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Post by onwardandupward on Oct 31, 2014 8:29:46 GMT -5
I am not married and I was not married during the worst of my clutter and clean out times. I used to think my life was harder because I didn't have someone to help me, but this thread has helped me realized that a husband during those times would not necessarily have made things easier.
I did run into issues with my children as they got older. It almost seemed like the closer I got to maintenance, the more obstacles they tended to throw in my path. I think that even though they also voiced their approval of my progress, most people have some resistance to change (some have enormous amounts of resistance), even in cases where it seems very obvious to everyone that the change is positive.
I recently started reading a book called "The Two Truths About Love" by Jason B. Fischer, MA, LPC and Sabrina Kindell, MA, LPC, LMFT. This book is VERY EASY to read, with most chapters being one page and the information presented in a very straightforward way (unlike other books that I haven't made it through because the points are obscured by too many words.) The message is very simple, has resonated with me, and has helped me a great deal in my relationships with everyone in my life. I have learned about the first of these two "truths" and applied the suggestions. I am working on reading about the second truth, and it initially seems just as helpful.
I have a hunch that this book might also be helpful to those struggling with the issues in this thread.
Praying for healing in your relationships.
Onward
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Post by desireelafleur on Oct 31, 2014 10:35:58 GMT -5
Today is not going to be a good day. I am super stressed out about events that have taken place over the last few days. I was paralyzed for a long while this morning. I have done some very minor clean-up but don't know how much I can push through...I slept like a log last night. Didn't even hear the alarm go off. DS woke up 1 minute before the bus was due...I now know that I need stronger meds...simple anxiety meds are not going to cut it. Sometimes the best thing to do is to simply go on with life as best you can. Living in squalor certainly is not going to improve the situation even though events out of my control have taken place. onwardandupward --- I read a lot of self -help books. Maybe this one will actually help. Thank you for the suggestion.
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Post by larataylor on Oct 31, 2014 11:29:13 GMT -5
Oh, dear … this sounds bad.
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Post by desireelafleur on Oct 31, 2014 11:54:21 GMT -5
Oh, dear … this sounds bad. It is bad. I spent a lot of time crying, thought I was just cried out but can still feel tears lurking. Even with the best possible resolution for the situation things will be so drastically different from now on. And of course there is always worry that could very well carry on for the foreseeable future. I think that is the worst possible thing for someone who has an anxiety disorder...the unknown and having so much out of my hands and unable to help someone I love, and questioning decisions I have made in the past. Thanks for the hug. I am sure I am going to need more.
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Post by cyn on Oct 31, 2014 14:16:20 GMT -5
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Post by desireelafleur on Oct 31, 2014 16:00:01 GMT -5
I really can't see a silver lining right now. Maybe sometime in the distant future I will be able to. Thanks for the hugs.
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Post by larataylor on Oct 31, 2014 16:21:34 GMT -5
Please take care of yourself and get your meds adjusted for the situation if that's possible. I don't know what else to say … I'm just thinking of you and trying to send you hope and strength and peace.
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Post by cyn on Nov 1, 2014 12:38:37 GMT -5
I don't want to accidentally say something hurtful and insensitive, since I don't know what your situation is. But please know that I'm also thinking of you!
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Post by onwardandupward on Nov 1, 2014 20:33:10 GMT -5
Desireelafleur,
You are in my prayers.
Onward
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Post by sue5000 on Nov 1, 2014 22:40:04 GMT -5
We care, desiree Don't give up.
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Post by lostchild on Nov 1, 2014 23:45:50 GMT -5
It will be okay,change can be painful but it always means progress!
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Post by Blackswan on Nov 2, 2014 5:23:57 GMT -5
Change waltzes in with her sister pain waiting for you to break the chains. Break the chains. Tori amos Ophelia a quote to muse on that I was reminded of by this post. But don't muse if you are busy cleaning !!! Action action action. But change has a sister lai I think that is true. You can learn to accept change. The chain is you being afraid of change. Something like that. Anyway ignore my musings or muse along and great job on cleaning and posting and taking a look at where you are and where you would like to be in your journey!
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Post by Blackswan on Nov 2, 2014 5:39:23 GMT -5
Learning so much from reading this thread.
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Post by hollyhock on Nov 2, 2014 9:31:35 GMT -5
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Post by aa on Nov 6, 2014 23:03:54 GMT -5
Just checking in to see how you are doing...
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