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Post by tiredofthis on Oct 7, 2008 7:44:37 GMT -5
The soon-to-be-ex stopped by yesterday morning to pick up his copy of the property settlement agreement, which include the dates he asked for regarding removal of his stuff. Supposedly, he is going to get his signature notarized, and bring the agreement to court tomorrow. I haven't heard a word out of him since yesterday morning. Wish me luck.
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Post by tiredofthis on Oct 9, 2008 7:23:37 GMT -5
HE SIGNED THE AGREEMENT! Went to court yesterday. The divorce should be final by the beginning of October. All his stuff has to be gone from the garage by May 1. I can live with that. I can't keep my house. I'm so happy. Thanks everyone, for your suggestions and support.
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Post by CourageouslyLion SeeksSerenity on Oct 9, 2008 7:42:16 GMT -5
- HE SIGNED THE AGREEMENT! Went to court yesterday. The divorce should be final by the beginning of October. All his stuff has to be gone from the garage by May 1. I can live with that. I can't keep my house. I'm so happy. Thanks everyone, for your suggestions and support. Did you mean you can keep your house, or you cannot keep your house? -
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Post by tiredofthis on Oct 10, 2008 21:36:59 GMT -5
- Did you mean you can keep your house, or you cannot keep your house? - Thanks for asking, lioness. I just re-read this.. I most have been half asleep. I should have said that the divorce should be final by the beginning of November and that I CAN keep my house. I feel wonderful.
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Post by CourageouslyLion SeeksSerenity on Oct 10, 2008 22:33:03 GMT -5
I should have said that the divorce should be final by the beginning of November and that I CAN keep my house.
I feel wonderful. A cup of hot tea/coffee/chocolate ... to toast to new beginnings! -
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Post by greenfuzz on Oct 11, 2008 0:00:47 GMT -5
Congratulations tired of this!
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Post by Arid on Oct 11, 2008 3:16:41 GMT -5
Frankly, it sounds to me like your situation DOES need to go before a judge! Be sure to take all the paperwork that spells out how much is owed due to your stbx's not getting things out of storage in a timely fashion and his not paying the storage bills. I would think that a decent judge would not hold you to be responsible for paying those. Also, the judge will see what you are dealing with so far as your stbx's hoarding issues.
I don't recommend that you sell off any of his things or that you throw out any of his things without a court's permission.
Good luck on Wednesday.
Arid
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Post by Arid on Oct 11, 2008 3:18:56 GMT -5
Whoops! I see that I missed seeing that there was a Page 2 to this thread!
I'm glad that things went well in court.
Arid
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Post by tiredofthis on Oct 11, 2008 8:16:28 GMT -5
Thanks, everyone. He showed up at court, signed the agreement, and then said he had to leave!!!! Fortunately, the judge accepted the signed, notarized agreement, without him being present. Had he been there, he probably would have made things worse. It all went well. I'm happy. I made some poor decisions in that relationship, and hopefully I've learned from it. In the end, from that relationship, I have my two wonderful children who are my heart and my life, so I can't really complain. And, I have my house, which I am working very hard to desqualor, and make a true home.
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Post by pegasus48 on Oct 11, 2008 12:06:03 GMT -5
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Post by tiredofthis on Oct 12, 2008 0:02:09 GMT -5
Thanks, Pegasus!
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Post by need2bfree on Oct 12, 2008 1:38:28 GMT -5
WooooooooooHooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Many congrat's to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Here's to a NEW life!!!!!!!!!!!!!(toasting with hot coco)
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Post by tiredofthis on Nov 5, 2008 8:08:19 GMT -5
This is an update and call for support! (I guess I'm kind of needy) My final decree should be filed today. The ex only has 7 more days to get everything out of the house. He still has a lot to do. He was here yesterday, and got in an argument with our daughter; out of spite, he took the only two items she had asked him to leave for her. I'm a little afraid of what his behavior will be like for the next week. And, I feel badly that my daughter will bear the brunt of it, because she is at home during the day more than I am. Please send peaceful vibes my way!
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Post by Blackswan on Nov 5, 2008 9:42:06 GMT -5
So the issue is that you need a date on the paper that says when he will take his stuff, otherwise you have to go to court because that is unresolved, right? He is a hoarder, and thinking irrationally, and no date will make him happy. Why don't you just lie to him and say you need to put a date on the paper, but you won't really stick by it, you just want something to be in writing so the paperwork is complete. Then, when the date comes, put everything outside. Of course, after he signs the papers, and the divorce is final, you will give him plenty of warning as the date approaches, the tricking will just be temporary.
I know it is unethical, but you need to get the job done, and he is not rational right now. Its kind of like telling a kid a shot won't hurt.
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Post by lilith on Nov 5, 2008 9:52:36 GMT -5
A divorce is always a terrible thing. It is the death of a dream and a future for all involved. Soon it will be time for all of you to build your new future, but the end probably will be messy and, really, shouldn't it? If he looked at you now the way he did your best year together, it would be too much for him to bare. Maybe he hurt your daughter because he wanted someone to hurt as badly as he does and she was the only one he had to hurt. Not very gracious but terribly human. Just because he took those items doesn't mean he can't bring them back. Just because he has been a jerk in the past doesn't mean he won't someday do better. If you can somehow dredge up any compassion or kindness for him, you will give your kids a gift they will remember forever. No matter how mad and disapointed they are with both of you, there is a huge space for you to be bigger than these circumstances seem to dictate.
It possible, try to have somewhere else for your daughter to be like a friend's house. May all of you move through these days as easily as possible. I am with you.
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