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Post by creativechaos on Dec 20, 2017 20:04:11 GMT -5
hang in there, shamed slob - you are not alone. if you ever want to join us as a member, you will find a great group of people here - the BEST. but it's so cool to think that people can read here and get help and feel less alone. it is so isolating to be "one of us" and think maybe there is no one else. but there is! i lurked for a year as a member of the old forum before i finally started posting. if you do nothing but read the posts, it is so helpful! so glad you are here with us in whatever capacity. there are so many inspiring people who have dug out, or are maintaining their gains while digging out, or just beginning, or stuck - it doesn't matter. this is the most unconditionally accepting group of people you will find anywhere. i just re-read the original post and it broke my heart... how many of us have and had these dreams and never realize them - and STILL that old delusional optimist plans for this "someday" life that grows ever more of a mirage with each passing year.sometimes i think it is due to the intelligence, empathy, and resourcefulness of the people in this group that they have SO many ideas and possibilities that it's hard to pick just one. so ppl get bogged down... with the trappings of these lives we want to have, and use things as a tangible connection to what seems impossible to achieve. i dunno... just musing mostly... as i may be one of the people who never "makes it" out of hoarding. this thread is always relevant. i'm glad it resurfaced. thank you snailspace once again for starting this thread. every time i read it i'm mind-blown and struck in the heart |
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Post by razy on Dec 21, 2017 0:20:39 GMT -5
I often think about this thread. When I am deciding whether or not to keep something I ask myself if it is for my real life or some life I am hoping for. I find it a good way to focus.
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Post by nonchalant on Dec 21, 2017 10:06:52 GMT -5
Sometimes it seems everything I own is for a life I don't lead.
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Post by creativechaos on Dec 25, 2017 2:21:27 GMT -5
I'm glad you're not a hoarder, H2H; i wouldn't wish that on anyone, knowing it well for a lifetime, first-hand - being one. yes, the aging thing hammers it home that we must act on reducing squalor and so many excess possessions and unfinished (or un-started) "projects." or leave a mess for someone else to clean up. kudos for doing something about it and chipping away! |
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Post by creativechaos on Dec 27, 2017 4:28:06 GMT -5
wow - what a great post, H2H - thank you so much for your encouragement, your wisdom, and your realizations, your actions... AND the great photo attachment; how beautiful! that Gerald Jampolsky quote is spot - on. i just lost a friend to suicide; it was hard. i watched him close in and his thinking get so fearful that he could not make a single step out of where he was. i have often thought of this; how getting stuck in what happened in the past (which is different from being aware of how the past shaped you but being willing to risk in the present) keeps a person in their own private helll.. this is what happened to him and it shaped his present and future into a straitjacket he could not get out of. so sad because he was wonderful and kind and thoughtful - but toward himself, he was stuck in stasis. it was sobering to realize this - that what held him down and killed him in the end was this place of being really stuck in the fear until it consumed him. he thought he was a hoarder. he saw no way out. he hated going, or being, home.  so thank you for this thoughtful and deep post, H2H - yes, let's all cheer each other on. i've been flattened before with terrible back spasms and i empathize with you - it's very wise to know your limitations and respect them. how often have we pushed through and then regretted it. you are doing really well in figuring out what you can and can't do, and i admire you greatly for all your practical know-how, skill, and creative expertise. your sweet little home really does sound like the best place for you to be! been following along and the others sound dreadful, and not "you" at all. |
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Post by creativechaos on Jul 25, 2020 18:11:02 GMT -5
bumping this important thread because it's always timely, and a reminder to us all of why we're here and hanging in...
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Post by ohblondie on Aug 3, 2020 9:18:07 GMT -5
Thanks CC - I am so guilty of this and need constant reminders
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