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Post by morethan on Jan 25, 2009 20:05:48 GMT -5
I am a hoarder. Have hoarded different things over the years. LOVE to read. Would keep every book if I could. Still have too many. But, what I've had to do is stop and ask myself "does this bring you joy?" If the answer is yes, then it's a keeper. But, clearly, you feel compelled to keep stuff - but it no longer brings you the joy it's meant to bring. The controller is becoming controlled by the paper. I don't have any quick answers. But, the pp who pointed out how much you justified was onto something. Anytime we spend that much time justifying something, we're pretty sure we're not going to like the obvious answer. I don't think it's something you can "just do." But, I think it's something you can do. And, I'm also curious as to whether or not your therapist realizes you are a hoarder. My guess would be no. Good luck on your paper trail. I think there's a happy medium for you. I hope you find some answers here. I know I have.
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Post by paperpiler on Jan 25, 2009 20:22:05 GMT -5
[And, I'm also curious as to whether or not your therapist realizes you are a hoarder. My guess would be no.]
Actually, the answer is yes, he indeed knows that I am a hoarder of paper, but I won't disclose anything further than that on a board.
By the way, I don't think I've justified many things at all. What I have done is explain feelings and how my feelings come into play in interaction with the paper itself. It doesn't make any one person's interpretations correct, especially if they're not professionally trained and especially when they're only getting a basic story, and not the many contributing factors.
However, all thoughts have value to me. I'm free to agree or disagree with them.
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Post by morethan on Jan 25, 2009 21:40:23 GMT -5
[And, I'm also curious as to whether or not your therapist realizes you are a hoarder. My guess would be no.] Actually, the answer is yes, he indeed knows that I am a hoarder of paper, but I won't disclose anything further than that on a board. By the way, I don't think I've justified many things at all. What I have done is explain feelings and how my feelings come into play in interaction with the paper itself. It doesn't make any one person's interpretations correct, especially if they're not professionally trained and especially when they're only getting a basic story, and not the many contributing factors. However, all thoughts have value to me. I'm free to agree or disagree with them. I apologize. I didn't mean to offend. You are, of course, right. There's no easy answer. And, there's no way I could "diagnose" you. I was just looking at it through my own "glasses" and they don't always work well. I wish you much luck as you tackle your paper.
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Post by paperpiler on Jan 25, 2009 21:47:10 GMT -5
You didn't offend at all. I greatly appreciate all the input, and I'm putting all of this info into the brain and seeing what registers as applicable to me and what doesn't. That's all. The bits and pieces are coming together, and I'm grateful.
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