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Post by ohblondie on Feb 2, 2015 9:12:12 GMT -5
Imamess.........making a quilt has always been one of my life goals. I admire you!!! Making it a reward for doing those not so pleasant jobs is a smart move. .....
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Post by angela on Feb 2, 2015 14:26:15 GMT -5
I'm glad you got the clothes dayeanu. I wonder, was the feeling that you did bad the consequence of the impulsive nature of the shopping? For me, because I made a mess of all sorts of things (financial, excess stuff) because of impulsive shopping, I don't entirely trust myself about ANY acquisition. I feel guilt-ridden with purchases over $20 ..illogical for sure since a handful of silly $20 impulse purchases easily add up to a full-on shopping trip of NEW things that I've planned. I think that's the heart of it for me at least...thoughtful, controlled, planned purchases of things that enhance my life, okay. Tuned out, bored, unplanned...not so okay. I need to be able to trust myself in matters of acquisition, household habits, self-care, and financial responsibility.
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Post by angela on Feb 2, 2015 14:28:55 GMT -5
imamess I'm glad you got your quilt fabric. I love that you are making a quilt to reward yourself right now. What a wonderful, comforting thing to do for yourself.
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Post by dayeanu on Feb 3, 2015 23:08:20 GMT -5
I'm glad you got the clothes dayeanu. I wonder, was the feeling that you did bad the consequence of the impulsive nature of the shopping? For me, because I made a mess of all sorts of things (financial, excess stuff) because of impulsive shopping, I don't entirely trust myself about ANY acquisition. I feel guilt-ridden with purchases over $20 ..illogical for sure since a handful of silly $20 impulse purchases easily add up to a full-on shopping trip of NEW things that I've planned. I think that's the heart of it for me at least...thoughtful, controlled, planned purchases of things that enhance my life, okay. Tuned out, bored, unplanned...not so okay. I need to be able to trust myself in matters of acquisition, household habits, self-care, and financial responsibility. angela, even though the shopping trip was planned on very short notice, and even though I bought way more than I went into the store to buy, I have realized it really wasn't an impulsive purchase. Earlier in the day when I had gotten dressed for the (cancelled) meeting, I was faced with the fact that I have gained so much weight, all my nice clothes are really and truly too tight. (Plus they are 10 years old.) I was SO RELIEVED that the meeting was cancelled, so that no one saw me. I am rarely ever bothered by what I am wearing, but the degree of embarrassment and relief I felt shocked me. And I knew I had a work assignment in just a few hours, and my clothes would not fit any better then. And as I shopped for the evening's outfit, I knew I needed decent clothing for four more events that week, and I would not be any smaller, nor would my clothes at home be any bigger. So while it was spur of the moment shopping, it was because I had just gotten a big dose of reality. I was pretty choosy about what I selected. I didn't buy anything that didn't fit right or look reasonably good on me. I didn't buy too much, considering I was buying for two seasons. (It's 70 one day, and 28 the next.) And I didn't spend too much; I was very pleased with the prices. I tried everything on at home the next morning, and returned a few pieces that I decided didn't fit quite right. And I returned them right away. That cancelled meeting was re-scheduled for today, and all I felt was HUGE RELIEF that I had something appropriate to wear, that would fit properly. So the clothing purchase is REALLY enhancing my life; I don't feel guilty about the actual clothes. >>>What I felt bad about was that I was hauling more stuff into the landfill that is my home.<<< I've tried to be careful about not bringing anything into my home. I have especially tried to be careful about not buying clothes, because I have so many. And here I was bringing in three bags of clothing! Even though I knew I really needed these clothes, I felt bad that I had not gotten rid of the old clothes first. And I was worried where I would put these clothes. So the bad feeling was about bringing more stuff into my house before getting rid of old stuff. But I did the right thing. I hung all the new stuff up in the closet, so that helped me not feel quite so bad about bringing new things in. And I did throw away some of my old clothes - not enough, but some, and that made me feel better about bringing in the new stuff, too.
