated forum and spent the better part of my day there. From there to here I've had some epiphanies and some varied stages of shock/denial/acceptance/crushing defeat, all in the course of an evening. Signing up was a big step. I'm a little bit emotionally spent right now, hope to interact some next time I'm online. --Grace |
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Post by itsybitsy on Nov 18, 2016 22:32:15 GMT -5
I believe I googled "chronic disorganization" or something to that effect. I, too, did not lurk for long, but decided that it was a genuinely helpful resource and community and signed up.
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