New here...living with a hoarder Apr 28, 2019 13:17:41 GMT -5 via mobile Unswamping, pyper5, and 1 more like this Quote Select PostDeselect PostLink to PostBack to Top Post by redcat on Apr 28, 2019 13:17:41 GMT -5 Hi, I find this site while looking for information and support about loving and living with someone who hoards. I'm not sure if that's a "pc" term but it seems to fit the situation. He can't seem to stop shopping. Getting rid of things causes great angst. Put those together and it's a situation i'm not sure I can keep living with. We're not married but have been living together for 10 years and have been a couple for 23. I love him to pieces but am afraid it won't get any better. He doesn't seem to recognize the need for help. I've told him how the situation affects me and it's like it doesn't matter, even though I know he cares. While reading some threads yesterday I started thinking the only way this is going to end without more compromise is for me to leave. That makes me incredibly sad, for both of us. I don't want to make an ultimatum but I do want to be able to talk to him, REALLY talk, and plead him to get help. I wish I could make him see that these behaviors are pushing me away. Can anyone help talk me through this?