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Post by closetofchaos on Mar 10, 2017 17:37:35 GMT -5
Arid I know this is a bizarre question, but why do people tell other people they are looking tired or pekid or whatever when nothing is probably wrong? Is it that THEY in fact are tired and not feeling well and trying to express that outwardly in a projective sort of way? (Haha, I'm being more of a psychologist than my so-called worker ) I'm just wondering where all of that uncalled for negative commenting about someone's appearance is coming from, because it's strange and dysfunctional.
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Post by closetofchaos on Mar 10, 2017 17:47:27 GMT -5
def6 This worker expects me to explain everything she does wrong but it's too frustrating. They are behaviors out of her that are repeated that I feel I should not have to explain in the first place. The things I have explained, she "forgets" and repeats. So the frustration on my end never sees resolution.
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Post by closetofchaos on Mar 10, 2017 17:54:47 GMT -5
I'll share another instance. Again, this is another centered around my appearance. I'm not sure why this is a reoccurring theme with this worker but it seems to be: my mother is narcissistic and obsessed with my hair. I explained this. Whenever I do something with my hair my mother doesn't like, my mother throws a tantrum, as if it's her hair and I have done something to personally disgrace her. My current hair color style is one I've gotten nothing but positive feedback on and I'm really pleased with it. I was sharing how frustrated I was having a narcissistic mother and then the worker tells me that SHE doesn't like my hair. So I inform her that she couldn't be missing the point any more than she is and that her opinion doesn't matter because I'm the one who likes my hair and I'm the only one who needs to.
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Post by def6 on Mar 10, 2017 18:04:46 GMT -5
I have a person in my life just like that closetofchaos This person always makes those "You must be tired...you look awful" comments and She has done it for the last 28 years I have known her. On rare occasions she has been on someone else case, so I know it's not just me that she makes feel uncomfortable. Even though I do not want to spend my time batteling with this person...I give her a good dose of her own medicine if I have to. Don't allow this person to push your buttons, report her to her supervisor.
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Post by closetofchaos on Mar 10, 2017 18:50:07 GMT -5
def6 I think I need to take your advice on this one. This lady used to be really nice and would do anything to help anyone but lately just pulling this weird crap. I know who to go to with this too. I'm going to take care of it Monday morning, I think. Thank you:)
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Post by H2H on Mar 10, 2017 19:04:08 GMT -5
closetofchaos I don't want to "spin" either of us up any further, but your dimwit protected us gov. employee reminds me of an awful woman, an NP I have who I MUST see 2x a year for renewing depression meds at the VA clinic.
If we complain or cry or say much of anything it is noted as being uncooperative or highly anxious...etc. the CONCEPT they caused a problem is never acknowledged.
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Post by closetofchaos on Mar 10, 2017 20:08:12 GMT -5
H2H Am I simply better off moving on to somewhere else I can get medication without the interference of this person?
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Post by closetofchaos on Mar 10, 2017 20:09:48 GMT -5
H2H While not filing a complaint?
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Post by closetofchaos on Mar 10, 2017 20:26:25 GMT -5
hollyhock She is supposed to be helping me but she is annoying and distressing me so much by not listening or understanding that she is hindering me at this point. She is making me sorry that I sought her assistance and her a chance. Their organization is pretty flimsy in the first place and few people there have made me really feel comfortable. The more that I think about it, I don't mind not seeing any of them again. I am pretty pleased with the medications I am currently taking, however. As far as I can tell, my level of functionality is high comparatively. I'm doing well with my goal setting and achievement. I'm tackling my squalor in a methodical pace and I'm doing pretty well considering all of the other things I'm having to deal with in my life, which are heartbreaking to say the least.
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Post by closetofchaos on Mar 10, 2017 20:43:13 GMT -5
shellsncheese Thank you for the compliment btw! It seems to be the general consensus. I'm getting so much nice feedback about my appearance lately. Even my mother, who initially becomes extremely distressed when I don't want to look like a clone of her (blonde) has had to admit that this is a good look for me. I've become healthier. My hair is thicker now as well. I'm no longer bleaching it. I'm not stressed out like I was, except of course for that social worker and dealing with her obtuse, behaviors. . I feel that I may just be better working independently, after all. I may be too high-functioning for these programs. That sounds sort of snotty but after reading more of their literature it has me pondering.
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Post by closetofchaos on Mar 10, 2017 20:49:22 GMT -5
@shellsnsheese I probably will also have eternal anxiety having people in my home. No matter what, besides the fact that I'm a decorator, and (wrap your mind around this one) people hire me to clean their hoards * hey, it's because I never judge or report, I will probably NEVER feel ok about people coming over. It's like someone who was once obese ever feeling ok about their figure even if they are skinny now. Ironically, because I'm an artist and decorator, people are always trying to drop by! They are fascinated by my home (and NOT morbidly even!) Which I don't understand ! So I am stuck in this eternal ironic conundrum being a decorator, fighting a hoarding problem, being an artist (most of us are naturally messy folk) and it's a vicious cycle.
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Post by closetofchaos on Mar 10, 2017 20:52:27 GMT -5
Oh, and then to add to it, I have a chemical imbalance giving me occasional emotional issues with whacky hormones and this nutty obtuse lady pulling this crap. So yes, Closet has stuff going on:0 Oh My!
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Post by closetofchaos on Mar 10, 2017 22:51:27 GMT -5
I spoke to a friend about this just now and he opined that the woman is going senile. I put her age at late sixties, early seventies, and I feel that's a bit early. My Grammy was still sharp as a tack into her mid-nineties. My friend told me not everyone ages so well and how fortunate for my Grammy!
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Post by closetofchaos on Mar 10, 2017 22:55:59 GMT -5
The woman also has chronic illnesses and marijuana is legal in our state. I don't want to sterotype everyone who uses it medicinally but I have to wonder if she uses it perhaps, and an awful lot? Sorry if that offended anyone:/ I have used it before and it can make some people downright...silly.
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Post by shellsncheese on Mar 10, 2017 23:01:38 GMT -5
At the end of the day it really doesn't matter if this woman is senile or using pot or just a b*tch, if it's not helpful to you, time to move on from her. You have enough to deal with in life without someone hindering your progress.
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