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Post by angela on Feb 4, 2015 0:40:44 GMT -5
I understand dayeanu. Thanks for explaining. Glad the clothes are good and will enhance your well-being. Good job on hanging them up right away and getting rid of some of the old clothes.
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Post by dayeanu on Feb 4, 2015 1:00:17 GMT -5
I understand dayeanu. Thanks for explaining. Glad the clothes are good and will enhance your well-being. Good job on hanging them up right away and getting rid of some of the old clothes. It has been hard to accept that this is the size I am now. That it's not just a temporary fluid retention or bloat that will be gone next week. I've been holding on to the fantasy that I will be "that" size again. And in reality, I might be one day. But will I want to wear clothes that are ten years old and lying in the floor for 6 of those years? And, I need clothes to wear in the meantime.
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Post by creativechaos on Feb 4, 2015 1:11:01 GMT -5
Dayeanu, I can relate to all that you said. i need new clothes for the same reason. you have done well. my closet is stuffed. i need to purge out all the "someday when i am thinner." problem is, each time i do that, the clothes are bigger that i toss. but acceptance of where we are right now is the only way to go - whatever our size - too big, too small, too thin, too tall, etc. thanks for writing about this. i've been trying to get the courage up to purge a LOT of my clothes. i acquired a lot of fabric at the two winter quilt camps i attend every year. probably two boxes worth - one just of scraps and poundage. i started a quilt for my bed - a big squares, very simple but bright quilt. i got the squares all done but will probably not put it together til next fall. it stores easier in squares. imamess, congratulations on getting the quilt fabric and working on your quilt! i hope you will share pictures! i'm glad this thread is still going. luv, cc
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Post by angela on Feb 11, 2015 15:03:14 GMT -5
I've done some thrift store acquiring this week, good stuff! But it always is or I wouldn't buy it huh? So at the Goodwill: BRAND NEW SAS brand tri-comfort loafers in a pearly off-white color. $19. I'm so glad I found these, they fit perfectly and will be great for summer. I can TOSS the 2 pairs of off-white summer shoes I have now that are cute but worn out and have no support at all. Brown cashmere v-neck sweater, the tag was missing so the clerk gave it to me for $.99, score! At a local small thrift yesterday: A really nice mint green corduroy jacket for spring. Will replace 3 items of the same color that don't fit/are worn/never did look good. Matching earrings A BRAND NEW off-white ribbed turtleneck. A brand that is carried at the import store where I fill-in. I got it for $4, at the import store...$39. HA! At another small local thrift: A decorative plate to send to a friend An embroidered pillow sham, lovely hand-embroidered and in colors I love. Acquisitions from friend's house: I know there is a lot I haven't listed yet that has come home with me to stay. What I put into immediate use yesterday: 2 white plastic wastebaskets that have notches in the rim to hold the handles of plastic grocery bags for re-use. They replace the 2 wastebaskets that were broken/cracked. 5 galvanized trash cans 2, 2-drawer file cabinets 3 large Rubbermaid shelving units, same as those I have holding my fiber in the Little House. A carpet and upholstery shampooing machine, I can use on the floors and upholstery once I get the excess out. I know there is a lot more to report but I can't think of it just yet.
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Post by lucie on Feb 12, 2015 6:04:13 GMT -5
A new book I have ordered last week has arrived and is sitting nicely wrapped in a protective foil on the shelf: Son of Morning by Linda Howard.
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Post by jendela on Feb 15, 2015 22:19:08 GMT -5
I've done some thrift store acquiring this week, good stuff! But it always is or I wouldn't buy it huh? So at the Goodwill: BRAND NEW SAS brand tri-comfort loafers in a pearly off-white color. $19. I'm so glad I found these, they fit perfectly and will be great for summer.
