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Post by creativechaos on Jul 29, 2017 17:25:29 GMT -5
lucie, i think i would have bought magical unicorn cards too, if i had come across them! beesnest, i hope you do wear that open knit top - especially if you like it. it sounds pretty - i'm rooting for you to wear it, and tell those insecurities where to go! have done some acquiring that i've not wanted to write about. so i won't list it all - it's too much anyway. every two weeks i go to another island with a great thrift store. i acquire while there. today i visited the annual church rummage sale and bought two big bags of stuff. i don't want to be chided for it- i feel bad enough about some of these acquisitions without someone telling me what i already know - it won't all fit, i'm self -sabotaging, blah blah blah. but since i started this thread for my own personal accountability, i will post this here today to keep myself honest and say this in full disclosure as a reminder to myself: i've been acquiring again, more is coming in than going out. these were wants. i also acquired needs like food and shaving razors and cat food. there will be more acquiring - a need. i need to buy a rebuilt computer. i am saving pennies for it, and ss owes me a last settlement, which may be my last chance to make this possible. i hope to get this done within a month. the remedy for the other kind of acquiring (wants) is to first of all, slow the acquiring down again. i really like (i think it was Di's) method of upgrading something i like more and getting rid of something i like less or use less. second, i need to commit to do the work to have more going out than in while i do my inner work with the therapist (lotta crap coming up) and work with the social worker on trying to come up with some way to have him help me with the hoard in storage that won't trigger me into the reverse of what i want to happen - anxiety and then overeating or over-buying to try to fill up this empty pit in my guts and avoid the anxiety of having to feel feelings i don't want to feel -- which does not work for the short or long run - not for a hoarder! since people are bringing up senior discounts, how about a poverty discount for all ages? i am happy to have a senior discount finally - because i am poor and all those years i was poor now i finally get a little break. but i needed it then too! the income disparity in this country and others is nothing short of obscene. there - i've said my two cents!
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Post by mylittlescholar on Aug 23, 2020 15:47:21 GMT -5
I hope its okay that I bumped this; I wanted to talk about this issue, but not on mouseanne 's new thread.
In terms of logging my acquisitions, I have a weird mix of pride/shame/embarrassment that I don't quite know what to do with. when I was deep into the scrapbooking world, I would alternate between the threads of "check out my haul!" and "support for my no-buy month." My scrapbook supply is "full," and my makeup supply is almost "full," but the clothing acquisition is fueled in part by the multi-size fluctuations in my weight. I get obsessed with a color--right now it is periwinkle--and start making capsules. I just love to put things together!
M has said she notices that in cooking, I like to build things. I was rather astonished by this observation, but it makes sense, its like I'm making little outfits of food!
I'm getting some of this need filled by organizing M's house. She's already decorated it beautifully, so can't do that here. Trying to undecorate the house we hope to sell.
I've been thinking about how to do acquire things virtually or in miniature, but these routes can be quite expensive.
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Post by creativechaos on Aug 23, 2020 16:08:58 GMT -5
hey mylittlescholar - i am going to start this over as a new thread! i don't want to take away from mouseanne's thread, because i want that to be the place where people join in, and she continually inspires me with all she creates and all she gets done - especially her using up fabrics and not buying!
but i need a place to start over with this with a different kind of thread, and that includes airing my thoughts - both positive and not so positive - - i have a lot of conflicts about acquiring. i hope you will feel free to repost this there, or allow me to quote it there. i love where your mind is taking this regarding acquiring and the ways we can look at "building" since some of us are builders. i know i am.
so of course, being a creative, you are thinking about what do we do if we have no home of our own to acquire stuff? how do we "create" while non acquiring? i love the cooking observation that M made, that you are "building" little outfits of food and i'll bet they are creative and beautiful!
i have been thinking how satisfying it is to look at the artworks of people like Andy Goldsworthy, who spends hours, days, a life - outdoors "building" ephemeral works of art with the natural things he finds... there's one way to do "acquiring" and not have to own the stuff. perhaps you can create some of your wonderful worlds with photoshop or programs like that, "virtual" worlds - that'd be so cool. maybe some vision boards would be fun to make and not take too much space.
let's keep the discussion going, while trying to desqualor and declutter. you are doing TONS of amazing work for your clients, for your friend, for your house to sell - i just think you are acquiring the life you want and are building, and so rightfully deserve!
an afterthought: i notice this thread is on the squalor board, where i think lurkers and non members can see it. i put my new thread in the members only squalor discussion board. i wonder if i should have kept it in the more "public" section? any thoughts?
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Post by mylittlescholar on Aug 23, 2020 19:20:58 GMT -5
lets do the private version, creativechaos! I look forward to joining you there!
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