Hi angela, I just wanted to say how glad I am you found these SAS shoes, and at such a great price. I love my SAS, hard to get over here, but they are one of the few brands that fit my difficult feet. Happy walking
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Post by creativechaos on Feb 16, 2015 0:00:32 GMT -5
Angela, it seems to me that your acquisitions are practical and useful, well thought, and are replacements for things that were broken or not working well. Congratulations on the life improvements! i have acquired and released stuff. i don't think i gained or lost any ground. i was part of a flea market and spent all my profits (they were small) on new acquisitions, but made my booth fee. much of my acquisitions were "unnecessary." a few were upgrades: here is what I acquired needs or upgrades: ~ a new shower curtain liner (need) ~ a narrow metal file box (a want, but sort of a need. I'm wanting to replace my plastic ones or add one more since i have 3 areas of filing with these - mainly art/quilting inspiration pictures, and one for collograph/collage images) ~ a tiny shoulder bag (need - I can no longer use large purses with my back issues.) ~ a lovely blue and white japanese eating bowl. I broke two last week, so considered it a "need" even with too many dishes. I'm using it and loving the size of it. unnecessary wants acquired: ~ fabric - two one-gallon bags of strips that I will use in quilts - solids and some black and white fabrics. Also some fabric pieces - a batik piece and some others I know I will use. (rigorous honesty here! i HATE admitting this - more fabric acquisition!) ~ a beautiful Kenyan beaded necklace. will wear; have already worn. ~ a Guatemalan crocheted bag - it's gorgeous! will use to hang somewhere on a wall and keep flat stuff like a few current folders in it so i can look at it. pillow cover - again Guatemalan, backstrap woven. it's being used already. ~ a tiny bird picture with adorable very wide "log" picture frame (frame looks like Tramp Art - very cool. I have a few items that are tramp art, which i love and use.) but where will I hang this? Still debating. something else probably will have to go; walls are all covered, "salon style." i could open a museum. ~ a small wooden box with elephant picture on lid. can use for some of my sewing notions. ~ another very nifty looking plastic bag - this one zips and will be handy for papers if i have to go to a meeting or travel with any papers. released at flea market: ~ beautiful Indian sari with metal embroidery. oh, it was haaaarrrrd. lady is going to make belly dance costume with it! ~ big piece of laminated cloth. will not use. someone else was delighted to have it. ~ box of books; various. most donated to library book sale. ~ about 50 cds - most donated to library sale ~ an old guitar I was going to mosaic, but never did. It's all sanded for someone else to refinish. put in free box. hard! ~ small quilt top someone else made but didn't finish. i won't finish either, so passed it on. ~ REALLY beautiful handblown, fluted clear vase (pangs of regret - kicking self but too late. i have many vases, and still more to release.)
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Post by lucie on Feb 16, 2015 9:29:49 GMT -5
I got another book for free. This one is a keeper, not a case of taking things for a walk.
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Post by seashell on Feb 16, 2015 12:41:39 GMT -5
At the thrift store I found a white bowl and pitcher. I thought they were just for water, but on the bottom it says that they can be used in the oven, microwave, and put in the dishwasher. Yay!
At another store, I found a beautiful (really beautiful) wreath made entirely of shells. Did I mention it's beautiful? It's really heavy, so I didn't want to hang it, in case it fell and broke. So I'm using it as my dining room table centerpiece. I put my favorite white pitcher in the middle of it. It looks great on my white tablecloth.
I will do one in, one out for these new things.
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Post by angela on Feb 17, 2015 0:17:14 GMT -5
Sounds like some wonderful finds seashell! I support your one in, one out idea.
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Post by angela on Feb 17, 2015 0:23:40 GMT -5
Thanks for sharing your list of acquisitions creativechaos. I applaud your honesty. I know it is hard to say all the things out loud. I'll just say, I have no opinion about your level of acquisition. YOU get to set the agenda for your own purchases. I am participating here as accountability, so I don't zone out, or start hiding again. I worked on putting away clothing piles today and realized, the piles in my bedroom are there because I have filled up all my clothing storage spaces. DUH! I tend to buy the same sorts of things over and over because they work for my lifestyle, which is fine, but at a certain point, need is exceeded and the items become clutter. It also doesn't help that I never did my summer to fall clothing switch over in my drawers, so my turtlenecks are competing with summer t-shirts.
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